Question: Do "It" Girls feel more secure, more self-confident than
regular girls and is it true that when you're an "It" Girl, your life
is perfect and you don't have to wrry about anything?
My answer:
I'm not trying to brag about myself, but at school, I'm someone you'd consider
and "It" Girl. I'm student body president, captain of the cheerleading
squad, president of the comittee than plans parties, dances and all the fun
activities for the school, and editor of the school newspaper. I'm very popular
and I have my own clique that everybody wants to be in.
So I know what it's like to be an "It" Girl and it's not easy. True, I
have the best clothes, but that comes from my parents' credit cards and in my
case, they give me one because they know I need beautiful clothes and because
they know they will like whatever it is I bought. But for the other girls in my
clique, the clothes and all the pretty things they own come from guilt money
from their parents. Their parents are doctors, lawyers, bussiness people that
are waaaaayyyy to busy to be there for them and they come home everyday to an
empty apartment. (We don't have real houses in Manhattan, owning the entire
floor is as big as it's gonna get). That's one issue.
The other is, we have to dress, eat, talk, walk, act to a certain standard in
order to stay in the clique and remain popular. We have to make good grades
without being geeks. We have to go to all the parties, and throw the best
parties. The only thing harder than getting into The Clique is staying in it.
We don't know what people really think about us and who our real friends are. I
only trust my best friend who is, thank goodness, in my clique. But other
girls,.....I'm not so sure.
So what do you think? Reply to this and tell me what you think about the
"it" girls in your school, or if you're one yourself, tell me about
how you feel.
You sound like you and your little group are from well-to-do families. Well, I'm
not. And I still come home to an empty house, because both my parents are
working. You don't need beautiful clothes anymore than I need a suped-up
computer, though I'd still like to have one. You make your way of life to be
some sort of struggle, when its a way of life you could easily choose not to be
in. Try being a geek. Its liberating.
As for what I think about the so-called 'It' girls... I don't. You may think you
are popular, but I'd reckon a majority of the populous couldn't care less, and
the feeling is probably mutual. Either that, or you go to a very scary school.
In my present situation I wouldn't mind who is an It girl as you put it and who
isn't. I'm at Uni now, and so everyone is more or less on an even footing -
everyone has to work to pass their course, no matter what it is. But when I was
still at school, I really didn't like people in little popular Cliques - I
always felt they didn't need to work for their money or whatever. I'd walk
around and see liars, backstabbers, lazy people who didn't know what work was,
who had never wanted for anything a day in their life. Spoiled rich kids, or
just people who thought they were better than others if they had better clothes
or a better house or a better home life. Not that I had a crap homelife, but I
still worked for what I got. I despised people I thought of as this because they
seemed shallow, not worth my attention if all they cared about were throwing the
best parties or wearing the best clothes. It seemed boring, and something to
sneer at rather than something I ever wanted to be.
Of course, in saying that I have no idea what your Clique is like, or if you
have a good homelife, or if you look down on other people who are not as
fortunate as you. But I'm betting that some hate you, and I'm betting that a lot
of people simp,y couldn't give a damn either way.
oh yeah, you have no idea how many people hate me. But people in my group come
from the same type of family. We have parents who make a lot of money and are
always busy. Our parents aren\'t there for us, so we can do whatever we want.
you\'re right that we get what we want and are very spoiled but when you always
get what you want, you end up not knowing what you want anymore.
I'm not what you'd call rich, but I am upper middle class, and I hate asking for
money from my parents. I also hate people just up and giving me 'charity' money,
as I've come to call it.
Granted I wasn't always this way. When I was younger I was always asking for
money and was indeed a very spoiled kid. However, when I started seeing some of
the things other people had to go through and how sad (for lack of a better
word) a lot of peoples' situations were I started realizing how good I actually
had it. I also started to hate myself for being so selfish. That was around the
middle of middle school.
Now my parents practically have to twist my arm to get me to accept money. LOL,
I can't even come up with a Christmas list anymore (I'm not 'Christian' but my Dad and sisters are)
Now with a little background you should be able to tell what my position is.
I'm sympathetic but terribly intolerant of rich spoiled people. Because,
honestly, being spoiled is just as bad as being poor. It's hard to explain but a
good comparison would be either freezing to death or burning alive. Neither one
leads anywhere good but one is far more subtle than the other. Burning alive,
you feel intense and violent pain and in a short time it's over. Freezing to
death, after a short time you no longer feel it but eventually it will claim
you.
