We all talk about sex, abortion, birth control methods and stuff. But when it
comes to pregnancy, something really serious is going on. When I hear about a
girl that got pregnant and she's only 12 because she had unprotected sex due to
the fact that she was only looking for a good time, man, I just don't know what
to think. Even people who are aware of the risks are still getting pregnant, and
we are talkin about teens 15 or 16 years old and up.
I believe school has an important role on this issue. I really hate when you
just can't ask a sex question to a teacher to make your doubts go away only
because they will think you're a god damn slut or something like that. Let's
face it, adults talk about safe sex and all that stuff, but they don't know how
to prepare us and teach us.
What do you guys think? have you ever felt like that? We'll be glad to hear your
experiences and comments.
I havn't learn anything about sex education until I was in highschool
but, I know that getting a girl pregnant without marriage is truefully wrong!
Also if a young girl does get pregnant, it really sad because
now here whole life is ruin and what's worst is if that male who made
her pregnant runs off and denies if that child is his (if she decided to
give birth to it).
Males who make young girls pregnant, runs off, denies that child is his,
and does not take care of the mother and the child really pisses me off.
What pisses me off even more is if that same male makes another
young girl pregnant.
I wasnt really educated about this stuff till high school. I always knew in my
mind that sex was a bad thing...donno how but i knew. If its the girls fault for
getting pregnant, i really couldnt give a stuff ("she was only looking for
a good time"). If she was raped, then thats a different story. We should be
educated about it but lotsa people dont listen anyways...people say drugs are
bad yet lotsa people still do them. I think its the attitude that the kids/teens
are brought up with. Perhaps social pressures too...even though none of my
friends talk about this issue, i know in other 'groups' they talk about sex and
make it a big issue. I just think teen pregnancy shouldnt happen, its just wrong
in sosiety at the moment anyways.
Sex and drugs are very good things and have a useful place in society when not
abused. Both have serious life long consequences when abused. NOTHING prevents
pregnancy 100%. Even rubbers do not work all of the time. Sex and drugs are a
problem because it is very hard for someone to stop and think about consequences
when they are feeling good and haveing a good time.
thats really hard...
a frinend got his girlfriend pregnant... when she told him I was with him... -I
know were starting to have sex maybe too early.... but the talks ur parents and
the school give us should at least make us buy a comdom before doing it...-my
friend got into a depresion and all of us that were his best frinends in the way
in trying to help him we also got kind of depresed u know.. what if that happend
to us, u dont know, what can happend, so at the end they only told his
girlfriend grandma, later they told us they will go for the abortion...since
tehy dindt told their parents, we helped them, that thing costed 400(we divided
it in 5)....
so first we need to use forms to prevent pregnanci and then try to aducate
teens(well not us bacause I think its a little bite late for this generation)
about this, maybe in future generations this will stope, hopefuly.....
There are many more factors that influence how a person acts, for example
emotional distress may send a person off to do something they wouldn't normally
do as a method of coping. Then there's those that do it because of spite,
because generally pregnancy is something that those under 20 years aren't too
fond of. And then there's those people that, in spite of the education people
are given, just aren't aware of the risks in relation to them. Then there's the
influence of friends.
I grew up with a good group of friends, we looked out for each other and we all
came from families which were generally well off and as such we're all quite
normal people. However, my younger sister, who hangs out with these people whose
mere presence offends every one of my senses, is no going out and doing things I
would personally not want to know about at all.
It's easy enough to assume that people are doing this out of choice, but quite
often it's simply a reaction to another stimulus. Even those with a choice may
be making the choice based on emotional or psychological pressure.
for me.. sex is a no-no until marriage.. so for pre-martial sex.. i totally
disagree wif wat de world is tinkin now.. the world is getting more and more
evil(in my opinion) but there ar others who would oppose my view.. i dun noe how
it feels to pregnant but wat i do now is tt being pregnant at such a young age
is not good.. it breaks up ur life and ur family.. it change how others view u..
even though it is pretty common nowadays. i dare say me upbringing is quite
conservative(thanks dad) but i do also wan to have fun. but i do not go as far
as to get some chick pregnant. anw.. i do hope tt teen pregnancy will somehow be
taken fr this earth.. somehow..
well, as for nothing prevents pregnancy 100%, abstinance does, (unfortunately
i'm not sure if abstinance is spelled right). but really. it happens. however,
complaining about teachers, and adults harping about safe sex but not teaching
it or connecting it 'properly' to children really doesn't help the issue. have
you ever thought, that maybe the reason why they don't know how to help prepare
young adults and children for sex is because they were never taught either? that
their parents and teachers as well did not talk to them about it? it is tough to
learn from mistakes, and it is even tougher to learn from those mistake when
they are not obvious. i wish this post came up earlier when i was working on a
image that was suppose to depict my cultures views on sex. but i forgot what i
was getting at. oh well eh? cheers.
