i know im not the only one who has this problem, but every time u think about
doing something like going 2 the mall, hanging out with friends, going 2
parties, etc or whatever, just when you're about ready 2 walk out the door, that
"something"(stress, or whatever else) posesses u for a split-second
and tells u "don't do it" and it stops u from going out and having
fun. i hate it when this happens and there's nothing u can do about it either.
anyone knows how 2 overcome this feeling?
Maybe try and figure out the reason the stress hits at that moment. If you
address the reason and figure out why, I think that because you now have a
understanding as to why the stress happens, it will turn into a barely readable
blip on your radar screen.
Stress sounds more like an excuse[no offense] to not have fun the way you use
it. Perhaps it was something else, I'd rather see it as 'lack of..er..whatever
you call the feeling you get when you're excited to go out with your friends the
next day' [well, my vocab usually ruins the mood, sorry ]
Eh? If you really want to do something and don't have any problems and fears
with it, this won't happen. I can't think of another reason then fear, your
scared of something in the thing you want to do and that's why your not sure
about doing it. You have to discover the source of that fear and stop it. People
sometimes tend to expect the worse in some situations, while the chances the
worse will come are very small.
I used to feel that way too. I would be all excited to do something and then at
the last minute I would get this overwhelming feeling that I couldn't go. I just
knew that I couldn't go and that I wasn't going to have fun if I did. I don't
know if it was because I was nervous or what it was. But it stopped me from
hanging out with my friends many a times. In high school this happened a lot. My
family moved around a lot and I was always the new kid. I had a hard time
trusting people as well so I knew that this feeling of hesitation stemmed from
my feelings of uncomfortability around new people. Try and find the reason you
think you feel this way. It is going to be very hard to fight this feeling and
make yourself go through with hanging out with your friends. I don't know any
tricks to tell you on how to do it because I never solved myself. All I can say
is good luck and I know where you are coming from. If you need someone to talk
to I am here!
Sorry I couldn't be of more help!
Uhm, I've moved a lot and have gone to a bunch of schools, made many friends,
but with each move, it was less and less. I kind of agree with the majority, you
just find any excuse out of something deep inside of you to just not do it. In
my situation, I used to experience that, but what you really need to do is push
yourself into social situations, get stressed out, get that bad feeling and over
come it slowly through time as you experience it and why you feel it during that
moment. The best road is the one through hell, lol, so to speak...
ps: I was born with more fear than usual... my brain was wired like that. So in
life, I have a natural higher anxiety and I used to have panic attacks, just
random fear of nothing really. Your mind would just run a million miles a
minute, it's hard to control. It contributes to that thinking, until you come to
terms and expose yourself to others wholeheartedly. It works for me, lowers my
stress, tension, anxiety, and fear... just exposure to it but with
comprehension, you gotta understand what it is you are doing.
hmm........some of u say it's fear and some of u say it's the fact that
few(including me) use their stress as an excuse........allow me 2 laugh at that.
i guess from now on i wont use the word "stress" cause it sounds fake
or stupid. hatred, miserable-ness, that f***** feeling: it doesnt matter, it all
revolves around depression. i mean it's not fear because if it was, then i would
never walk out the house. some people use their depression as an excuse 2 get
what they want. i'm not that type either. i'm the type that doesn't want
attention, doesn't want 2 be bothered a lot and doesn't want 2 have 2 keep
bottling up my problems forever because i'm gettin sick of it. it's not fear,
not an excuse, it's just a really strange feeling and sometimes it won't stop.
Thank u cheza2283 and Nubes, cause u actually understand what i'm talking about.
i would have to think its fear and not stress thats stopping you...unless its
the fact that your not goin out because of the fact that you are tired and have
to rest for a couple hours.....to deal wit fear though you really gotta coach
urself in it....force yourself to do what you want and youll have alot more
fun...being in control has that kind of effect ^^
Dunno if it is the same feelings I got but closses thing that I can relate to it
is. When going with family vacation or even outing with friends. Sometimes
things like these are spontaneous sometime they are planned. Well Anyway I was
always looking forward to that day till the last minute where I hesitate. Am I
really going? What the hell am I gonna do there? Isnt it just a waste of time?
Maybe I should just stay home its not like I am gonna miss something better yet
I can relax more. Well This are some of the things that came to mind in which
case most of the time ending up as me not going. If I do go it is because my
friends are very persistent about it and practically drags me. In any case.
Regardless, of whether going or not didnt feel that much change in me, only
ofcourse when with friends there peer to peer bonding, (talking, playing games,
and having fun with them basically) , as for not going I get lotsa sleep, more
time for myself and take it easy by myself ofcourse which I dont mind since I
sorta like being alone.
