someone grabbed her in your sight i mean clearly groping her what would your reaction be?
my boyfriend said he will beat the heck out of them and not look back but is this really the way to handle that? what is your opinion on this?

i got groped but he wasnt there and when i told him about it he became irate with me saying i should not stray from his side but i like to shop around and then it didnt help that a guy actualy came up to me and introduced himself and said "i couldnt resist after seeing you i just had to take the chance introduce myself and i didnt know if you were with someone already" he said i was so cute and man my bf was RIGHT THERE he didnt hear him tho he thought that the guy was asking directions when i told him what the guy said to me i swear i could see him turn 3 different shades of green lol

is this normal? do guys really take it that far? he said that if he had found that guy he woulda liked to have a little chat bah men are a strange species

now hes not taking me there any more because hes afraid ill get hit on or groped again IS THAT RIGHT? its just a STORE opinions PLEASE

Er...over protective? Or dun wan u to be taken away ya.. No idea...i mean i thought the women would react more if they were like well what happened to you. Ehh i duno O_O

I am not sure how other guys feel but I would have done the same thing as your boyfriend if someone was after my girl. I guess it is just animal instincts or something that causes men like me to react that way, because I not usually a mean or violent guy.

I guess I understand you question. As a girl, I think I would ask myself if he isn't worried about me or is about men's pride, you know ? I think that, if this disturbes you, maybe you should talk to him. This feeling of being a " THING " can be really awfull. I'm not saying that, if he really likes you, of course he'll take care of you. But, if you don't feel right about that... it's a sign that's something is wrong.

if i saw some dude grope my girl i would flat beat his dumbass to pieces

merged: 08-31-2006 ~ 12:09am
if i saw some dude grope my girl i would flat beat his dumbass to pieces

merged: 08-31-2006 ~ 12:09am
if i saw some dude grope my girl i would flat beat his dumbass to pieces

Errr, yes. Like any decent guy would. If I saw my girlfriend being groped, sexually harrassed in anyway by a stranger I would come and push as well a shove, throw a punch if need be. Its not about mens, pride or anything. Its about being protective.

And yes it is the right thing to do about him not take you back there. Its not being over protective or anything. Its makeing sure you feel safe, so you both can have a good time together.

Why should you go there having a feeling like you might be groped or sexually harrassed? You shouldnt.

I'd have to kick some ass.

I can understand your guy being protective of you so you dont get groped again. Thats something that shouldnt happen to anyone. As far as the guy who came up to you and said ["I couldnt resist after seeing you i just had to take the chance introduce myself and i didnt know if you were with someone already"]. To me, as a girl, that was very polite of him. He wasnt meaning any harm, he even gave you a way out if you didnt find him attractive by kinda questionsing whether or not you had a boyfrined. He was taking a risk on a girl he found to be beautiful. In my oppinion your boyfriend should be honored that another polite guy found his girl attractive, and lucky that your with him. Its the ones that hit on you and try to pick you up, with those stupid lines, that your boyfriend should protect you from.

hm.... men i agree, are a very strange species to me. I find it hard to understand their true motives and even harder to trust them. Although, if anyone tried to grope me in a mall and my bf was there i would think it completely normal for him to get protective and want to kill the other guy, then again, i'd probably want to kill the other guy too. I dunno, but i think it's sweet that your bf cares about you and what happens to you so he tries to keep you safe.

Heh, well, I'm only 13 and never had a girlfriend yet so.... Here goes!

I'm really dislike violence, but I would do some questioning with this guy (I seriously mean questioning. It's not a code word for ass kicking.). If I tell him that I am her boyfriend and he tells me to get out of the way or got to hell, then it's a brawlfest! But, if he backs off when I tell him that I am her boyfriend, then it's all O.K. Sort of. I would definately keep my guard up for her after that. I wouldn't try to restrict her from going back but if she chooses to go back, then I'm going with her! If that jerk comes back at that point and hits on her, then I'll knock his lights out! At least that's how I would handle the whole matter. Maybe I overthink things too much? Either way, any guy would at least DESIRE the beat the crap out of him. Some act on this impulse, some don't. Some act on the impulse sooner than others. So, I would say that its normal for him to want to beat him silly. It's just a guy thing, don't be too alarmed. Guys are just very protective with their partners and are willing to go to great lengths to protect them. But, if you still feel uneasy, you should talk to him about it. I'm sure that will clear the fog.

That just means he loves you. He doesn't want anyone groping gf like that, even i wouldn't like it. but about the hitting the person is different. that can be ok but its just kinda bad. i would kick the guy that touch my gf and it goes too far then i would hit him. well thats my opinion but probaly he is just trying to protect u from other guys or wants u all to himself. but u should be careful sometimes because once it goes too far something is going to happen and thats bad. so be careful next time when ur by ur self or with ur bf.

Your boyfriend is a moron. Kicking ass for groping is one thing - pissed because someone showed an interest is another.

I can tell you right now, that even before I married my husband, he would have acted like that. Like DreamTraveller said, it's called being protective. If anyone would have ever groped me, I would have punched them myself. If my now-husband would have been around, someone would have been kissing the pavement. (Maybe that's a Marine Corps thing?) And I can safely say that most, if not all of the guys I know, would react the same way. It's just disrespectful for a guy to grab a woman like that and the same goes for the girl that will grab a guy.

