Hey there It's me Juppu-kun with an other update with my ex......
I called her mom tonight to ask her if she wanted to go take a cup of coffee
since it's been a while she we last had a talk because she were pretty helpful
for me before and after the breakup
So i got there and we chatted a bit and then she told me my ex would be coming
around so that we could talk out our differents. At first i was...... how can i
say.... not p*ssed off but.... more like worried and i also mentionned to my
ex's mom that i did not wanted my ex around..... I was worried about what my ex
was going to say to me and especially how. My ex got to the cafe all dressed up
clean and even with some make-up... I just coudnt figure out why.... she never
used to put some on and she also worked today and since she works at a snack
bar,she never has some on....Anyway, pointless stuff.... So she got there with a
nice smile and we began to talk.... The evening wasent too harsh... It only was
when she told me then she got to closen up with a co worker of hers at her
job.... I just said " And, your planning to go out with him?" like I
never cared or ever gone out with her at all but in the inside, it twisted my
stomach. I know i dont love her anymore but why is it doing so?.... So then she
said she were really close of going out with him but the guy lost interest in
her... I dont wanna go back with my ex but why the hell it did me that
for?
The evening kept going and since like i said we were going to the same college
and program she asked me " Are you going to enter the theater group like i
will?" I got very uneasy with that question. Both her and her mom figured
that out but i said i was just tired as an excuse. The reason why i got like
that is that we gotten together by those style of theater groups and i felt
uneasy about doing things with her again it sorta reopens old wounds. The
evening ended well but now i wonder........
What it will be like as for now? She seems willing to make the move to be
friends again but how can i make that happen? i mean to be friends without the
"past" haunting us again?
it comes down to your heart, what do you feel is the right course of action?
most people that are couples, then break up and become ex's aren't friends
anymore cause of the "PAST" haunting them.
Again, I am not you, so you have to decide on where to draw the line. It sounds
like you are just friends from my perspective. She only thinks that you are
friendship material, and that's not bad. But <--- BUT ---> IF you have
weird feelings, then you shouldn't be around her cause it will only bring
problems. If you go to the same class and she has another guy and it BRINGS bad
feelings into your heart, then you KNOW that you should NOT be in the same class
or room for that matter.
I would talk to her about all these things inside, and make sure she
understands, comprehends, figures out, ANYTHING - what you feel in certain
situations. That's what friends are, they talk about everything. But since you
have a history, you should be even closer and talk on a higher level with more
trust? Sometimes, you just need to talk about it to get over it, and if it
doesn't work, then part ways.
well one thing u can do is to be supportive of each other's love lives
^__^
u definatelly dun wanna get jealous of her talkin bout and goin out wit other
guys
in fact, u want the opposite
u want her to feel comfortable that she can talk about other guys wit u
be interested and encouraging bout it
yea, yea, it will prolly jus sound like "blah blah blah" to u when she
does ^___~ lol
buuuuuut....
the plusside is that u get to talk to her about the girls that u like and the
girls that ur goin out with ~___^
like u can aks her things bout girls like, "so wut kind of kissing do u
like the best?" or "wut thing that a guy does that jus completely
sweeps u off ur feet?" ^___^
its cool, and might even make her laugh, cus she knows that ur jus friends and
not tryin to get into her pants ^__^
of course, it might take a while to get there first..
but, jus try to be open, relaxed and comfortable
i mean the stress is gone now,
u dun have to buy her roses or massage her back anymore since ur not
bf&gf
(except on birfdays ^___~) hehe
and then if a guy breaks her heart
and then u'll kick that guys ass for her
and then she'll be like, ur my heeeeeroo! xoxoxo im so luky to have u
and then u'll be like, heey im taken, i already have a gf
and then she'll be like, i kno i kno but
and then u'll be like dun worrie, u'll find a good guy for u one day
and then she'll be like ur teh bestest
and then and then and then....umm okie i ran outta of and thens but u get the
picture ^___^
sooo jus try to forget bout the past and enjoy the present without worryin bout
wut the future will bring
well, i hoped this helped ^___^
(p.s. in case ur wondering....yes...yes i am cwrazy ^___~ lol)
........ Then just be friends...... and nothing else...... Just let her know
that you've been hurt and that you just don't want it to happen again.......
she'll understand. Like those above me, being friends instead of lovers is
probably the right thing to do. Still, the world is a mystery to us all, so who
knows what will happen. As for that weird feeling in the stomach, it's you. You
might have feelings for her still, but might not realize it, or maybe you do.
For you to think or rather say something like you don't real care goes against
that feeling; therefore you feel distressed or something similar........ that
should explain your stomach.......
Now for an apology.... I said some pretty crappy stuff to you in the last post I
sent you..... though I can't say that I disagree with it in anyway, (heck, it
came from me). Still, I could have said things a bit nicer than I did, and I do
hope you accept my apology. Even if you don't right now, it'll still be there
when your ready. If you don't ever, then I can understand..........
