Recently, an entire college hall drove me out because I "made them feel
uncomfortable". I just thought it was funny. I mean... I dug my own grave
on this one: with the "laughing, 'ITS ALIVE! ITS ALIVE ITS ALIVE ITS
ALIVE!' when I get a homework problem done in the middle of the library"
thing, or the "sitting in another hall's common room when nobody's
there" thing, and the "snicker in an evil manner for no apparent
reason when you walk by me" thing.
But when you've been alienated, it stops being funny reeaaallly quick. So how to
I reconcile with these people? (I purposely made this one open-ended)
i dont necessarily think that they consider u as 'creepy', but i just think that
they think u're odd... um... just... be normal, they'll get over something as
silly as that. oh, and...
im only 14 so i dont think i can give good advice... ^x^;;
It's human nature. Humans tend to distrust those who are different from the
norm. And anything they don't understand, they will destroy (or in this case,
ridicule.) I'm going through the same thing...and I graduated from college a few
years back. Only they called me 'psycho.' I was the typical loner (stayed away
from crowds, never went to activities, always quiet, wore dark clothes, you
probably get the idea by now...) and everyone gave me a hard time about it.
I guess the best thing to do is to try to talk to them without acting that way.
But if there's any truth to this 'human nature,' then you've already been
labeled, and nothing you do will be good enough to get rid of that
label.
Another thing to consider: are you smart? People tend to be annoyed by people
smarter than them. Sort of like a 'lost in translation' thing.
Yes, I agree with GearStalker. When people don't understand you or have a
misunderstanding they will reject you and consider you an outsider. That's
typical of all humans, they also get annoyed when they don't know what you're
doing... people want to know but they just don't - I think that's the reason why
they must get annoyed...
Alright. Thanks, guys. Yes, I heard that people don't get along because they
fear things they don't understand.
Am I smart... well, I wouldn't exactly say no, would I?
But to contradict that statement... "Being normal". That idea never
actually crossed my mind! Whoa!
Anyways, I did manage to reconcile with those people. It turns out I can hang
out with those people when they're drunk.
I'm the kind of person who really doesn't care what other people think. I'm
extremely extroverted. You just have to tell yourself. "It doesn't matter
what others think." I get Osctrized quite often by groups of people at my
school, but then again I don't really care. I have plenty of good friends and
don't need the approval of strangers.
looools...i laugh...people think i'm creepy only cuz i smile all the time...even
when i'm mad i smile, so then they have no idea what i'm thinking or what course
of action i would take...yeah has your enemies on their toes and your friends
never understand you...lools...i'm creepy and i love it and i'm proud of it...
Heh, if people think I'm creepy, then go ahead. If I try to change how I act to
every person I meet in order to meet their standards, it's too much work, and I
would forget how to act with whom, and it just gets all confusing, so I don't
bother.
People hold their opinions rather strongly. Once you have been labeled as creepy
or weird, it is almost impossible to change that. I think you would do best just
to find another college hall/ common room to hang out.
I do not know...I personally would try to find a single friend and perhaps try
to find out what makes you so 'creepy'. but other than that, i don't really
know.
This happened to one of the guys in my hall last year. It's sad, but once people
come up with a predisposition about you others tend to follow suite. It's really
hard to change their perceptions of you even if you give a heartfelt apology, so
I'm sorry to say you're out of luck my friend. The best thing to do would be to
drift on over to the next town, take on a new identity and start over.
Oh...man,... this is another typical "Be yourself "
situation.
I simply ignore them if they refuse to listen when my "negotiating "
fails.
I personally don't give any attention to those selfish freaks who loves
labelling. You are You. I am but my oneself.Like what senior GearStalker05 had
said :
Quote by GearStalker05
It's human nature. Humans tend to distrust those who are different from the
norm. And anything they don't understand, they will destroy (or in this case,
ridicule.) I'm going through the same thing...and I graduated from college a few
years back. Only they called me 'psycho.' I was the typical loner (stayed away
from crowds, never went to activities, always quiet, wore dark clothes, you
probably get the idea by now...) and everyone gave me a hard time about
it.
I guess the best thing to do is to try to talk to them without acting that way.