Being hit on in front of my s/o...In high school, the guy I was dating had one of his younger brother's friends (who was 2 years younger than me) come over and tell him that he thought I looked good. My boyfriend slammed the door in his face. When someone tells my husband that I look good, he tells them thanks and that he already knows that. Yes, he will and does step in if someone hits on me right in front of him, he always has...Given he doesn't have a fit but he does inform them that I'm spoken for. If he's not there, I inform the guy that I'm already have a guy and that he needs to flirt with someone a little more within his reach.

As for some random guy coming up to me in a store and saying "i couldnt resist after seeing you i just had to take the chance introduce myself and i didnt know if you were with someone already," I'd have to laugh at him 'cause that's one of the corniest ways to hit on somebody. And when I was done laughing and wiping away the tears, I'd tell him that he was too late and needed to get a better line.

Face it...Your boyfriend is trying to protect you and make you feel safe. If you don't want him to do it anymore, by all means, tell him but be prepared for an argument. The threatening (promising?) to beat someone into the floor for groping you is a natural reaction; going ballistic for someone hitting on you, borderlines on being mental. Could be that he's extremely jealous or, like my high school boyfriend thought, he thinks that if you know someone else could be interested, he'll lose you.

If he did something that my gf wouldn't want (ie groping), then i would break his hand ... but if he just talks to her/ like flirting, then i would trust her therefore i would not take any action

if a guy is groping u, u should beat the hell out of him. then after that the bf can finish the job lol.
assholes who grope people like that should get their dick chop off

I think you should tell him this:

If he's truly in love with you then he should respect you enough to let you make your own decisions. If he wants to boost his ego by fighting with someone else who happens to find you attractive then let him, it's his problem if somebody gets hurt.

merged: 12-14-2006 ~ 09:32pm
I think you should tell him this:

If he's truly in love with you then he should respect you enough to let you make your own decisions. If he wants to boost his ego by fighting with someone else who happens to find you attractive then let him, it's his problem if somebody gets hurt.

If I saw some guy hitting on or groping my girlfriend he will definitely wish he never got up that morning. I would beat the living daylights out of him!

Yeah it's a matter of pride and the most important aspect of protecting my girlfriend at all costs. She is a very good aspect of me and is definitely my better half.
Yip I would beat the guy to a bloody pulp.

I am saying that I am overprotective and very jealous indeed, nobody gets near her or else he will never be the same from a beating.

You know, you are an adult, you live in a free country, and you like to shop. Here's the thing. If I get groped, my husband would probably tell the guy off, really, that's it. However, if the guy just come up to me and introduce himself like what the guy did to you, my husband wouldn't do anything radical. He'll just take it as a compliment that he has a good taste, and another guy just validated it. I would still tell him that I am flattered, but I am taken.

Seriously, I think your boyfriend is over-possessive. He should start chilling out and trust you a little. I mean, what kind of a guy would just kick someone else just because the other guy introduce himself to his girlfriend?

Go and learn some self defence methods, and stand up for yourself. If he's not taking you to the damn store, you can go to the store yourself.

hey, if someone was groping my GF i'd be pissed, but i would only kick his ass if he didn't stop when i yelled at him for it. as for not bringing you places anymore or staying w/him at all times thats a little creepy/WAY overprotective. he should just trust you.

I do not like violence...but if it was for my girlfriend...I'd definitely kick hiss ass badly.

I think Id be pissed if a girl groped my boyfriend but I wouldnt stop him from going to a store or from talking to other girls

Lol, if a girl groped my husband, I'll just look at him with this amused face. It'd be interesting to see what HE did. He'd tell her that he's taken and thank her for the flattering gesture. And afterwards, we'll laugh about it. I'll actually feel good about it, knowing that my husband is, after all, attractive.

I really don't see the issue why someone has to be THAT angry that someone else find their partner attractive. Why is that a problem again?

Quote by babyLemonI really don't see the issue why someone has to be THAT angry that someone else find their partner attractive. Why is that a problem again?

Probably because we do not want to lose an important person. I would feel terrible if a person groped on my gf and think that she is attractive too. You never know if you will stay with each other forever so you want to keep it for as long time as possible.

I would probably not beat up the guy, but I would surely get mad and yell at him. If he doesnt stop *sigh*, then feel the punishment from almight heaven! My fists :P

Here's the key, tho. If you want to stay together with that person, shouldn't you be able to trust them, as opposed to having to worry about them constantly? Wondering if they would be able to control themselves when someone hit on them, wondering if they would be able to defend themselves, etc. Now, while wanting to keep the relationship going and unwilling to go through separation or losing your important person is good, I think it is more important to let them be who they are. If they ask for protection, sure, then it's a good idea to help by asking the guy/girl to stop. But otherwise, I think it is good to have that kind of trust. To be able to know that when you're not looking, both of you don't have to worry about how the other will react to someone else hitting on the other. If without your interference she can't really handle herself... heh... that's not good. And besides, why do you have to be so insecure as to having to take offence at someone finding your girlfriend attractive?