So if you're spoiled and you show it....don't try to justify it to me. There is
no excuse. Don't try to help me either. Chances are you'll end up regretting it.
Also, I don't like spoiled rotten people, but I'm OK with kind-hearted
people.
Being spoiled doesn't make you a bad person. It just puts you in a very
dangerous situation.
HA HA HA HA! Enough of the thoughtful chit chat It's
time to get back to life
ahhh, thanks. you\'re like, the first person to even try to get it. i\'m
seriously spoiled rotten but I don\'t look down my nose at people and I try not
to act snobby and I\'m not a mean girl so.....don\'t think I\'m one.
I am long since out of High School, but I'm strangely intrigued by your thread.
I'm not entirely sure what to make of it, and to me it does sound as if you are
trying to brag about your "status".
I personally dislike the attitude of children with wealthy parents because 9
times out of 10 they act like spoiled rotten brats, who think they are better
than everyone because of their money and even when they grow up they still act
that way.
As you said you have your little "clique" and if it's like any other,
people who don't fit in your "clique" are often looked down upon and
treated poorly. Even the word "clique" itself speaks levels to me of
how people percieve themselves. I do not have a "clique" I have
friends, plain and simple, rich and poor.
I don't think I answered your question, for which I apologize, but I thought I
would express my opinion on your "IT Girls".
I\'m not trying to brag about my status, I\'m just trying to see what people
think about girls like me. Now that I know, I guess you don\'t like us very much
do you? You say that we look down on you, but what about what you say about us?
It\'s not so fair now, is it? I\'m not trying to criticize you, I\'m just trying
to say that not everything is as it seems and not everyone is exactly like
people from the group of friends (I\'m trying to avoid the word clique). I\'ve
heard lots of people say bad things about us and I just want people to know that
we\'re not that horrible and if you even try to see beyond that, you can see
that there\'s some good things about us too.
lol, yeah, I wasn't sure about what "it" girls meant either.
Well, I remember this sort of thing only was in highschool. I don't look down at
anyone personally, of course there are exceptions. But in school, I treated
everyone the same, I couldn't care less if they were rich, popular, pretty,
ugly, poor, whatever. I'll talk to anyone, and be blunt, doesn't matter if they
are my friends even.
For this clique you keep talking about, what exactly is so good about this
status? It'll be gone once highschool is over, TRUST ME. Sounds like more
trouble than good.
Haha, I can't stop people from acting how they do. But I don't understand why
some make life so complicated for themselves.
I agree with fluke and Devilet. Over here we don't have "it" girls, in
fact I only thought they existed in Lindsay Lohan movies. So to me this sounds
rather bizarre and slightly amusing, probably because of the very down to earth
upbringing I've had. Like fluke, I have friends who are rich and poor, white and
coloured; we are defined moreso by our personalities rather than our
backgrounds. I'm not criticising you, but I'm at odds to why you would want to
post something like this.
I think you should put things into perspective. If being an "it" girl
is not easy, then you should remember that it's a path that you *chose* and can
change. Alot of people don't get the opportunity to choose what they want to be.
Uhm you sound like those conceited little bit--es that used to be in my high
school. They always walk around thinking they're better than everyone else and
that they set the status quo. They think they can get away with anything just
because mommy or daddy is a lawyer, a doctor, a CEO, or some other crap like
that.
I hated your type. Anytime I would try to talk to you, you would just pretend I
wasn't there. Do you know how it feels to have people look THROUGH you? not just
past you but THROUGH you. The only time you would even pretend to be nice was in
class when you needed help with homework or something, and when you found out
that I was a dumbass you ignored me even more. Anytime a "clique"
forms theres always discrimination against people outside of it. From the way we
might act, dress, or talk. You'll find some way to keep us out just because
we're a little different than you.
If you think it's hard to grow up rich always getting what you want, then think
about this. I grew up in a poor family. We rarely had enough money at times to
buy new clothes and nice things for ourselves. My mom was rarely at home because
she was out working 2 jobs just trying to help us survive in the world. I had to
work hard to get through high school and now going through college the only way
I can pay is from student loans. Pretty soon my sister is going to go to college
and I'm going to have to get a full-time job to help her get through it. So
think about that when your at your million dollar home, lying on your $5000 bed,
snuggling your $200 beanie baby.
Having to buy expensive clothes and cars and acting a certain way to stay in
that
"it" crowd? Please, that's just some half-assed attempt at finding a
reason to your materialistic, shallow ways.