But if there's any truth to this 'human nature,' then you've already been
labeled, and nothing you do will be good enough to get rid of that
"title"
Another thing to consider: are you smart? People tend to be annoyed by people
smarter than them. Sort of like a 'lost in translation' thing.
Though i will like to emphasis that, most ppl will still consider you creepy
even if you still talk it out. Haiz~ that's the prob. with low intellectants.
Take our anime loving hobby for example. You are watching some or perhaps
discussing some anime topics and your fellow pals shrug you like a plague.
"Oh, he's doing that cartoon thingie again.."
If your Labelers are ignorant and selfish lots, ignoring is preferably suited.
Talking to them just can't do much unless they are willing to listen and care
for you. That's what i did back then. You got an attitude with my lifestyle,
what gives ?
Just remember for the fact that everyone has a weird and embarressing side of
their lifestyle. You are a cheery and dedicated person from what i can tell from
your opening thread. Life goes
on, dude. Just tough luck on the society you are fitting in. Keep low your
composure of been too exaggerative on your doings. ( that is, have some common
sense before you do some weird things like what you did in the library then. )
I'll bet you label them weird ppl if you see one too. Heh, including
myself.
Things aint' so bad on your side afterall.You need some courage too to speak
out.You are just feeling lost for the moment and anxious to amend your
foolishness. Pluck up that courage of yours and try to clear some misconceptions
on your part. After all,. you know yourself
best
Tone down the act and try to make people at your wit, instead of earning the
cheap laugh with an act of randomness. You have to make jokes that other people
understand- private jokes with yourself don't really work.
Yeah... I've been noticing that moderation does help matters a bunch. "Use
common sense"... "Tone down the act". I do overdo it many times,
and I know... it makes people feel uncomfortable. I even think it feels old
doing random stuff all the time. "Be normal".
Thanks again, but still:
Why did everyone decide to jump on this thread 2 weeks after it was posted? Do
you guys coordinate your posts or something?
Like C'mon, when you do stuff like that it just looks like your craving
attention. Unfortunately the attention you get is not what you want.
Seriously think about it. If your walking down the hall and giving evil snickers
to people who pass by, what do you think that person is gonna think? Here's an
answer. "WTF? I think that guy needs medication."
See what I mean?
Try to tone things down. You want to fit in? fine, but do it in a more NORMAL
fashion. You don't want to be known as the "Creepy guy", or the
"creepy smelly guy", or the dredded "I think that guy's gonna
shoot someone" ..guy.
Get it?!
Smarten up, and lay off the caffeine. If people don't think your funny, their
probably right. Try to do things more normal, I can't emphasize that enough. Do
that and eventually they will think your not a brain case.
I'm a gonna go out and play pool, and drink beer. Because thats what normal
people do.
well.. i hang out with creepy? or rather funny group of people so watever i do,
people dun take it seriously and they just laugh it off~
i guess it's because of my friends that i started not caring about what other
people think and start acting like myself? lol..
Quote by erkicman
Why did everyone decide to jump on this thread 2 weeks after it was posted? Do
you guys coordinate your posts or something?
Why? Once someone gives a thread a bump, its more likely people will see it and
start posting on it, yeah? Since it goes up on the list.
And to answer your question, I'd say you basically don't need to get along with
people who find you creepy and don't understand you. Of course, in your case I'd
think you were rather deliberate in making people think you're creepy. Not that
it would not be... interesting... to have someone like you around. It is funny
to have someone as... entertaining... as you around. But overdoing it does make
it kinda stale, don't you think? One thing would be to have fresh new
"weirdness" to entertain the people around you and they won't find you
boring so they won't just find you creepy.
You're just being plain annoying, really. The weird thing is that you find it
"odd" that people look at you funny. If you're being a dumbass just to
be a dumbass, people will treat you like a dumbass. Thats how the world turns.
The best way to get back in "good rankings" with your floormates would
be to still hang out with them but act normal until they understand you better, and then start to slowly go back to being you.
Or the other alternative is to find people who better understand you for you.
Usually, at least I think, that people you're not acting for are much better
friends. You'll just have to find them - campuses are huge places - surely
there's an anime club, it'd be a place to start.