PMS is not a new subject it is extremely rampant that it becomes a part of
society. Personal Choice is bestowed on every single person. And, if you ask me,
the choice to "Do It" is stricly between the person and his sense of
responsibility. If you make that choice, be sure you become prepared for the
consequences of your act... And yes... I quote "Is it so damn hard to put
on "divine protection" when you actually do it?
I'm a nursing student, and I know the consequences of Cervical Cancer and
various other STD's. They are very gruesome sicknesses, if you really want to
enter into Pre Marital Sex, try reading a medical book or two to see what
consequences unprotected sexual contact can hold for you...
yes its now comene that many teenage got pregnet . I know i friend hwo got
pregnet jsut a while a go and she doesnt know what to do she realy is deprested
i what to help her but i dont know how.!
Quote by tiki223Males who make young
girls pregnant, runs off, denies that child is his,
and does not take care of the mother and the child really pisses me off.
What pisses me off even more is if that same male makes another
young girl pregnant.
These kinds of males should be shot, seriously. Having sex partners is one
thing, considering people water themselves to today's lower morals. Having sex
and getting each and every female pregnant is a different story and should be
dealt with severely. See, that's the problem these days...most females
especially after their first sexual encounter with a male and the male leaves
them end up losing their trust for all men, as if they are singling out the
whole gender just for one person's wrongdoing. It seems natural, but some guys
would completely feel offended that they are not trusted enough when it comes to
sexual encounters. See, I'm a guy who wouldn't ever leave his girlfriend no
matter what happens to her or what happens to me, and this includes pregnancy.
If you're a real man, accept your new responsibility and take care of the
kid...
Try taking it up on the Maury Show. There is absolutely no denying the birth of
the child for the one who made the female get pregnant.
Quote by tiki223Males who make young
girls pregnant, runs off, denies that child is his,
and does not take care of the mother and the child really pisses me off.
What pisses me off even more is if that same male makes another
young girl pregnant.
These kinds of males should be shot.
... See, I'm a guy who wouldn't ever leave his girlfriend no matter what happens
to her or what happens to me, and this includes pregnancy. If you're a real man,
accept your new responsibility and take care of the kid...
I agree with that, if I make a girl pregnant, then I will stay with her and
take
full responsiblity for my actions.
And yes these guy greatly deserves to be eliminate from Earth, but I think
that's being too easy on them, instead lock them up for life in a ultimate
security prison.
things like this u must learn yourself, it is quite self explanatory, not that u
must ask and not be answered, just that i do agree the people just don't teach
us enough anyway...good thing i learned a lot quicker than the other having said
having a fiorst relationship since 13 years old.
but it is something that must be considered, sex education is necessary at a
younger age, it must not be a taboo, it is what that is causing curiosity and we
all know what curiosity does to human beings, the more u do not want ppl to do
it, the more that thing in question will be done. IT is a nature.
Quote by Diamond-dreamsWe all talk
about sex, abortion, birth control methods and stuff. But when it comes to
pregnancy, something really serious is going on. When I hear about a girl that
got pregnant and she's only 12 because she had unprotected sex due to the fact
that she was only looking for a good
time, man, I just don't know what to think. Even people who are aware of
the risks are still getting pregnant, and we are talkin about teens 15 or 16
years old and up.
Therein lies the problem. While I do hold adults who take advantage of minors in
utmost contempt (after all, sex with minors are statutory rape regardless of
consent), in this case, is the male solely at fault? Perhaps feminists will want
to have my head after this but I ask you, (for the girl) having sex as a way of
looking for a good time? Now, isn't that the equivalent of putting her own head
in the guillotine, so to speak? Harsh as it may be, unless in clear cut cases of
sexual intercourse without consent (which is rape at its most basic definition)
& the evidence points to the male as the sole guilty party in both act and
intent, I hold both sexes to be at fault.
