Hey everyone i was walking around my hometown and noticed a bunch of people i went to school with now have children... and to me it feel like it was only yesterday i was still in school with these people. well anyway when i was in school with them they loved to talk about having sex all the time and now most of them were doing it for real so it was no joke but now that they children of their own the just get welfare check and still live with their parents. and have no asperation of leave home anymore, Now the question i pose is How Important is Sex to you? and is worth the lost of your future? and dreams. and i guess since they have children i guess i mean non protective sex.

What your stance on this?

I would vote it a 3 in a half all I can say is I get it when I want it.
I am in no hurry to have kids so condums are my friends.
I would not give up my future for it but merly be making an even better one.

Quote by BrokenGlassI would vote it a 3 in a half all I can say is I get it when I want it.
I am in no hurry to have kids so condums are my friends.
I would not give up my future for it but merly bemaking an even better one.

me have the same opinion just as BrokenGlass says.

Losing my future because of sex would be insane, but still I think sex is quite important. Its something I really want, but nothing I would die for. Sex can wait all the time, its not like if someone wants to have sex with you and you want the same, it wont happen just because someone of you two says "Sorry, I cant right now.". Having non protective sex is a big fault, cause you never know what will happen. Having kids in an early age is not good. It will interfere with your studies and can ruin your whole future. And if you dont get kids, you maybe get something else. Losing a dream cause of sex would be really ironic in my case, cause one of my dreams are actually sex (with a person I love of course). But if my so called erotic dream would be ruined cause of sex, then I will not have sex for a long time.

So for me sex is important, but its not a 5. It also depends what we are talking about. Just meaningless sex with anyone is... not important o.o. Sex with a person you love is important for me. After all, most persons on this planet actually enjoy being more or less satisfied with... *looks around* sex.
Hm... longer post than I thought.

I think my life partner would be more important. Getting someone to be always by our side to cheer us up, to share problems with and to enjoy the everyday together forever, that is something more important than an act which doesnt even last a day. Sex does play an important role in a healthy marriage but there are things worth sacrificing for.

fairly. it's good. but not massively important.

finding someone who's good enough for me to want to have sex with is the real problem... i think i have unrealistic standards due to too much anime

i picked 5........not becuz u knoe its ur first time and it has to be perfect.....more like its a big deal, well with STDS and AIDS.......... and i think sex should be after marriage..........i like it to be with someone i made a lifelong comitment to.........

i think sex isn't particularly important cos...it doesnt affect my life.i'm still a virgin and i'm happy being one.i dont need sex to feel good about myself and i'm not gna let it ruin my future either

not important 2 me at all, i have alot more important thingz 2 worry about

1- if you let it control you your just going to get nowhere and probably ridiculed/ taken advantage of by women. Obviously, the oppurtunity for sex would be reason enough to cancel some appointments or do some things, but you gotta be smooth about it at least.

I'm having it currently but it's not the biggest thing in the world. it's enjoyable and fun We are getting marrried so it's all good and he was my first and stuff. I don't want kids for a long time

Sex Is the least important thing in my life. To me,its something that can either be the greatest experience or your worst. So many teenagers and 'young adults' just can't wait to have sex,and so they go ahead and do it THINKING they are in love and THINKING its the right choice. Or maybe they dont even THINK atall.They want it,they feel safe with that person,and so they just go ahead and do it just like everyone else.

I hate following the crowd,I hate having to look around at 12 year old girls I know that now have to take birth control pills because influence is getting worse. I know so many girls my age[17] and younger that wish they had not had sex yet. Me? I want to save it-and I may sound old fashioned but I rather either be married,or think pretty damn close to getting married then to just be dating,think it's serious and waste it on some guy I'll date for only a year or a few months. It has nothing to do with God and waiting till marriage blah blah. Its just how I know that I wont be like everyone else that just wasted their once in a lifetime oppurtunity to really have it be special. Alot of people say " You never had sex-aha you don't know what you are missing aha" well they can shut the hell up because I'm not stupid.They are right I DONT know what Im missing and I know this,and frankly the old saying goes " You don't miss what you never had" If I don't have sex,I wont get the urge to want that feeling to want sex again. just like if you never had your favorite icecream or your favorite movie.You'd never think about those things and want them again if you never had them.You may think about eating it or watching the movie,but in the end if its something you don't want to do-you have more will power against it because your mind isn't constantly telling you how good they are.