I'm sorry to say, but once you get labeled, it's hard getting it off. I was
always (and still am) considered weird and creepy because I had this attitude
that made me act hostie around those I don't know. In truth, it's because I'm
very shy that I tend to act cold, but they already labeled me, and 10 years
later (which means now) things haven't changed.
But it tells you one thing about those who label you; they're idiots who are
superficial and just plain stupid. If they don't give you a second chance, it's
probably better for you, because you wouldn't want to be friends with shallow
idiots.
Um... yeah. Here's the deal:
Recently, an entire college hall drove me out because I "made them feel uncomfortable". I just thought it was funny. I mean... I dug my own grave on this one: with the "laughing, 'ITS ALIVE! ITS ALIVE ITS ALIVE ITS ALIVE!' when I get a homework problem done in the middle of the library" thing, or the "sitting in another hall's common room when nobody's there" thing, and the "snicker in an evil manner for no apparent reason when you walk by me" thing.
But when you've been alienated, it stops being funny reeaaallly quick. So how to I reconcile with these people? (I purposely made this one open-ended)
i dont necessarily think that they consider u as 'creepy', but i just think that they think u're odd... um... just... be normal, they'll get over something as silly as that. oh, and...
im only 14 so i dont think i can give good advice... ^x^;;
It's human nature. Humans tend to distrust those who are different from the norm. And anything they don't understand, they will destroy (or in this case, ridicule.) I'm going through the same thing...and I graduated from college a few years back. Only they called me 'psycho.' I was the typical loner (stayed away from crowds, never went to activities, always quiet, wore dark clothes, you probably get the idea by now...) and everyone gave me a hard time about it.
I guess the best thing to do is to try to talk to them without acting that way. But if there's any truth to this 'human nature,' then you've already been labeled, and nothing you do will be good enough to get rid of that label.
Another thing to consider: are you smart? People tend to be annoyed by people smarter than them. Sort of like a 'lost in translation' thing.
Yes, I agree with GearStalker. When people don't understand you or have a misunderstanding they will reject you and consider you an outsider. That's typical of all humans, they also get annoyed when they don't know what you're doing... people want to know but they just don't - I think that's the reason why they must get annoyed...
Alright. Thanks, guys. Yes, I heard that people don't get along because they fear things they don't understand.
Am I smart... well, I wouldn't exactly say no, would I?
But to contradict that statement... "Being normal". That idea never actually crossed my mind! Whoa!
Anyways, I did manage to reconcile with those people. It turns out I can hang out with those people when they're drunk.
Thank you, and good night!
once you shoot yourself in the foot, the damage is done, healing will take a long long time depending on the damage and guage of the shotgun... ^__^
I'm the kind of person who really doesn't care what other people think. I'm extremely extroverted. You just have to tell yourself. "It doesn't matter what others think." I get Osctrized quite often by groups of people at my school, but then again I don't really care. I have plenty of good friends and don't need the approval of strangers.
looools...i laugh...people think i'm creepy only cuz i smile all the time...even when i'm mad i smile, so then they have no idea what i'm thinking or what course of action i would take...yeah has your enemies on their toes and your friends never understand you...lools...i'm creepy and i love it and i'm proud of it...
I Ignore them...
Heh, if people think I'm creepy, then go ahead. If I try to change how I act to every person I meet in order to meet their standards, it's too much work, and I would forget how to act with whom, and it just gets all confusing, so I don't bother.
People hold their opinions rather strongly. Once you have been labeled as creepy or weird, it is almost impossible to change that. I think you would do best just to find another college hall/ common room to hang out.
I do not know...I personally would try to find a single friend and perhaps try to find out what makes you so 'creepy'. but other than that, i don't really know.
This happened to one of the guys in my hall last year. It's sad, but once people come up with a predisposition about you others tend to follow suite. It's really hard to change their perceptions of you even if you give a heartfelt apology, so I'm sorry to say you're out of luck my friend. The best thing to do would be to drift on over to the next town, take on a new identity and start over.
Once they labeled you, it's not reconcilable. ;____;
Oh...man,... this is another typical "Be yourself " situation.
I simply ignore them if they refuse to listen when my "negotiating " fails.
I personally don't give any attention to those selfish freaks who loves labelling. You are You. I am but my oneself.Like what senior GearStalker05 had said :
Though i will like to emphasis that, most ppl will still consider you creepy even if you still talk it out. Haiz~ that's the prob. with low intellectants.