Those who are aware of the risks but still got themselvs pregnant (i.e. in cases
where both partners consent to it) have no one to blame but themselves. Their
failure: self-constraint. Here, the fault is perhaps compounded by the lack of
education but then again, I think a lot of societies now are more open to
discussing sexual issues compared to...say...20 or 30 years ago. Information can
also be gleaned and obtained from a wide variety of sources - books, the net,
understanding adults, etc. Now, when all these information are widely available,
blaming adults for not providing education is hardly an answer. In current day
& age, I would say that peer pressure plays a very large role and it appears
as if teens nowadays are ashamed if they're still a virgin at...say...16 or 17
or upwards. That plus the failure of self-constraint as I've mentioned.
Weird isn't it? They want to have sex at such early age yet they (both
male/female) blame the society afterwards when they get an unwanted pregnancy or
even saddle the society or the state itself with the responsibility of looking
after the child.
Quote: I believe school has an
important role on this issue. I really hate when you just can't ask a sex
question to a teacher to make your doubts go away only because they will think
you're a god damn slut or something like that. Let's face it, adults talk about
safe sex and all that stuff, but they don't know how to prepare us and teach
us.
Indeed, a school or perhaps teachers (with the school's blessings) should be
able to openly discuss sexual acts at early age but again, this is only an ideal
and it very much depends on the society itself. Conservative societies tend to
hold the view of sex as a taboo that should not be discussed in open/public and
a school is very much a public place. This also depends on the political will to
enable sex education to be provided in school. If the political will if of like
mind as the conservative society, I'm afraid nothing much can be done except to
either wait for the society to evolve out of that mindset or instill awareness
in the public on the need or something really, really bad happens.
However, in cases of conservative societies, they typically place a lot emphasis
on morals and respectable societal norms. That in itself can be a equally
effective as sex education i.e. holding on the taught morals that having sex at
young age or before marriage is wrong, wrong, wrong. However, if the minors
themselves do not want to adhere with those moral lessons/codes/etc. and decide
to play the adult game, what then? Again I repeat: self-restraint. If they can't
restrain their hormones, they shouldn't complain afterwards.
Quote by volrath77Those who are aware
of the risks but still got themselvs pregnant (i.e. in cases where both partners
consent to it) have no one to blame but themselves. Their failure:
self-constraint. Here, the fault is perhaps compounded by the lack of education
but then again, I think a lot of societies now are more open to discussing
sexual issues compared to...say...20 or 30 years ago. Information can also be
gleaned and obtained from a wide variety of sources - books, the net,
understanding adults, etc. Now, when all these information are widely available,
blaming adults for not providing education is hardly an answer. In current day
& age, I would say that peer pressure plays a very large role and it appears
as if teens nowadays are ashamed if they're still a virgin at...say...16 or 17
or upwards. That plus the failure of self-constraint as I've
mentioned.
Peer pressure is certainly one of the reasons why there is teen pregnancy. While
living up to today's morals, some people are often pressured into doing things
that others have brought themselves up to do. The people who have learned their
so called newfound means of handling sex and its aspects often influence others
to do something similar, such as going out to a popular place and talking to
people at random or even disregard their own morals just to be accepted by
others. Sex isn't entirely hormones as the hormones tend to be in high gear
generally within the age range of 20 to 29.
In Germany they teach you about sex in grade 1! I live in Canada now, and they
didn't start sex-ed until grade 12! And they wonder why teens are getting
pregnant... Then again, there are many young girls in Germany that get
themselves pregnant, and the age range is 10 and up, which is pretty sad,
because there whole child hood and teen years are gone.
So either way I look at it, learning about sex early or later, the outcome is
pretty much the same, the only difference is you know what your doing and
getting into if you learn early, but I guess some people just don't care.
ok, perhaps you people got me wrong. Leaving rape aside, I'm not blaming the guy
or the girl. If they decided to have sex by a free mutual agreement, then they
both have the reponsibility for their acts, this includes getting the girl
pregnant.
I'm not entirely blaming school or adults either. I know there are more causes
for which a teenager might have sex, in this case I was talking about not being
properly informed.
And I know that it also depends on how conservative a society can be, I mean, I
was shocked with Sazness' comment on German education.
I was just saying it's really sad when school which is supossed to inform and
prepare students, denies the right to make your sex doubts go away, that's all.
It also depends on the teacher, when I was in 4th grade, I had a teacher who
talked all day long about sex being as delicious as an ice cream, I mean... what
are we little kids (back then) supossed to think? she wouldn't answer our
questions though, because we were 'small', and that's just not right.