So for me i doesnt really matter if I go or not. I dont think I would have
missed any life changing events anyway, nor do I look back to it.
well, we have 2 more winners: Zeigard and eXDream2K5. more and more of u are
starting 2 understand what i'm talking about. Zeigard especially, cause that's
the exact same thing that happens 2 me. i start to think why am i going and for
what? sometimes i don't go because it's a waste of time as well. and i also
don't mind being left alone but then whenever i get the feeling that i want 2 go
out and have fun or hang out with friends, most likely it'll happen
again.
I suppose you can just leave the house. I mean, it's not like staying at the
house is something that is likely to change anything. When ever I have doubts
about going to do something, I just think that I might as well do it, since I
might see or learn something new. Consider trying that thought if you want. I
hope it helps.
I always get that feeling when i go to my friend's place to hang out. I always
tell myself its better off alone so you won't get hurt. You can already tell i'm
not a people person. No offence to my friends because they are great to hang out
with but i get this feeling of emptyness. OR its like a fortelling that i won't
have fun. Most the time it is true. Iono man, for me, i do it for my friends
eventhough i doubted myself.
I can't say if what happens to me is the same thing as what you go through, and
since I'm not you I couldn't tell you what it is (some of the people here seem
to think they know, though
) but I can grasp the idea of suddenly having second thoughts about stuff you've
planned to do for a while.
What happens to me is normally when I am invited to a party I will be very
excited and looking forward to it, but the day before and the day of it I
suddenly feel ansty and have a feeling like I REALLY don't want to go (but it
happens for more than just big group events now). This may not work for you, but
what I found works for me is to just ignore the feeling and go if I can't figure
out a reason that would make me feel that way. Very rarely do I ever regret that
decision (most of the time I end up having fun), but like I said, I'm not you so
I don't know what goes on inside your head. I just like to offer ideas that you
can consider.
Hon, that seriuosly sounds like manic fear or manic depression or watever its
called. you reli ought to get a shrink to take a look at that, cuz thats not
normal... seriously. let me know if things turn out alright, ok? hope u can get
thru this !
Quote by beautifuldreamer1289Hon,
that seriuosly sounds like manic fear or manic depression or watever its called.
you reli ought to get a shrink to take a look at that, cuz thats not normal...
seriously.
now i get a suggestion like THAT!? a problem like that is not even near that
kind of help. i'll just ignore that and pretend i didn't see it. i just wanted 2
know if anyone had a simular problem 2 this one. and i wanted 2 see if anyone
could relate 2 something simular 2 that. so i'll just ignore that little
"remark" u said-no offense but my problem was NEVER that
serious.
okay, just 2 let everyone know just so i don't end up hearing a suggestion even
worse than that, my problem ended quite some time ago so u can quit with the
"suggestions"(although some of them were quite helpful). if anyone
else has these problems, then feel free to say anything about them-so DON'T
refer 2 me when you're posting-my problem's over. this thread now goes for
anyone else that has these problems so say whatever u feel.
and also, i'd like 2 thank the very few that understand what it feels like and
tried 2 help(u know who u are so i'm not saying names). later.
Well, okay, look at it this way. Is that feeling telling you to not go out and
have fun, because you haven't done your homework? That's just conscience
though.
Maybe you should look to the good points and how fun a party would be and go
anyway, it'll be nice =)
Quote by foreverforgottenWell,
okay, look at it this way. Is that feeling telling you to not go out and have
fun, because you haven't done your homework? That's just conscience
though.
Maybe you should look to the good points and how fun a party would be and go
anyway, it'll be nice =)
1. i'm graduated already so the word, "homework" is out of my
vocabulary.
2. problem's gone. forever.
3. i don't have 2 worry about anything holding me back anymore so now i can
actually control if i want 2 go out or not.
and thanks for your opinion but i already found a way 2 end that cursed problem.
didn't u see what i posted before your comment? oh, well. thanks for the opinion
anyway.
that's laziness!
ahaha(okay, maybe applicable only to me)
i also experience the same feeling but my reason is laziness,, >>>and i
kinda like it,, heheh!
i know im not the only one who has this problem, but every time u think about doing something like going 2 the mall, hanging out with friends, going 2 parties, etc or whatever, just when you're about ready 2 walk out the door, that "something"(stress, or whatever else) posesses u for a split-second and tells u "don't do it" and it stops u from going out and having fun. i hate it when this happens and there's nothing u can do about it either. anyone knows how 2 overcome this feeling?