Pressure to have sex is so crazy now,I may not get picked up by all the finest of guys 24/7.But I have been asked more then once if I would gladly have sex with someone-to me,it grosses me out to have sex with someone you don't really know,thats what whores are for,and hey,atleast they get paid. And I would have to be dating someone "half my life" before I let them experience something with me that he probably has experienced over so many times already.how special is that then?..That brings me to another point.I'd rather have a virgin as a B/F and a husband because that way I know if I Did decide to have sex with them,it was OUR experience,it was OUR first time,It was OUR moment that we shared together and noone else took from us. I may sound cheesy and w/e,but If I actually cared about wether Id get negative feedback then I don't think I'd be typing this. But If I TRUELY "fell in love" with someone that wasn't a virgin-ofcourse I wouldn't judge- but to me thats sad,to be in love with someone who has already given up that moment,and that has more then likely "been in love" with someone else so "strongly" that he/she just HAD to have sex and not wait for you[this I say in the fact that you two might want to get married or ect]and now its my turn,and its more special to me then it is to him.Yeah yeah the guy could be madly in love with me and it's still be special to him,but it will never be in that way that I described it earlier.

and to be honest,If I didn't want kids-I would not have sex atall that often,I know once again "you never had it so-" stfu.I know the basics of sex and that its suppose to feel good,I dont HAVE to experience it to know that,believe me I see enough pregnant knock ups in my school to realise that. But the fact is that If I love someone,and we didn't have to have sex to get along or to pass the time,I'd be so happy.But its the fact that we do have sex and no other man or woman has had sex with MY man/woman ect is so important.To know that YOU pleasure him/her and not that you aren't doing that one thing that he/she likes so much from that one girl/guy that he/she can't remember his/her name.Or you dont moan the same way that one guy/girl did that one time that one year..If he/she is a virgin,you BOTH decide what you two want and like-you wont have the pressure of competing with others who were all over the man/woman you now love..

But if we were both virgins,we would be eacothers one and only and WE made our first times together~ we were the ones that now belong to eachother. You may have sex and then the next time you have it be with someone you really care about,but there is no excuse for it never being the same.you will never be a virgin again,you will never be able to take t back and choose a different guy or girl.So just choose carefully,because all I know is -my fear is having sex with the wrong person..then meeting the right person[especially a virgin] and wishing that I hadn't have been so blind,and could have been sharing the special moment with him aswell. -shrug- but yeah heh,thats just how I see it,and I wish more people would see atleast abit of what I do the way I do,then maybe we wouldn't have such nasty people out there...

Quote by PAchei think sex isn't particularly important cos...it doesnt affect my life.i'm still a virgin and i'm happy being one.i dont need sex to feel good about myself and i'm not gna let it ruin my future either

I'm same as you , PAche and i proud of that . I will keep my virginity until i have a husband . Actually sex is important but in a marriage situation . Love is the most important thing , do you agree... ?

I agree with MUPEG in the fullest. What I hate the very most is that people treat sex like it is a need. It is not a need. If I went without it I would not die. Not only that, but if I am going to do it I want it to be with someone important to me. Let me tell you people something, the world does not revolve around sex and you dont have to do it to be "cool". Do it only when its right for you. Boys, dont let that girl trick you, and girls, watch your back for real. It is not as though I hate it. I want to try it myslef one day, but PLEASE people, stop depending on it. For it is NOT a need. It is nothing but a WANT.

Quote by MUPEGSex Is the least important thing in my life. To me,its something that can either be the greatest experience or your worst. So many teenagers and 'young adults' just can't wait to have sex,and so they go ahead and do it THINKING they are in love and THINKING its the right choice. Or maybe they dont even THINK atall.They want it,they feel safe with that person,and so they just go ahead and do it just like everyone else.

I hate following the crowd,I hate having to look around at 12 year old girls I know that now have to take birth control pills because influence is getting worse. I know so many girls my age[17] and younger that wish they had not had sex yet. Me? I want to save it-and I may sound old fashioned but I rather either be married,or think pretty damn close to getting married then to just be dating,think it's serious and waste it on some guy I'll date for only a year or a few months. It has nothing to do with God and waiting till marriage blah blah. Its just how I know that I wont be like everyone else that just wasted their once in a lifetime oppurtunity to really have it be special. Alot of people say " You never had sex-aha you don't know what you are missing aha" well they can shut the hell up because I'm not stupid.They are right I DONT know what Im missing and I know this,and frankly the old saying goes " You don't miss what you never had" If I don't have sex,I wont get the urge to want that feeling to want sex again. just like if you never had your favorite icecream or your favorite movie.You'd never think about those things and want them again if you never had them.You may think about eating it or watching the movie,but in the end if its something you don't want to do-you have more will power against it because your mind isn't constantly telling you how good they are.