I know there are many sources of information nowadays, and I personally had to
look many places to get my answers, because some people wouldn't give them to
me. But it was my own interest what moved me into searching and findidng an
answer. I like to know myself, and since sex seems to be an important issue, I
wanted to know that part as well, as a kid I didn't understand why was that such
a big deal, and why adults wouldn't freely discuss the topic with children. But
I'm proud to say I'm open minded and can tell other people my point of view
without wanting to change anybody. I respect everybody's point of view
I agree with pre-marital sex because of sex experience. I'd not marry with a one
that doesn't fit me, but it's offtopic :P
Well, I have a friend, from the school that got pregnant months before
graduating. She, first, got really mad about everything even her friends and she
hid from everyone all 9 months. A day, she run into a friend... she got amiable
again, and she said she wants to see us again. I have not seen her a year and
three months ago but I can say it's a hard experience that changes your life.
Well, it closes sme doors but it opens others. Now she is gonna study
bacteriology. By the way, her boyfriend lives apart with her, and his family is
helping to take care of the child.
She said it's a great mistake and she feels bad with that. It's better that it
did not happen. For that, it's good to take more responsibility with sex of
course, and use condoms, pills or whatever... there are many options.
I think part of the problem is that people doesn't think, no really. There are
countries more open to sex and such, but there are still teenage pregnancy.
Maybe they are thinking: such a thing won't happen to me, or, it won't happen
the first time; even if all the risk of having unprotected sex has been
explained to them.
Still saying things like "you shouldn't have sex", "sex is
bad" and hoping that this will stop people from doing, it's totally a bad
approach. Or thinking "telling them ways of not getting pregant/STDs will
make them want to have sex" is not the right path either. People is going
to do what they want either way, so at least give them the info they would need
to avoid unwanted problems.
I agree with Kazahaya. But another bad thing is that sometimes people are too
embarassed to ask or something like that because they think other people would
assume tha they already have sex and that's "wrong", or that they want
to have sex, or they just have morbid minds, which I find totally unacceptable.
I believe people should find their way out and get informed if they wish to do
so, some people won't really listen to you or be willing to help you, but lots
of info you may find in books, the internet, asking someone who you trust, and
that kind of stuff. People shouldn't listen to bad comments and should do what
they think it's best. (obviously, I'm assuming the person has a notion of what
he/she's doing, if he/she just wants to experience "how does it feel",
then I think we have a problem)
When it comes to sex and getting pregnant it is quite simple...don't do it. Now
the guy will make you feel all bad because you said no and he may even get angry
but remember it doesn't make you any less of a person for saying no. If you need
better fodder than that just think of your life at 16 or 17 with a kid...it's
not fun at all. Having sex doesn't make you a woman or a man or anything like
that it just puts you in more risks of getting pregnant or getting some STD. Now
I'm 24 and am still a virgin and will remain so for the rest of my life but I
have never looked down on myself because of that. Giving into the pressure of
having sex and also doing drugs is really a weakness in my eyes. If you make a
promise then you have to stick with it. I
promised a long time ago ever to smoke, drink, or do drugs I also made the
promise that I wouldn't have sex until after I'm married and I have held onto
that. No one is worth giving up your self worth. (Nods)
We all talk about sex, abortion, birth control methods and stuff. But when it comes to pregnancy, something really serious is going on. When I hear about a girl that got pregnant and she's only 12 because she had unprotected sex due to the fact that she was only looking for a good time, man, I just don't know what to think. Even people who are aware of the risks are still getting pregnant, and we are talkin about teens 15 or 16 years old and up.
I believe school has an important role on this issue. I really hate when you just can't ask a sex question to a teacher to make your doubts go away only because they will think you're a god damn slut or something like that. Let's face it, adults talk about safe sex and all that stuff, but they don't know how to prepare us and teach us.
What do you guys think? have you ever felt like that? We'll be glad to hear your experiences and comments.
I havn't learn anything about sex education until I was in highschool
but, I know that getting a girl pregnant without marriage is truefully wrong!
Also if a young girl does get pregnant, it really sad because
now here whole life is ruin and what's worst is if that male who made
her pregnant runs off and denies if that child is his (if she decided to
give birth to it).
Males who make young girls pregnant, runs off, denies that child is his,
and does not take care of the mother and the child really pisses me off.
