And I mean EVERYONE. Even my own family (well, i hated them before they hated
me, and they still don't know it) hates me. Now most if not all of my friends
aren't on speaking terms with me.
Seems to me that none of them understand... none of them are willing to understand... none of them ever
will...
As if it weren't enough that I hated myself more than anything else...
I understand how you are feeling.It is really unbearable to know that your
family and even your friends don't understand you.I would feel the same like
you.If I were in your shoes,I would conversate with my parents,tell them my
problems and reach to a conclusion.Of course,If they are willing to talk to
you.I reallly feel sorry for you,to know that everyone you know is turned
against you and not only hate you,but also make you hate yourself.That's awful!
well, to put it in simple terms: if somebody hates you this person has a reason
to do so. i dont know what the reason is, because i do not know you but i'm sure
that there is something you are "hiding" from us. if you really want
to talk about it then do so, but do not expect people to understand you if you
are not willing to talk.
... so if you really have the need to talk either write it in here or feel free
enough to send me an email.
....I agree with all joo ppls. But in my opinon you should just shoot them
all... *Crazy.* Anyway on serious terms, I would take Kikki-chan's advice and
taclk to everyone, find out "why" they do not wish to speak with you
and stuff. *Shrugs.* (Still I would kill 'em all! )
Quote by GOMFwell, to put it in simple
terms: if somebody hates you this person has a reason to do so. i dont know what
the reason is, because i do not know you but i'm sure that there is something
you are "hiding" from us. if you really want to talk about it then do
so, but do not expect people to understand you if you are not willing to talk.
I agree with this. People don't hate randomly. People might dislike you, but if
somebody hates you, you must have done something wrong. It goes beyond the whole
"they don't understand me" stuff.
My 2 cents... Hate breeds hate, and the only person whose feelings you can
really change are your own. Try losing the hate and you might find that those
around you will start to do the same. I agree with Kikki-chan and
Inuhanyoumiko5, talking will probably help.
err... maybe you should have some flashbacks... yeah i ever experienced that
too, and i recalled my mind... what've i done to them... even if you didn't find
it. why don't you ask them? adding an apology inside it is the best. because
these:
if you have mistakes to them, they'll forgive you
if you haven't done anything bad, they will apologize to you.
Don't do that! don't hate yourself. Thats the worst thing you can ever do. no
matter if evryone hates you or not. If you hate yourself, then, who wont? We
have to love, accept and RESPECT ourselves to be love, accepted and respected
from others.
I don't know think your family hates you. Actually, i don't know anything about
your family, but i dont think the hate you. Family can become anoying sometimes,
but you must think about, that maybe it could be your fault too, or at least,
it's all in your head.
I'm not telling you that you're crazy or something, but analize it. About your
friend.... Is there any reason why they are not talking to you? are you sure you
haven't done anything to them?
I dont think they started acting funny just because they felt like doing it.
Please, dont misunderstand my words.
oh man... so I guess you really feel like in the dumps..
man I gotta tell ya... don't hate yourself. the thing is that times like this
will past and just know this... that in the end, that they are your parents,
even if you say they hate you I'm sure it shouldnt be that bad. Even through I
dont know your full situations, you should tries to talk it over with your
family.. because it could maybe be your part of ur fault too, or it's just in
your mind.
And well if u feel friends dont trust you and stuff. I gotta say that time to
look deep in yourself and see are they realy your friends. or are they a bunch
of jokers. Something that I live by which I gotta put it as it is.. "those
who help you success are your friends but those who bring a person's downfall is
also from friends..."
You need to really analize whats going on really before start thinking ppl are
against you bubby.. cause the world is a lonely place and the last place you
need is feeling being hated when its only miscommunitation or over think
it.
Please I hope you are not misunderstanding my words... I'm just trying to help.
Oh... I know why they hate me, alright... It's simply because I am who I am... I
have reached the conclusion that most people (that I know) won't be happy with
things the way they are, and won't be satisfied unless they have changed things
to the way they see fit...