Pressure to have sex is so crazy now,I may not get picked up by all the finest of guys 24/7.But I have been asked more then once if I would gladly have sex with someone-to me,it grosses me out to have sex with someone you don't really know,thats what whores are for,and hey,atleast they get paid. And I would have to be dating someone "half my life" before I let them experience something with me that he probably has experienced over so many times already.how special is that then?..That brings me to another point.I'd rather have a virgin as a B/F and a husband because that way I know if I Did decide to have sex with them,it was OUR experience,it was OUR first time,It was OUR moment that we shared together and noone else took from us. I may sound cheesy and w/e,but If I actually cared about wether Id get negative feedback then I don't think I'd be typing this. But If I TRUELY "fell in love" with someone that wasn't a virgin-ofcourse I wouldn't judge- but to me thats sad,to be in love with someone who has already given up that moment,and that has more then likely "been in love" with someone else so "strongly" that he/she just HAD to have sex and not wait for you[this I say in the fact that you two might want to get married or ect]and now its my turn,and its more special to me then it is to him.Yeah yeah the guy could be madly in love with me and it's still be special to him,but it will never be in that way that I described it earlier.

and to be honest,If I didn't want kids-I would not have sex atall that often,I know once again "you never had it so-" stfu.I know the basics of sex and that its suppose to feel good,I dont HAVE to experience it to know that,believe me I see enough pregnant knock ups in my school to realise that. But the fact is that If I love someone,and we didn't have to have sex to get along or to pass the time,I'd be so happy.But its the fact that we do have sex and no other man or woman has had sex with MY man/woman ect is so important.To know that YOU pleasure him/her and not that you aren't doing that one thing that he/she likes so much from that one girl/guy that he/she can't remember his/her name.Or you dont moan the same way that one guy/girl did that one time that one year..If he/she is a virgin,you BOTH decide what you two want and like-you wont have the pressure of competing with others who were all over the man/woman you now love..

But if we were both virgins,we would be eacothers one and only and WE made our first times together~ we were the ones that now belong to eachother. You may have sex and then the next time you have it be with someone you really care about,but there is no excuse for it never being the same.you will never be a virgin again,you will never be able to take t back and choose a different guy or girl.So just choose carefully,because all I know is -my fear is having sex with the wrong person..then meeting the right person[especially a virgin] and wishing that I hadn't have been so blind,and could have been sharing the special moment with him aswell. -shrug- but yeah heh,thats just how I see it,and I wish more people would see atleast abit of what I do the way I do,then maybe we wouldn't have such nasty people out there...

Sex isn't really that important. It does help establish strong relationships, but otherwise, its just an animal drive that is in all of us.

Quote by ShiramaruI agree with MUPEG in the fullest. What I hate the very most is that people treat sex like it is a need. It is not a need. If I went without it I would not die. Not only that, but if I am going to do it I want it to be with someone important to me. Let me tell you people something, the world does not revolve around sex and you dont have to do it to be "cool". Do it only when its right for you. Boys, dont let that girl trick you, and girls, watch your back for real. It is not as though I hate it. I want to try it myslef one day, but PLEASE people, stop depending on it. For it is NOT a need. It is nothing but a WANT.

Quote by MUPEGSex Is the least important thing in my life. To me,its something that can either be the greatest experience or your worst. So many teenagers and 'young adults' just can't wait to have sex,and so they go ahead and do it THINKING they are in love and THINKING its the right choice. Or maybe they dont even THINK atall.They want it,they feel safe with that person,and so they just go ahead and do it just like everyone else.

I hate following the crowd,I hate having to look around at 12 year old girls I know that now have to take birth control pills because influence is getting worse. I know so many girls my age[17] and younger that wish they had not had sex yet. Me? I want to save it-and I may sound old fashioned but I rather either be married,or think pretty damn close to getting married then to just be dating,think it's serious and waste it on some guy I'll date for only a year or a few months. It has nothing to do with God and waiting till marriage blah blah. Its just how I know that I wont be like everyone else that just wasted their once in a lifetime oppurtunity to really have it be special. Alot of people say " You never had sex-aha you don't know what you are missing aha" well they can shut the hell up because I'm not stupid.They are right I DONT know what Im missing and I know this,and frankly the old saying goes " You don't miss what you never had" If I don't have sex,I wont get the urge to want that feeling to want sex again. just like if you never had your favorite icecream or your favorite movie.You'd never think about those things and want them again if you never had them.You may think about eating it or watching the movie,but in the end if its something you don't want to do-you have more will power against it because your mind isn't constantly telling you how good they are.