What pisses me off even more is if that same male makes another
young girl pregnant.
is it that hard to use a prophylactic?! jeeze. .. its almost like not turning your cell phone off during school
I wasnt really educated about this stuff till high school. I always knew in my mind that sex was a bad thing...donno how but i knew. If its the girls fault for getting pregnant, i really couldnt give a stuff ("she was only looking for a good time"). If she was raped, then thats a different story. We should be educated about it but lotsa people dont listen anyways...people say drugs are bad yet lotsa people still do them. I think its the attitude that the kids/teens are brought up with. Perhaps social pressures too...even though none of my friends talk about this issue, i know in other 'groups' they talk about sex and make it a big issue. I just think teen pregnancy shouldnt happen, its just wrong in sosiety at the moment anyways.
actually, come to think about it, teenage pregnancy isnt solely the male's fault (unless of course he raped the girl in question)
oddly enough, the girl could have raped the guy (yes, there have been actual cases of that)
Sex and drugs are very good things and have a useful place in society when not abused. Both have serious life long consequences when abused. NOTHING prevents pregnancy 100%. Even rubbers do not work all of the time. Sex and drugs are a problem because it is very hard for someone to stop and think about consequences when they are feeling good and haveing a good time.
which is exactly why all those horny people should pleasure themselves and wait until they're older to have sex
thats really hard...
a frinend got his girlfriend pregnant... when she told him I was with him... -I know were starting to have sex maybe too early.... but the talks ur parents and the school give us should at least make us buy a comdom before doing it...-my friend got into a depresion and all of us that were his best frinends in the way in trying to help him we also got kind of depresed u know.. what if that happend to us, u dont know, what can happend, so at the end they only told his girlfriend grandma, later they told us they will go for the abortion...since tehy dindt told their parents, we helped them, that thing costed 400(we divided it in 5)....
so first we need to use forms to prevent pregnanci and then try to aducate teens(well not us bacause I think its a little bite late for this generation) about this, maybe in future generations this will stope, hopefuly.....
There are many more factors that influence how a person acts, for example emotional distress may send a person off to do something they wouldn't normally do as a method of coping. Then there's those that do it because of spite, because generally pregnancy is something that those under 20 years aren't too fond of. And then there's those people that, in spite of the education people are given, just aren't aware of the risks in relation to them. Then there's the influence of friends.
I grew up with a good group of friends, we looked out for each other and we all came from families which were generally well off and as such we're all quite normal people. However, my younger sister, who hangs out with these people whose mere presence offends every one of my senses, is no going out and doing things I would personally not want to know about at all.
It's easy enough to assume that people are doing this out of choice, but quite often it's simply a reaction to another stimulus. Even those with a choice may be making the choice based on emotional or psychological pressure.
for me.. sex is a no-no until marriage.. so for pre-martial sex.. i totally disagree wif wat de world is tinkin now.. the world is getting more and more evil(in my opinion) but there ar others who would oppose my view.. i dun noe how it feels to pregnant but wat i do now is tt being pregnant at such a young age is not good.. it breaks up ur life and ur family.. it change how others view u.. even though it is pretty common nowadays. i dare say me upbringing is quite conservative(thanks dad) but i do also wan to have fun. but i do not go as far as to get some chick pregnant. anw.. i do hope tt teen pregnancy will somehow be taken fr this earth.. somehow..
well, as for nothing prevents pregnancy 100%, abstinance does, (unfortunately i'm not sure if abstinance is spelled right). but really. it happens. however, complaining about teachers, and adults harping about safe sex but not teaching it or connecting it 'properly' to children really doesn't help the issue. have you ever thought, that maybe the reason why they don't know how to help prepare young adults and children for sex is because they were never taught either? that their parents and teachers as well did not talk to them about it? it is tough to learn from mistakes, and it is even tougher to learn from those mistake when they are not obvious. i wish this post came up earlier when i was working on a image that was suppose to depict my cultures views on sex. but i forgot what i was getting at. oh well eh? cheers.
PMS is not a new subject it is extremely rampant that it becomes a part of society. Personal Choice is bestowed on every single person. And, if you ask me, the choice to "Do It" is stricly between the person and his sense of responsibility. If you make that choice, be sure you become prepared for the consequences of your act... And yes... I quote "Is it so damn hard to put on "divine protection" when you actually do it?