Maybe try and figure out the reason the stress hits at that moment. If you address the reason and figure out why, I think that because you now have a understanding as to why the stress happens, it will turn into a barely readable blip on your radar screen.
If i were you i wouldn't call it stress.
Stress sounds more like an excuse[no offense] to not have fun the way you use it. Perhaps it was something else, I'd rather see it as 'lack of..er..whatever you call the feeling you get when you're excited to go out with your friends the next day' [well, my vocab usually ruins the mood, sorry
]
^_^" But I'm sure it's not stress.
Eh? If you really want to do something and don't have any problems and fears with it, this won't happen. I can't think of another reason then fear, your scared of something in the thing you want to do and that's why your not sure about doing it. You have to discover the source of that fear and stop it. People sometimes tend to expect the worse in some situations, while the chances the worse will come are very small.
I used to feel that way too. I would be all excited to do something and then at the last minute I would get this overwhelming feeling that I couldn't go. I just knew that I couldn't go and that I wasn't going to have fun if I did. I don't know if it was because I was nervous or what it was. But it stopped me from hanging out with my friends many a times. In high school this happened a lot. My family moved around a lot and I was always the new kid. I had a hard time trusting people as well so I knew that this feeling of hesitation stemmed from my feelings of uncomfortability around new people. Try and find the reason you think you feel this way. It is going to be very hard to fight this feeling and make yourself go through with hanging out with your friends. I don't know any tricks to tell you on how to do it because I never solved myself. All I can say is good luck and I know where you are coming from. If you need someone to talk to I am here!
Sorry I couldn't be of more help!
Uhm, I've moved a lot and have gone to a bunch of schools, made many friends, but with each move, it was less and less. I kind of agree with the majority, you just find any excuse out of something deep inside of you to just not do it. In my situation, I used to experience that, but what you really need to do is push yourself into social situations, get stressed out, get that bad feeling and over come it slowly through time as you experience it and why you feel it during that moment. The best road is the one through hell, lol, so to speak...
ps: I was born with more fear than usual... my brain was wired like that. So in life, I have a natural higher anxiety and I used to have panic attacks, just random fear of nothing really. Your mind would just run a million miles a minute, it's hard to control. It contributes to that thinking, until you come to terms and expose yourself to others wholeheartedly. It works for me, lowers my stress, tension, anxiety, and fear... just exposure to it but with comprehension, you gotta understand what it is you are doing.
heart aches when something's gonna go wrong... Nothin can't help it... and the only thing u can do is:
Or ignore it.
Or do it...
if u ignore it i can assure u that u wouldnt have miss anything, becuz those things happen for a reason...
If u do it, maybe u'll have willing to not do it, becuz it was the same thing doin it as don't doin it.
Life sucks sometimes... But when heart command to the body to send info to the brain not to do somethin is worth it...
I'm tellin u this becuz i've already felt that before. This borin "i want to get out but i dont want to" situation.
It happens but it wont prevail, so do like the song: Dont worry and be happy.
take care
hmm........some of u say it's fear and some of u say it's the fact that few(including me) use their stress as an excuse........allow me 2 laugh at that. i guess from now on i wont use the word "stress" cause it sounds fake or stupid. hatred, miserable-ness, that f***** feeling: it doesnt matter, it all revolves around depression. i mean it's not fear because if it was, then i would never walk out the house. some people use their depression as an excuse 2 get what they want. i'm not that type either. i'm the type that doesn't want attention, doesn't want 2 be bothered a lot and doesn't want 2 have 2 keep bottling up my problems forever because i'm gettin sick of it. it's not fear, not an excuse, it's just a really strange feeling and sometimes it won't stop.
Thank u cheza2283 and Nubes, cause u actually understand what i'm talking about.
i would have to think its fear and not stress thats stopping you...unless its the fact that your not goin out because of the fact that you are tired and have to rest for a couple hours.....to deal wit fear though you really gotta coach urself in it....force yourself to do what you want and youll have alot more fun...being in control has that kind of effect ^^
Only if I have an exam or assignment due the next week. But usually play before work wins out. It's called procrastination. Teehee.