Pressure to have sex is so crazy now,I may not get picked up by all the finest of guys 24/7.But I have been asked more then once if I would gladly have sex with someone-to me,it grosses me out to have sex with someone you don't really know,thats what whores are for,and hey,atleast they get paid. And I would have to be dating someone "half my life" before I let them experience something with me that he probably has experienced over so many times already.how special is that then?..That brings me to another point.I'd rather have a virgin as a B/F and a husband because that way I know if I Did decide to have sex with them,it was OUR experience,it was OUR first time,It was OUR moment that we shared together and noone else took from us. I may sound cheesy and w/e,but If I actually cared about wether Id get negative feedback then I don't think I'd be typing this. But If I TRUELY "fell in love" with someone that wasn't a virgin-ofcourse I wouldn't judge- but to me thats sad,to be in love with someone who has already given up that moment,and that has more then likely "been in love" with someone else so "strongly" that he/she just HAD to have sex and not wait for you[this I say in the fact that you two might want to get married or ect]and now its my turn,and its more special to me then it is to him.Yeah yeah the guy could be madly in love with me and it's still be special to him,but it will never be in that way that I described it earlier.

and to be honest,If I didn't want kids-I would not have sex atall that often,I know once again "you never had it so-" stfu.I know the basics of sex and that its suppose to feel good,I dont HAVE to experience it to know that,believe me I see enough pregnant knock ups in my school to realise that. But the fact is that If I love someone,and we didn't have to have sex to get along or to pass the time,I'd be so happy.But its the fact that we do have sex and no other man or woman has had sex with MY man/woman ect is so important.To know that YOU pleasure him/her and not that you aren't doing that one thing that he/she likes so much from that one girl/guy that he/she can't remember his/her name.Or you dont moan the same way that one guy/girl did that one time that one year..If he/she is a virgin,you BOTH decide what you two want and like-you wont have the pressure of competing with others who were all over the man/woman you now love..

But if we were both virgins,we would be eacothers one and only and WE made our first times together~ we were the ones that now belong to eachother. You may have sex and then the next time you have it be with someone you really care about,but there is no excuse for it never being the same.you will never be a virgin again,you will never be able to take t back and choose a different guy or girl.So just choose carefully,because all I know is -my fear is having sex with the wrong person..then meeting the right person[especially a virgin] and wishing that I hadn't have been so blind,and could have been sharing the special moment with him aswell. -shrug- but yeah heh,thats just how I see it,and I wish more people would see atleast abit of what I do the way I do,then maybe we wouldn't have such nasty people out there...

Thanks <3 I was beginning to think no one took the time to read mine xD ^^;; but yeah,I guess we should just be lucky we still have a choice,others may not regret it,and who knows if they ever will,but atleast we are happy and I believe we are making the clearest and thought out decision

well...it's essential but yes, it could be harmful in the wrong place...

me myself, I already talk about that with my gank and yeah, we do agree that it's essential ;p

I've rated it a two. The only thing I have to say is that make sure that it's with someone that your willing to sacrifice everything for. Although our instincts tell us that we need to reproduce, you never want to ruin your future because of it. I figure that if you want sex have it with someone that you wish to spend your life with! You're all prolly older than me so i dont know how well you'll take my advice, or even if you'll read this, but I have helped many of my friends through this and been told that they would call there children after me. So ladys please make sure your man is worth a risk like that and if they would sacrifice themselves for you. Men same for you. And please always use a condom.

Hmm, not sure if this is in the correct forum, well anyways, read the posts here, and especially the long one from MUPEG. I really admire her determination to keep her virginity till marriage. For sure that's possible with her personality and confidence. I agree strongly that the pressure for sex is more than ever ... So many people having babies so young, and getting all sorts of sexually transmitted dieases because of it.