There's the problem... I don't change simply for other people just because they
want to... It's silly to me.. and against my principles...
Oh, and about the 'talk to them' suggestions, I tried, but all they did was look
up, stare, then continue what they did... Trust me, it's no use talking to
them... They actually took my guitar and hid it... and i wasn't the only one
with a guitar that day...
Dont give them the satisfaction. dont let them see that it p*sses u off!
you think that pople like them are not worth it at all. therefore, if they dont
want to talk to you! its better! try to keep that annoying people away from you.
even if you are left alone... its better than being with jerks!
What weird friends/parents.
Your story is so sad .....
That's why I don't make any close
friends.
I'll b ur friend ritsan ........
Well I don't hav any advice bcause I don't know what kinda advice to give you at
your situation.
Just hold on and hope everyone will change their minds about u I guess.....
why hate yourself?
do you like that feeling of hating yourself?
adding salt to the wound will only make it worse. chill and think for a moment
what you wanted to do. Know that you are young, there is far more for you to
explore, if your parents and those friends hate you, forget them, u don't need
those because real friends are those who will not do that to you. and besides
how do you define they hate you? like how? you much first explain that.
i agree with everyone who had posted before me...firstly, people won't hate you
for no reason. maybe there's just some misunderstanding, and you should try to
sort it out. talk to your friends, and parents, and if they continue to hate
without any reason, then you should just forget about them, for people who hate
people for no reason is just not worth knowing. and most importantly, don't hate
yourself >< whatever happens, i wish you all the best rit-san
Maybe I should stop calling you a horse in the chatlounge
Ah, but seriously why do they hate you? Did you do something to hurt them? It's
pretty hard to console/sympathise you if we don't know what the problem is.
Chin up.
Better days will come my lovable, edible horse
Quote by Devildudebecause real friends
are those who will not do that to you. and besides how do you define they hate
you? like how? you much first explain that.
Well, I definitely know my family hate me, they glare instead of look at me...
And my 'friends' (aquaintences, more like) aren't talking to me for one; two:
they stay clear of me; three: I heard a distinct "B***Sh*t" and
"A**H*l*" on two different times i entered the room..
And finally, you can just feel
it...
---edit---
Oh, and btw, i hate myself to begin with.. i always have.. nothing to do with
them hating me..
What is happening to you reminds me of Karekano! you know, when all the girls
stop talking to yukino... but it was because they were all wrong. maybe you did
that they misunderstood it and thats why they hate you, or maybe you did
something to someone and they all are making pay for that... or maybe is al my
head.. O.o
Well, but what is it quite sure is that you have to love yourself to be love in
return, as i said b4... and ignore them! Anyway, there will always be a light at
the end of the tunnel!
Okay... just don't become one of those freakish people who wear black all the
time and hate their lives (no offense meant to people who wear black because
they like black). Then I'll have to hate you too. =P
As for my advice, you can only try to understand the problem. If you figure out
how to fix it, that's good. If not, "life goes on". Just make sure to
try in school so you can get a good job and support yourself. You may want to
try talking with a counselor if you still have this problem.
And as for hating yourself, that's just stupid. Just try to become what you want
and do what you think is best and you won't hate yourself. It is completely
illogical to hate one's self.
Its really sad to hear those stuff from you rituel. I know how it is, but im not
even close in your situation. I got my family, but all my friends totally
ignores me, and they wont even listen to me when im going to say what I think
about them. But when its about your family, you should talk to them. Its f******
awful that even your family is doing this. Having a conversation to them cant be
so hard, or is it? If they wont listen to you just ignore them. They dont
deserve a nice person like you. They can just go to h**l. I usually dont say
stuff like this, but when someone are in this situation I just have to. Letting
a person suffer in so many ways is wrong. They dont just understand how you are,
and they are not even willing to listen to you. Thats not how you should be
treated. Hating yourself doesnt make it better. Think that the others are not
better persons than you. And I know that they arent.
But you still got us. Even if you cant see us, you know that we are here for
you. We are trying to help you in so many ways, and that is so much better than
your family and your so called "friends". If the persons around you
cant understand your situation, but we can, something is wrong in the world. But
we are still going to help you.