Take our anime loving hobby for example. You are watching some or perhaps
discussing some anime topics and your fellow pals shrug you like a plague.
"Oh, he's doing that cartoon thingie again.." 
If your Labelers are ignorant and selfish lots, ignoring is preferably suited. Talking to them just can't do much unless they are willing to listen and care for you. That's what i did back then. You got an attitude with my lifestyle, what gives ?
Just remember for the fact that everyone has a weird and embarressing side of their lifestyle. You are a cheery and dedicated person from what i can tell from your opening thread.
Life goes
on, dude. Just tough luck on the society you are fitting in. Keep low your
composure of been too exaggerative on your doings. ( that is, have some common
sense before you do some weird things like what you did in the library then. )
I'll bet you label them weird ppl if you see one too. Heh, including
myself.
Things aint' so bad on your side afterall.You need some courage too to speak out.You are just feeling lost for the moment and anxious to amend your foolishness. Pluck up that courage of yours and try to clear some misconceptions on your part. After all,. you know yourself best
Good Luck.
Tone down the act and try to make people at your wit, instead of earning the cheap laugh with an act of randomness. You have to make jokes that other people understand- private jokes with yourself don't really work.
Yeah... I've been noticing that moderation does help matters a bunch. "Use common sense"... "Tone down the act". I do overdo it many times, and I know... it makes people feel uncomfortable. I even think it feels old doing random stuff all the time. "Be normal".
Thanks again, but still:
Why did everyone decide to jump on this thread 2 weeks after it was posted? Do you guys coordinate your posts or something?
Simple solution; Stop being creepy!
Like C'mon, when you do stuff like that it just looks like your craving attention. Unfortunately the attention you get is not what you want.
Seriously think about it. If your walking down the hall and giving evil snickers to people who pass by, what do you think that person is gonna think? Here's an answer. "WTF? I think that guy needs medication."
See what I mean?
Try to tone things down. You want to fit in? fine, but do it in a more NORMAL fashion. You don't want to be known as the "Creepy guy", or the "creepy smelly guy", or the dredded "I think that guy's gonna shoot someone" ..guy.
Get it?!
Smarten up, and lay off the caffeine. If people don't think your funny, their probably right. Try to do things more normal, I can't emphasize that enough. Do that and eventually they will think your not a brain case.
I'm a gonna go out and play pool, and drink beer. Because thats what normal people do.
Later
Well my name is German, is from latin origin and it means: "the one who fights"
well.. i hang out with creepy? or rather funny group of people so watever i do, people dun take it seriously and they just laugh it off~
i guess it's because of my friends that i started not caring about what other people think and start acting like myself? lol..
Why? Once someone gives a thread a bump, its more likely people will see it and start posting on it, yeah? Since it goes up on the list.
And to answer your question, I'd say you basically don't need to get along with people who find you creepy and don't understand you. Of course, in your case I'd think you were rather deliberate in making people think you're creepy. Not that it would not be... interesting... to have someone like you around. It is funny to have someone as... entertaining... as you around. But overdoing it does make it kinda stale, don't you think? One thing would be to have fresh new "weirdness" to entertain the people around you and they won't find you boring so they won't just find you creepy.
You're just being plain annoying, really. The weird thing is that you find it "odd" that people look at you funny. If you're being a dumbass just to be a dumbass, people will treat you like a dumbass. Thats how the world turns.
The best way to get back in "good rankings" with your floormates would be to still hang out with them but act normal until they understand you better, and then start to slowly go back to being you.
Usually, at least I think, that people you're not acting for are much better
friends. You'll just have to find them - campuses are huge places - surely
there's an anime club, it'd be a place to start.
Or the other alternative is to find people who better understand you for you.
I'm sorry to say, but once you get labeled, it's hard getting it off. I was always (and still am) considered weird and creepy because I had this attitude that made me act hostie around those I don't know. In truth, it's because I'm very shy that I tend to act cold, but they already labeled me, and 10 years later (which means now) things haven't changed.
But it tells you one thing about those who label you; they're idiots who are superficial and just plain stupid. If they don't give you a second chance, it's probably better for you, because you wouldn't want to be friends with shallow idiots.