I think having an addiction towards sex isn't good, unless you are committed to one person only, and not some whore who goes guy to guy, or vice versa for the other sex! Me personally, I regret not being a virgin anymore. Because I lost my moment to someone who forced me into it, I was not ready. Now my perception of sex is out of whack ... I find it hard to even enjoy it. I know it's supposed to feel good, but I don't feel a thing sometimes. My boyfriend whom I love dearly, is not very close to me, he lives in the next province over. I'm glad he understands that I have to take it slow.

I'm not rushing anymore, no rushing to get pregnant or anything until we tie the knot. Because I can't bear to lose myself to another soul I won't be spending my life with. I'm very fine with just not having sex, people have pressured me here and there lately. But not a doubt or anything stops me from saying no. I'm not addicted to it, it's not life and death for me, I can enjoy many other things.

Hahaa, I know at least two highschool friends of mine who had babies and one is married. I mean, they weren't even finished school, how retarded.

Sex isn't important. It spreads STDs (even if people use condoms) and it causes unwanted pregnancies. Yes, the physical aspect of a relationship is important, but right now, I want to finish school, get a good job, and hopefully achieve some dreams before I even consider getting involved in another relationship (I've been single for nearly three years).

Also, my mom has played a big role in my sex life, or lack thereof. She told me when I was 12 years old that if I ever had sex before I was married, she'd boil me in oil. If my dad had said that, I would've ignored him and gone out, screwed some guy and probably have gotten pregnant before I'd finished high school, because I fight with my dad all the time. I never fight with my mom, so when she tells me something, I listen. I'm willing to bet that I'm one of a handful 19-year-olds in the United States who's still a virgin.

I think it plays a significant role in a relationship, but only in one that your putting alot of emotion into, one that you think will last the rest of your life. b4 then sex is completely insignificant and only for pleasure, even tho the risk is great.
I'll be honest, I'm 19 and only had sex with one person. my whole life the only person i ever wanted was the person i was going to marry. we've broken up, but i don't regret it, cuz i really did love him and the memories will always bring a smile to my face. but i don't plan on being with someone else anytime soon, and hopefully i won't misjudge the situation and give my next relationship more time to develope and mature b4 making such a major decission.

Not really. Its not even on my top 10 list of priorities. And why would it be? Its so damn boring.

I've had some seriously awesome sex experiences with that one person I've ever slept with. Fun as hell if you ask me, but enough to the point that I want it to be with someone that I truly love and in a relationship that means alot to me and is mature enough to handle it.

Quote by kmbailey0005I've had some seriously awesome sex experiences with that one person I've ever slept with. Fun as hell if you ask me, but enough to the point that I want it to be with someone that I truly love and in a relationship that means alot to me and is mature enough to handle it.

Well how can you compare awesome sex when all you ever have sex with is only that one person? How do you determine that is the greatest sex you ever have?

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Quote by DeviletHmm, not sure if this is in the correct forum, well anyways, read the posts here, and especially the long one from MUPEG. I really admire her determination to keep her virginity till marriage. For sure that's possible with her personality and confidence. I agree strongly that the pressure for sex is more than ever ... So many people having babies so young, and getting all sorts of sexually transmitted dieases because of it.

I think having an addiction towards sex isn't good, unless you are committed to one person only, and not some whore who goes guy to guy, or vice versa for the other sex! Me personally, I regret not being a virgin anymore. Because I lost my moment to someone who forced me into it, I was not ready. Now my perception of sex is out of whack ... I find it hard to even enjoy it. I know it's supposed to feel good, but I don't feel a thing sometimes. My boyfriend whom I love dearly, is not very close to me, he lives in the next province over. I'm glad he understands that I have to take it slow.

I'm not rushing anymore, no rushing to get pregnant or anything until we tie the knot. Because I can't bear to lose myself to another soul I won't be spending my life with. I'm very fine with just not having sex, people have pressured me here and there lately. But not a doubt or anything stops me from saying no. I'm not addicted to it, it's not life and death for me, I can enjoy many other things.

Hahaa, I know at least two highschool friends of mine who had babies and one is married. I mean, they weren't even finished school, how retarded.

you know my girlfriend adopts quite a similar atitude as that... but well lucky me im not half as interested in having sex as getting the latest model car... (well im driving an evo at the moment ..)

Well as she said whats the point of throwing your education and life away for just a few moments of pleasure (that is if you did enjoy it)... Many teenagers nowadays are saying that you at 18 should not be a virgin stilll... i mean what the hell is that.... by mutual righteousnous you should be only making love to the one you love and not for the fun of it....
ok i rest my case..