Im here for you, and probably more than just me. Good luck rituel, I hope they
will understand... (btw, I am not even close to hate you ^^)
Quote by Devildudebecause real friends
are those who will not do that to you. and besides how do you define they hate
you? like how? you much first explain that.
Well, I definitely know my family hate me, they glare instead of look at me...
And my 'friends' (aquaintences, more like) aren't talking to me for one; two:
they stay clear of me; three: I heard a distinct "B***Sh*t" and
"A**H*l*" on two different times i entered the room..
And finally, you can just feel
it...
---edit---
Oh, and btw, i hate myself to begin with.. i always have.. nothing to do with
them hating me..
it is really sad to hear that about you... it's not me who experience it... but
my cousin. my cousin is hated by my big family. everybody in my big family said
that "he's crazy! (well... because he yelled and showed no respect to his
mother and his (and my) auntie who had risen him up for 30 years)" and i
sometimes take my pity on him.
i DID agree to you that i shall not change myself. because if i change myself
i'm not the way i am. but i asked everybody surround me whom i trusted and i
changed my pov, that i may change as long as it's on positive way. why not?
life isn't as steady as you think rituel,... and you can't steady like the way
you are... try to ask them "what do you want me to be?" (don't ever
begin it with "i need a talk to you,...") just spit it out! and try to
change yourself step by step. i believe that no parents hate their child.
(yes... sometimes we argue with them... i had to admit that). they must be feel
hurt when you're arguing with them (in fact, you're also feel hurt too, right?).
i believe that many argues is because of misunderstanding.
what do you think one of your behaoviour that your family hate from you? (maybe
you're lazy, or... you couldn't tidy up your room, he hehheheh,... sorry... just
trying to break the ice in here...) just change simple things like that won't
affect the whole you are, right? and yet, the effect is quite big. ^_^ trust me
(coz that happen to me ^_^ erm... not really that they hate me but i felt like
i'm not worthy in front of their eyes, it's quite different i think...) well...
i think that's all...
YOU CAN PROVE TO THEM THAT YOU'RE WORTHY TO BE LOVED BY THEM! I BELIEVE THAT!
rituel, even if people surrounds you hate you, you will always have friends in
here... that's what internet use for, isn't it (internet has different meanings
to me... he heh)?
And I mean EVERYONE. Even my own family (well, i hated them before they hated me, and they still don't know it) hates me. Now most if not all of my friends aren't on speaking terms with me.
Seems to me that none of them understand... none of them are willing to understand... none of them ever will...
As if it weren't enough that I hated myself more than anything else...
I understand how you are feeling.It is really unbearable to know that your family and even your friends don't understand you.I would feel the same like you.If I were in your shoes,I would conversate with my parents,tell them my problems and reach to a conclusion.Of course,If they are willing to talk to you.I reallly feel sorry for you,to know that everyone you know is turned against you and not only hate you,but also make you hate yourself.That's awful!
well, to put it in simple terms: if somebody hates you this person has a reason to do so. i dont know what the reason is, because i do not know you but i'm sure that there is something you are "hiding" from us. if you really want to talk about it then do so, but do not expect people to understand you if you are not willing to talk.
... so if you really have the need to talk either write it in here or feel free enough to send me an email.
....I agree with all joo ppls. But in my opinon you should just shoot them all... *Crazy.* Anyway on serious terms, I would take Kikki-chan's advice and taclk to everyone, find out "why" they do not wish to speak with you and stuff. *Shrugs.* (Still I would kill 'em all!
)
I agree with this. People don't hate randomly. People might dislike you, but if somebody hates you, you must have done something wrong. It goes beyond the whole "they don't understand me" stuff.
My 2 cents... Hate breeds hate, and the only person whose feelings you can really change are your own. Try losing the hate and you might find that those around you will start to do the same. I agree with Kikki-chan and Inuhanyoumiko5, talking will probably help.