Hey there It's me Juppu-kun with an other update with my ex......
I called her mom tonight to ask her if she wanted to go take a cup of coffee since it's been a while she we last had a talk because she were pretty helpful for me before and after the breakup
So i got there and we chatted a bit and then she told me my ex would be coming around so that we could talk out our differents. At first i was...... how can i say.... not p*ssed off but.... more like worried and i also mentionned to my ex's mom that i did not wanted my ex around..... I was worried about what my ex was going to say to me and especially how. My ex got to the cafe all dressed up clean and even with some make-up... I just coudnt figure out why.... she never used to put some on and she also worked today and since she works at a snack bar,she never has some on....Anyway, pointless stuff.... So she got there with a nice smile and we began to talk.... The evening wasent too harsh... It only was when she told me then she got to closen up with a co worker of hers at her job.... I just said " And, your planning to go out with him?" like I never cared or ever gone out with her at all but in the inside, it twisted my stomach. I know i dont love her anymore but why is it doing so?.... So then she said she were really close of going out with him but the guy lost interest in her... I dont wanna go back with my ex but why the hell it did me that for?
The evening kept going and since like i said we were going to the same college and program she asked me " Are you going to enter the theater group like i will?" I got very uneasy with that question. Both her and her mom figured that out but i said i was just tired as an excuse. The reason why i got like that is that we gotten together by those style of theater groups and i felt uneasy about doing things with her again it sorta reopens old wounds. The evening ended well but now i wonder........
What it will be like as for now? She seems willing to make the move to be friends again but how can i make that happen? i mean to be friends without the "past" haunting us again?
thnxs in advance
it comes down to your heart, what do you feel is the right course of action? most people that are couples, then break up and become ex's aren't friends anymore cause of the "PAST" haunting them.
Again, I am not you, so you have to decide on where to draw the line. It sounds like you are just friends from my perspective. She only thinks that you are friendship material, and that's not bad. But <--- BUT ---> IF you have weird feelings, then you shouldn't be around her cause it will only bring problems. If you go to the same class and she has another guy and it BRINGS bad feelings into your heart, then you KNOW that you should NOT be in the same class or room for that matter.
I would talk to her about all these things inside, and make sure she understands, comprehends, figures out, ANYTHING - what you feel in certain situations. That's what friends are, they talk about everything. But since you have a history, you should be even closer and talk on a higher level with more trust? Sometimes, you just need to talk about it to get over it, and if it doesn't work, then part ways.
well one thing u can do is to be supportive of each other's love lives ^__^
u definatelly dun wanna get jealous of her talkin bout and goin out wit other guys
in fact, u want the opposite
u want her to feel comfortable that she can talk about other guys wit u
be interested and encouraging bout it
yea, yea, it will prolly jus sound like "blah blah blah" to u when she does ^___~ lol
buuuuuut....
the plusside is that u get to talk to her about the girls that u like and the girls that ur goin out with ~___^
like u can aks her things bout girls like, "so wut kind of kissing do u like the best?" or "wut thing that a guy does that jus completely sweeps u off ur feet?" ^___^
its cool, and might even make her laugh, cus she knows that ur jus friends and not tryin to get into her pants ^__^
of course, it might take a while to get there first..
but, jus try to be open, relaxed and comfortable
i mean the stress is gone now,
u dun have to buy her roses or massage her back anymore since ur not bf&gf
(except on birfdays ^___~) hehe
and then if a guy breaks her heart
and then u'll kick that guys ass for her
and then she'll be like, ur my heeeeeroo! xoxoxo im so luky to have u
and then u'll be like, heey im taken, i already have a gf
and then she'll be like, i kno i kno but
and then u'll be like dun worrie, u'll find a good guy for u one day
and then she'll be like ur teh bestest
and then and then and then....umm okie i ran outta of and thens but u get the picture ^___^
sooo jus try to forget bout the past and enjoy the present without worryin bout wut the future will bring
well, i hoped this helped ^___^
(p.s. in case ur wondering....yes...yes i am cwrazy ^___~ lol)
........ Then just be friends...... and nothing else...... Just let her know that you've been hurt and that you just don't want it to happen again....... she'll understand. Like those above me, being friends instead of lovers is probably the right thing to do. Still, the world is a mystery to us all, so who knows what will happen. As for that weird feeling in the stomach, it's you. You might have feelings for her still, but might not realize it, or maybe you do. For you to think or rather say something like you don't real care goes against that feeling; therefore you feel distressed or something similar........ that should explain your stomach.......
Now for an apology.... I said some pretty crappy stuff to you in the last post I sent you..... though I can't say that I disagree with it in anyway, (heck, it came from me). Still, I could have said things a bit nicer than I did, and I do hope you accept my apology. Even if you don't right now, it'll still be there when your ready. If you don't ever, then I can understand..........
well its ok to become friends again, just remember to keep the past behind you, and eventually you guys will forget it...