Let this thread rot, please . Moderaters, please close this thread. For those of you that replied, I thank you for your comments. You've helped me a lot .

I don't think that there is anything such as 'too slowly' if you wanted to go at that 'normal pace' that everyone talks about then that should be a decision between you and your girlfriend. Now on the other hand, too fast is something I can say exists. BUT thats not the point, i dont think that you should be 'dating around' just for fun/the heck of it. To me, i think you should date to find that one person you end up with and become happy for the rest of your life, maybe she's the one, and if she is then everything will turn out right. Most people could say that my opinion wont matter until like college, but what is college but a few years of high school, some people dont even go to college. HECK some people dated since the 7th grade and are in the real world happily married, or still together. "SO TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTION: NO I DONT THINK SO BUT YOU SHOULD DISCUSS THIS WITH HER"

Statistically, you're both Turtles... slow........ soooOoooOoooo slow...

But on the other hand, it seems you two have a very similar personality trait... for a sophmore, you write pretty well... congrats on some good english writting skilliage... ohh, off topic...

Allow me to hurt your feelings: You're an idiot for thinking that you won't feel anything until college or after. If you two love each other, then show more affection dammit, it's been 6 freakin' months (not my area to set your pace). I wish you good luck in the future... but to get through being "shy" you must immerse yourself in situations that will require some "guts" in the end. Around your time, pulls some balls out and start becoming a man, lolz, ez to say... just try to imagine NOT DOING anything about it as an even worse off situation.

Since she's moving abroad, what if she falls from someone else? lolz... im so mean, but it happens sometimes. Not saying it will to you, but you will have a whole plethora of new thoughts...

Take Care

Quote by jasaiyajin Allow me to hurt your feelings: You're an idiot for thinking that you won't feel anything until college or after.

Hahaha, you wouldn't know how many times I've told myself that . No offense taken.

Good to hear you laugh... metaphorically speaking ofcouse... T__T

I mean ^__^

Hi there lin-san! I'll throw in my two cents.

I don't think that there's a set "rate" that a relationship should progress at. I think that the two of you should move as fast (or slow) as is comfortable. Don't feel pressured because your friend has gone farther than you. However, if you feel like you'd like to move a little faster, I would recommend talking to your gf. I have always believed that good relationships are based on good communication between both parties. And on the whole Japanese-Chinese thing... *feels torn cuz she's both*... Yet again I would talk to your gf and see if she's talked to her parents and if they have any biases against Chinese. (Though even though you said she was Japanese, an important distinction to make is between Japanese and Japanese-American... Especially regarding WWII because those were two separate things.)

i would say, do what you think is right. if you think that the time is right, go for it. if you are not sure how she will react, try touching her hand and see what she does. if she likes it she may just try to touch yours. and if you 2 really love each other then you shouldnt let your backrounds get in the way

im also a slow guy, but i learnt that some times you just have to take the plunge.

Well ahem, you should enjoy your time together. For the couple-only things, just do whatever you're comfortable with. There is no set limit on how fast you should go, as long as you're happy with it. But I think you should do a bit more and be happier with eachother, after all, she might be studying aboard soon, won't she? And since you're not getting much anywhere... then just do something you normally won't one day. You'll be suprised how much you might enjoy it, and she would too. Not to mention, most likely you will start getting more used to touching eachother. Stop worrying so much... life's too short to be spent worrying. And don't worry about the backgrounds thing so much... it'll work out somehow =)

Have faith. Im chinese too and my bf is 1/8 chinese, 7/8 filipino, luckily my family isn't traditional at all. But I can understand the racial thing.

Hope things work out ^^

Don't worry about going too slowly. The rate is yours to set. You both can wait for a long time if you wanted. Couples can go at whatever rate they want. Just don't rush it too fast.

Second paragraph: Well, don't just set the limits between each other. Yes, you both are shy but you should take it slowly at your own rate or it wouldn't work well. Let time guide you through.

Third paragraph: Hey, it's your choice to go with whoever you want. Your dad's side would be furious but that isn't the point. Yes, i'm Chinese and i'm aware that historicly, the Chinese and Japanese hate each other (and still do, some people that is). Both families can be furious but you'd have to help each other out with this situation. Patience and understanding will help. The thing is, there are good Chinese and Japanese people and there are bad Chinese and Japanese people. You'd have to get through that.

Fourth paragraph: Well, if you truely like (can't really say love for some reason) each other and have the patience to wait, then don't worry too much about it. Just talk to each other once in a while and you should be fine. Here, both of you should pursue your own course in the future and be patient with each other. Once day, you will meet each other again and you can go out again. Just tell each other (including yourself) to pursue your own goals and you both can wait for each other and meet again in the future.

Conclusion: Your own rate, talk to her about what you both want to do. Good luck. Gambate (Good luck?)

With the first post gone this thread can't go anywhere so I'll go ahead and close this.