There has to be a reason why they hate you. I agree with all the postees above me. Talk it out, hon. Hope it goes well for you! ^__^
err... maybe you should have some flashbacks... yeah i ever experienced that too, and i recalled my mind... what've i done to them... even if you didn't find it. why don't you ask them? adding an apology inside it is the best. because these:
if you have mistakes to them, they'll forgive you
if you haven't done anything bad, they will apologize to you.
i know it's hard. but worth a try.
Don't do that! don't hate yourself. Thats the worst thing you can ever do. no matter if evryone hates you or not. If you hate yourself, then, who wont? We have to love, accept and RESPECT ourselves to be love, accepted and respected from others.
I don't know think your family hates you. Actually, i don't know anything about your family, but i dont think the hate you. Family can become anoying sometimes, but you must think about, that maybe it could be your fault too, or at least, it's all in your head.
I'm not telling you that you're crazy or something, but analize it. About your friend.... Is there any reason why they are not talking to you? are you sure you haven't done anything to them?
I dont think they started acting funny just because they felt like doing it.
Please, dont misunderstand my words.
oh man... so I guess you really feel like in the dumps..
man I gotta tell ya... don't hate yourself. the thing is that times like this will past and just know this... that in the end, that they are your parents, even if you say they hate you I'm sure it shouldnt be that bad. Even through I dont know your full situations, you should tries to talk it over with your family.. because it could maybe be your part of ur fault too, or it's just in your mind.
And well if u feel friends dont trust you and stuff. I gotta say that time to look deep in yourself and see are they realy your friends. or are they a bunch of jokers. Something that I live by which I gotta put it as it is.. "those who help you success are your friends but those who bring a person's downfall is also from friends..."
You need to really analize whats going on really before start thinking ppl are against you bubby.. cause the world is a lonely place and the last place you need is feeling being hated when its only miscommunitation or over think it.
Please I hope you are not misunderstanding my words... I'm just trying to help.
Oh... I know why they hate me, alright... It's simply because I am who I am... I have reached the conclusion that most people (that I know) won't be happy with things the way they are, and won't be satisfied unless they have changed things to the way they see fit...
There's the problem... I don't change simply for other people just because they want to... It's silly to me.. and against my principles...
Oh, and about the 'talk to them' suggestions, I tried, but all they did was look up, stare, then continue what they did... Trust me, it's no use talking to them... They actually took my guitar and hid it... and i wasn't the only one with a guitar that day...
Dont give them the satisfaction. dont let them see that it p*sses u off!
you think that pople like them are not worth it at all. therefore, if they dont want to talk to you! its better! try to keep that annoying people away from you. even if you are left alone... its better than being with jerks!
What weird friends/parents.
.....
........
Your story is so sad
That's why I don't make any close friends.
I'll b ur friend ritsan
Well I don't hav any advice bcause I don't know what kinda advice to give you at your situation.
Just hold on and hope everyone will change their minds about u I guess.....
why hate yourself?
do you like that feeling of hating yourself?
adding salt to the wound will only make it worse. chill and think for a moment what you wanted to do. Know that you are young, there is far more for you to explore, if your parents and those friends hate you, forget them, u don't need those because real friends are those who will not do that to you. and besides how do you define they hate you? like how? you much first explain that.
i agree with everyone who had posted before me...firstly, people won't hate you for no reason. maybe there's just some misunderstanding, and you should try to sort it out. talk to your friends, and parents, and if they continue to hate without any reason, then you should just forget about them, for people who hate people for no reason is just not worth knowing. and most importantly, don't hate yourself >< whatever happens, i wish you all the best rit-san
Maybe I should stop calling you a horse in the chatlounge
Ah, but seriously why do they hate you? Did you do something to hurt them? It's pretty hard to console/sympathise you if we don't know what the problem is.
Chin up.
Better days will come my lovable, edible horse
Well, I definitely know my family hate me, they glare instead of look at me... And my 'friends' (aquaintences, more like) aren't talking to me for one; two: they stay clear of me; three: I heard a distinct "B***Sh*t" and "A**H*l*" on two different times i entered the room..