I'm a nursing student, and I know the consequences of Cervical Cancer and various other STD's. They are very gruesome sicknesses, if you really want to enter into Pre Marital Sex, try reading a medical book or two to see what consequences unprotected sexual contact can hold for you...
yes its now comene that many teenage got pregnet . I know i friend hwo got pregnet jsut a while a go and she doesnt know what to do she realy is deprested i what to help her but i dont know how.!
These kinds of males should be shot, seriously. Having sex partners is one thing, considering people water themselves to today's lower morals. Having sex and getting each and every female pregnant is a different story and should be dealt with severely. See, that's the problem these days...most females especially after their first sexual encounter with a male and the male leaves them end up losing their trust for all men, as if they are singling out the whole gender just for one person's wrongdoing. It seems natural, but some guys would completely feel offended that they are not trusted enough when it comes to sexual encounters. See, I'm a guy who wouldn't ever leave his girlfriend no matter what happens to her or what happens to me, and this includes pregnancy. If you're a real man, accept your new responsibility and take care of the kid...
Try taking it up on the Maury Show. There is absolutely no denying the birth of the child for the one who made the female get pregnant.
I agree with that, if I make a girl pregnant, then I will stay with her and take
full responsiblity for my actions.
And yes these guy greatly deserves to be eliminate from Earth, but I think
that's being too easy on them, instead lock them up for life in a ultimate security prison.
things like this u must learn yourself, it is quite self explanatory, not that u must ask and not be answered, just that i do agree the people just don't teach us enough anyway...good thing i learned a lot quicker than the other having said having a fiorst relationship since 13 years old.
but it is something that must be considered, sex education is necessary at a younger age, it must not be a taboo, it is what that is causing curiosity and we all know what curiosity does to human beings, the more u do not want ppl to do it, the more that thing in question will be done. IT is a nature.
Therein lies the problem. While I do hold adults who take advantage of minors in utmost contempt (after all, sex with minors are statutory rape regardless of consent), in this case, is the male solely at fault? Perhaps feminists will want to have my head after this but I ask you, (for the girl) having sex as a way of looking for a good time? Now, isn't that the equivalent of putting her own head in the guillotine, so to speak? Harsh as it may be, unless in clear cut cases of sexual intercourse without consent (which is rape at its most basic definition) & the evidence points to the male as the sole guilty party in both act and intent, I hold both sexes to be at fault.
Those who are aware of the risks but still got themselvs pregnant (i.e. in cases where both partners consent to it) have no one to blame but themselves. Their failure: self-constraint. Here, the fault is perhaps compounded by the lack of education but then again, I think a lot of societies now are more open to discussing sexual issues compared to...say...20 or 30 years ago. Information can also be gleaned and obtained from a wide variety of sources - books, the net, understanding adults, etc. Now, when all these information are widely available, blaming adults for not providing education is hardly an answer. In current day & age, I would say that peer pressure plays a very large role and it appears as if teens nowadays are ashamed if they're still a virgin at...say...16 or 17 or upwards. That plus the failure of self-constraint as I've mentioned.
Weird isn't it? They want to have sex at such early age yet they (both male/female) blame the society afterwards when they get an unwanted pregnancy or even saddle the society or the state itself with the responsibility of looking after the child.
Indeed, a school or perhaps teachers (with the school's blessings) should be able to openly discuss sexual acts at early age but again, this is only an ideal and it very much depends on the society itself. Conservative societies tend to hold the view of sex as a taboo that should not be discussed in open/public and a school is very much a public place. This also depends on the political will to enable sex education to be provided in school. If the political will if of like mind as the conservative society, I'm afraid nothing much can be done except to either wait for the society to evolve out of that mindset or instill awareness in the public on the need or something really, really bad happens.
However, in cases of conservative societies, they typically place a lot emphasis on morals and respectable societal norms. That in itself can be a equally effective as sex education i.e. holding on the taught morals that having sex at young age or before marriage is wrong, wrong, wrong. However, if the minors themselves do not want to adhere with those moral lessons/codes/etc. and decide to play the adult game, what then? Again I repeat: self-restraint. If they can't restrain their hormones, they shouldn't complain afterwards.
There. That's my 2c.
Peer pressure is certainly one of the reasons why there is teen pregnancy. While living up to today's morals, some people are often pressured into doing things that others have brought themselves up to do. The people who have learned their so called newfound means of handling sex and its aspects often influence others to do something similar, such as going out to a popular place and talking to people at random or even disregard their own morals just to be accepted by others. Sex isn't entirely hormones as the hormones tend to be in high gear generally within the age range of 20 to 29.
