Hi!Here I am once again to ask for help on my never-ending love problems!

Here goes....

I met a guy who's really cute and pretty nice. My friend(let's name her Angel) likes him too and we enjoyed the fact that we both like this guy. But Angel had liked this guy for 4 years while on my case, I liked him for only 2 years.
The time came when the guy(let's name him John) courted me. I was shocked but I went along. But before that, I asked permission from Angel. She said it was okay, although I know that she's hurting coz she really really loved John. I tried to force the truth from her but she insisted that she's okay and that's the truth. That's why I went along with John's courting though I havent said YES yet. And now, Angel's friends(who happens to be my "friends" too) got really mad at me. They began to backstab me and talk about loads of mean stuff about me, that I was selfish and I never cared for Angel's feelings. It really made me feel very very down. Angel tried to persuade them that she'll be okay but they won't listen. Angel and I are still good friends,but I made a lot of enemies because John courted me.And now, I have to make a choice. Will I choose John,the guy who I eventually learned to love?Or will I choose my friends?Please do help me.It really hurts when you have no one to turn to......

From the story, it sounds like the only true friend you have there is Angel.

If you two are still friends & shes kool with it, you & John have something, go for it. You shouldn't let yourself be put off by the immature & unkind actions of those who are meant to be your friends, were they your friends, they wouldn't act like that.

I know its hard, but Angel & John are the ones to speak to about this, the others just don't matter if they can be like that to you.

Friends don't backstab etc.

In my opinion if you are having to actual force yourself to like this guy more then he really isn't worth it. You said that he was pretty nice which tells me that the rest of the time he can be a jerk. One must be very careful when choosing a lover and mate now a day with morals as loose and haphazard as they are. Since your friend likes him probably more than you then you probably should step back and wait for the guy that is really nice and treats you like a goddess rather than just some girl. You two are pretty young right...maybe not even twenty yet...don't be so quick to rush into something is has both abilities that are greatly negative and greatly positive for you. Love kills as well as heals it slays as well as saves...strong in its decadent bliss and heavenly decay love is not something people should just step into but that is what they do...all the time. I am getting the senses that you are not really into this guy since you are so swayed by your other friends, which I notices you put in quotations. You haven't said yes yet which tells me that if you do you will actually be forcing yourself and you don't want to be attached to someone you only moderately have interest in...and you never said that you actually loved him to any degree that went beyond just liking...I say let him go and be with his four year acquaintance oh and those friends of yours...they way they treat you...they're not your friends and it really doesn't sound like Angel is either.

I totally agree with Traize on this one...I don't think you did anything wrong, you went straight to your friend and asked her for permission, you didn't go behind her back or anything...and it's not your fault if this guy likes you instead of her...

What matters here is what Angel and John feel and think, and of course what you yourself feel as well! This people don't seem to be the kind of friends you wanna keep around...if they're talking s**t about you instead of coming to you and ask you what's going on, then they're not very nice people, now are they? And they don't believe what Angel says as well so they don't seem to care much about her feelings...
Sometimes people just need someone to hate...

hey Angel is my girlfriend's or soon to be my feiance's name!

i agree with Manxita

but i think you should confront John and Angel together at the same time and tell them how you feel, and that you dotn know what to choose.

mmmm....

I think that you have to analize who worth the most!
Guys are millions ! thats something you wont ever lack of, but real friends... there are just a few.
So you must think about it clearly.

Anyway, is angel a real good friend?

I'm not even going to vote... @_@

Hmmm... What advise should I give a troubled little gal like you?

Do you really love this John guy? From my point of view... It just seems like you only have an infatuation with him, if you haven't said "yes" in being his girlfriend. Or is it that you just want approval from your friends?

I think you did the right thing, by asking Angel permission. It was really awesome and thoughtful of you to consider her feelings.

If she said it was all right, then she shouldn't have her feelings hurt because she gave you permission. If she was feeling hurt, she should've been more honest with you, that it would hurt her feelings to see you with John! Instead of giving you permission and then feeling hurt afterwards! If you ask me, she has a two-face thing going on here. People like that gets to me! ARGH!

I think your other friends are a bunch of immature, snobby, B**THY pussycats! If they are truly your friend, they shouldn't have backstabbed you! They are the lowest of the lowlies! No one's lower than them! ARGH! People like that piss me off! @_@

You have to evaluate the situation. It is for you to decide.

Only you can make yourself happy.

Good luck.