And finally, you can just feel it...
---edit---
Oh, and btw, i hate myself to begin with.. i always have.. nothing to do with them hating me..
love yourself first. I know from experience that self-hatred doesn't help matters much.
if they hate you, it's time for new friends...can't do much about getting a new family though.
if you wan't others to like you, you must first like yourself. the sentence just fits in.
What is happening to you reminds me of Karekano! you know, when all the girls stop talking to yukino... but it was because they were all wrong. maybe you did that they misunderstood it and thats why they hate you, or maybe you did something to someone and they all are making pay for that... or maybe is al my head.. O.o
Well, but what is it quite sure is that you have to love yourself to be love in return, as i said b4... and ignore them! Anyway, there will always be a light at the end of the tunnel!
Okay... just don't become one of those freakish people who wear black all the time and hate their lives (no offense meant to people who wear black because they like black). Then I'll have to hate you too. =P
As for my advice, you can only try to understand the problem. If you figure out how to fix it, that's good. If not, "life goes on". Just make sure to try in school so you can get a good job and support yourself. You may want to try talking with a counselor if you still have this problem.
And as for hating yourself, that's just stupid. Just try to become what you want and do what you think is best and you won't hate yourself. It is completely illogical to hate one's self.
i understand some of what you feel. i wont ever hate you . the main reason i dont know you so i cant hate you!
Its really sad to hear those stuff from you rituel. I know how it is, but im not even close in your situation. I got my family, but all my friends totally ignores me, and they wont even listen to me when im going to say what I think about them. But when its about your family, you should talk to them. Its f****** awful that even your family is doing this. Having a conversation to them cant be so hard, or is it? If they wont listen to you just ignore them. They dont deserve a nice person like you. They can just go to h**l. I usually dont say stuff like this, but when someone are in this situation I just have to. Letting a person suffer in so many ways is wrong. They dont just understand how you are, and they are not even willing to listen to you. Thats not how you should be treated. Hating yourself doesnt make it better. Think that the others are not better persons than you. And I know that they arent.
But you still got us. Even if you cant see us, you know that we are here for you. We are trying to help you in so many ways, and that is so much better than your family and your so called "friends". If the persons around you cant understand your situation, but we can, something is wrong in the world. But we are still going to help you.
Im here for you, and probably more than just me. Good luck rituel, I hope they will understand... (btw, I am not even close to hate you ^^)
it is really sad to hear that about you... it's not me who experience it... but my cousin. my cousin is hated by my big family. everybody in my big family said that "he's crazy! (well... because he yelled and showed no respect to his mother and his (and my) auntie who had risen him up for 30 years)" and i sometimes take my pity on him.
i DID agree to you that i shall not change myself. because if i change myself i'm not the way i am. but i asked everybody surround me whom i trusted and i changed my pov, that i may change as long as it's on positive way. why not?
life isn't as steady as you think rituel,... and you can't steady like the way you are... try to ask them "what do you want me to be?" (don't ever begin it with "i need a talk to you,...") just spit it out!
and try to
change yourself step by step. i believe that no parents hate their child.
(yes... sometimes we argue with them... i had to admit that). they must be feel
hurt when you're arguing with them (in fact, you're also feel hurt too, right?).
i believe that many argues is because of misunderstanding.
what do you think one of your behaoviour that your family hate from you? (maybe you're lazy, or... you couldn't tidy up your room, he hehheheh,... sorry... just trying to break the ice in here...) just change simple things like that won't affect the whole you are, right? and yet, the effect is quite big. ^_^ trust me (coz that happen to me ^_^ erm... not really that they hate me but i felt like i'm not worthy in front of their eyes, it's quite different i think...) well... i think that's all...
YOU CAN PROVE TO THEM THAT YOU'RE WORTHY TO BE LOVED BY THEM! I BELIEVE THAT! rituel, even if people surrounds you hate you, you will always have friends in here... that's what internet use for, isn't it (internet has different meanings to me... he heh)?