In Germany they teach you about sex in grade 1! I live in Canada now, and they didn't start sex-ed until grade 12! And they wonder why teens are getting pregnant... Then again, there are many young girls in Germany that get themselves pregnant, and the age range is 10 and up, which is pretty sad, because there whole child hood and teen years are gone.
So either way I look at it, learning about sex early or later, the outcome is pretty much the same, the only difference is you know what your doing and getting into if you learn early, but I guess some people just don't care.
ok, perhaps you people got me wrong. Leaving rape aside, I'm not blaming the guy or the girl. If they decided to have sex by a free mutual agreement, then they both have the reponsibility for their acts, this includes getting the girl pregnant.
I'm not entirely blaming school or adults either. I know there are more causes for which a teenager might have sex, in this case I was talking about not being properly informed.
And I know that it also depends on how conservative a society can be, I mean, I was shocked with Sazness' comment on German education.
I was just saying it's really sad when school which is supossed to inform and prepare students, denies the right to make your sex doubts go away, that's all. It also depends on the teacher, when I was in 4th grade, I had a teacher who talked all day long about sex being as delicious as an ice cream, I mean... what are we little kids (back then) supossed to think? she wouldn't answer our questions though, because we were 'small', and that's just not right.
I know there are many sources of information nowadays, and I personally had to look many places to get my answers, because some people wouldn't give them to me. But it was my own interest what moved me into searching and findidng an answer. I like to know myself, and since sex seems to be an important issue, I wanted to know that part as well, as a kid I didn't understand why was that such a big deal, and why adults wouldn't freely discuss the topic with children. But I'm proud to say I'm open minded and can tell other people my point of view without wanting to change anybody. I respect everybody's point of view
I agree with pre-marital sex because of sex experience. I'd not marry with a one that doesn't fit me, but it's offtopic :P
Well, I have a friend, from the school that got pregnant months before graduating. She, first, got really mad about everything even her friends and she hid from everyone all 9 months. A day, she run into a friend... she got amiable again, and she said she wants to see us again. I have not seen her a year and three months ago but I can say it's a hard experience that changes your life. Well, it closes sme doors but it opens others. Now she is gonna study bacteriology. By the way, her boyfriend lives apart with her, and his family is helping to take care of the child.
She said it's a great mistake and she feels bad with that. It's better that it did not happen. For that, it's good to take more responsibility with sex of course, and use condoms, pills or whatever... there are many options.
I think part of the problem is that people doesn't think, no really. There are countries more open to sex and such, but there are still teenage pregnancy. Maybe they are thinking: such a thing won't happen to me, or, it won't happen the first time; even if all the risk of having unprotected sex has been explained to them.
Still saying things like "you shouldn't have sex", "sex is bad" and hoping that this will stop people from doing, it's totally a bad approach. Or thinking "telling them ways of not getting pregant/STDs will make them want to have sex" is not the right path either. People is going to do what they want either way, so at least give them the info they would need to avoid unwanted problems.
I agree with Kazahaya. But another bad thing is that sometimes people are too embarassed to ask or something like that because they think other people would assume tha they already have sex and that's "wrong", or that they want to have sex, or they just have morbid minds, which I find totally unacceptable.
I believe people should find their way out and get informed if they wish to do so, some people won't really listen to you or be willing to help you, but lots of info you may find in books, the internet, asking someone who you trust, and that kind of stuff. People shouldn't listen to bad comments and should do what they think it's best. (obviously, I'm assuming the person has a notion of what he/she's doing, if he/she just wants to experience "how does it feel", then I think we have a problem)
When it comes to sex and getting pregnant it is quite simple...don't do it. Now the guy will make you feel all bad because you said no and he may even get angry but remember it doesn't make you any less of a person for saying no. If you need better fodder than that just think of your life at 16 or 17 with a kid...it's not fun at all. Having sex doesn't make you a woman or a man or anything like that it just puts you in more risks of getting pregnant or getting some STD. Now I'm 24 and am still a virgin and will remain so for the rest of my life but I have never looked down on myself because of that. Giving into the pressure of having sex and also doing drugs is really a weakness in my eyes. If you make a promise then you have to stick with it. I promised a long time ago ever to smoke, drink, or do drugs I also made the promise that I wouldn't have sex until after I'm married and I have held onto that. No one is worth giving up your self worth. (Nods)