Dunno if it is the same feelings I got but closses thing that I can relate to it is. When going with family vacation or even outing with friends. Sometimes things like these are spontaneous sometime they are planned. Well Anyway I was always looking forward to that day till the last minute where I hesitate. Am I really going? What the hell am I gonna do there? Isnt it just a waste of time? Maybe I should just stay home its not like I am gonna miss something better yet I can relax more. Well This are some of the things that came to mind in which case most of the time ending up as me not going. If I do go it is because my friends are very persistent about it and practically drags me. In any case. Regardless, of whether going or not didnt feel that much change in me, only ofcourse when with friends there peer to peer bonding, (talking, playing games, and having fun with them basically) , as for not going I get lotsa sleep, more time for myself and take it easy by myself ofcourse which I dont mind since I sorta like being alone.
So for me i doesnt really matter if I go or not. I dont think I would have missed any life changing events anyway, nor do I look back to it.
I feel that way a lot, but the only thing you can do is get over this feeling and go out and have fun.
My HS band teacher always said, "Don't think. As O.J. Simpson said, 'Thinking gets you caught from behind.' Just do whatever you're scared to do."
well, we have 2 more winners: Zeigard and eXDream2K5. more and more of u are starting 2 understand what i'm talking about. Zeigard especially, cause that's the exact same thing that happens 2 me. i start to think why am i going and for what? sometimes i don't go because it's a waste of time as well. and i also don't mind being left alone but then whenever i get the feeling that i want 2 go out and have fun or hang out with friends, most likely it'll happen again.
so, anyone else understands what i'm saying?
I get that but I go anyway. It turns out to be a lot of fun. Sometimes you've got to just ignore it, or else you might regret it.
I suppose you can just leave the house. I mean, it's not like staying at the house is something that is likely to change anything. When ever I have doubts about going to do something, I just think that I might as well do it, since I might see or learn something new. Consider trying that thought if you want. I hope it helps.
I always get that feeling when i go to my friend's place to hang out. I always tell myself its better off alone so you won't get hurt. You can already tell i'm not a people person. No offence to my friends because they are great to hang out with but i get this feeling of emptyness. OR its like a fortelling that i won't have fun. Most the time it is true. Iono man, for me, i do it for my friends eventhough i doubted myself.
I can't say if what happens to me is the same thing as what you go through, and since I'm not you I couldn't tell you what it is (some of the people here seem to think they know, though
) but I can grasp the idea of suddenly having second thoughts about stuff you've
planned to do for a while.
What happens to me is normally when I am invited to a party I will be very excited and looking forward to it, but the day before and the day of it I suddenly feel ansty and have a feeling like I REALLY don't want to go (but it happens for more than just big group events now). This may not work for you, but what I found works for me is to just ignore the feeling and go if I can't figure out a reason that would make me feel that way. Very rarely do I ever regret that decision (most of the time I end up having fun), but like I said, I'm not you so I don't know what goes on inside your head. I just like to offer ideas that you can consider.
Sorry I'm not very helpful
that really sounds like yugioh but i like the tittle
I have suffer a transformation within ......steal answers from the others..
Hon, that seriuosly sounds like manic fear or manic depression or watever its called. you reli ought to get a shrink to take a look at that, cuz thats not normal... seriously. let me know if things turn out alright, ok? hope u can get thru this
!
lol I'd suggest you get a punching bag and train. lol it really helps when you;re bored or stress
now i get a suggestion like THAT!? a problem like that is not even near that kind of help. i'll just ignore that and pretend i didn't see it. i just wanted 2 know if anyone had a simular problem 2 this one. and i wanted 2 see if anyone could relate 2 something simular 2 that. so i'll just ignore that little "remark" u said-no offense but my problem was NEVER that serious.
okay, just 2 let everyone know just so i don't end up hearing a suggestion even worse than that, my problem ended quite some time ago so u can quit with the "suggestions"(although some of them were quite helpful). if anyone else has these problems, then feel free to say anything about them-so DON'T refer 2 me when you're posting-my problem's over. this thread now goes for anyone else that has these problems so say whatever u feel.
and also, i'd like 2 thank the very few that understand what it feels like and tried 2 help(u know who u are so i'm not saying names). later.
Well, okay, look at it this way. Is that feeling telling you to not go out and have fun, because you haven't done your homework? That's just conscience though.
Maybe you should look to the good points and how fun a party would be and go anyway, it'll be nice =)
1. i'm graduated already so the word, "homework" is out of my vocabulary.
2. problem's gone. forever.
3. i don't have 2 worry about anything holding me back anymore so now i can actually control if i want 2 go out or not.
and thanks for your opinion but i already found a way 2 end that cursed problem. didn't u see what i posted before your comment? oh, well. thanks for the opinion anyway.
that's laziness!
ahaha(okay, maybe applicable only to me)
i also experience the same feeling but my reason is laziness,, >>>and i kinda like it,, heheh!