Fortunatly, i live in a country, where those things are not so common... because
schools are not public for every one, there are many kinds of schools and if you
have money, you go to a expensive school..if you dont then a chiper school..if
you dont have almos any, then there are the public schools... so you can say we
are separate by educational system, here are not common that kind of groups...
usually groups of friends are from diferent levels..in my case, im working
now... i was never in a group, but all my class was a sole group... i have rich
friends, poor friends... and we get along pretty well... in your case i just
have to say: real life its not like school, enjoy what you can, reality is near
and it can be as harsh as death itself.
Reading your post and the responses its gotten I must say I am somewhat
confused. You've said that you want to know how people feel about "it"
girls, but I think you need to expand on that question a bit more to get the
real answer your looking for. As I see it the answer to your original question
can only be good, bad, or I dont care. And, IMO, that doesnt help you in the
slightest. Why do you want an answer? What caused you to look for it in the
first place? Why does the answer matter? I'm sure there is more to it but I just
got out of work and my brains starting to shut down so I'll leave it at that.
I want to know the answer because people want to know what other people think
about them. And yes, I have the general idea now. I get it that you like me and
people like me's guts.
To Benjikun7: Wow, I'm sorry the popular girls in your school treated you the
way they do but understand that there are popular girls who aren't so mean. And
no, I don't really know what it's like to have people look through me but I'm
sure it must be bad.
merged: 10-06-2006 ~ 02:03pm
Sorry to everybody who ever got treated badly by a popular girl. Really, I am.
But please, don't lump every popular girls as Mean Girls.
To Benjikun7: Wow, I'm sorry the popular girls in your school treated you the
way they do but understand that there are popular girls who aren't so mean. And
no, I don't really know what it's like to have people look through me but I'm
sure it must be bad.
merged: 10-06-2006 ~ 02:03pm
Sorry to everybody who ever got treated badly by a popular girl. Really, I am.
But please, don't lump every popular girls as Mean
Girls.
You don't have to apologize for them. You're a different person, but I hope that
after reading all this that you get a sense of what we feel as outsiders looking
in to your group. I was harsh in my previous post because all that stuff from
the past came boiling up again. I just want you to know that there are other
people who are different from you and that before doing anything to them you
should stop to think about what their story is, where they come from, and where
they want to go in life.
Hmmm, i dunno how you would define an "it" girl, but for me, I'm just
an average girl and i like it this way (: And i wonder who created the clique?
actually, this feels quite unfair to me, its like, ya, you're rich, good. but
why emphasis on it? some people who're pooler or as so you said, not as rich,
parents who are not lawyers, ceo.... how would they feel? its like you're
flaunting your wealth and looking down.... And i believe that its not right, why
must there be different status over money... its not like you wanted to be
poor.... what you do, have its own consequences, i think you better think twice
before joining any cliques and this stuff, wouldn't last long. also, you really
want to know about people's opninons or you want to prove you're an
"It" girl but is a nice one? because thats what some of your replies
seem to imply. maybe wrong though x.x
but yeah, everyone's different, we live life in a different way. we all have our
own opinons and this is mine.
Jasaiyajin: that's very nice of you, thank you.
Thank you everybody for your opinion, I guess I've always been kind of clueless
about how others are and how they think about me but I get it now and I'm not
gonna try to change the world and try to get everybody in my school to stop
doing what they do which is cliques but I'll be more considerate of people who
are outside their clique. It's not like I've ever been mean to them, I just
kinda go with the flow. But yeah....
I got nothin' against them or you. I am against mean people. They tick me off.
I've known many "It" girls. Had a crush on some of them too. And yes,
many are the stereotypical exclusive, accepting certain types of people kind.
The rich ones throw supersweet sixteens or quinces (latin american/spanish
version where the parties are held when the girl turns fifteen). I have never
been invited to one and I know that because I am a normal boy. Not very handsome
and not very popular either. I'm like a guy in those movies where the guy is
poor and he sees a rich girl that he falls in love with but will never have.
I never had anything against "It" girls except for the fact that they
are mean. I think you're a nice person. I don't care if you don't accept me, but
I have already accepted you.
awww, that's so sweet. That's very generous of you to accept me and not care
whether or not I accept you. So.....how do you feel, big guy, to be the first
boy to respond to this thread? You should get a ribbon.
If you're looking for public opinion of "IT" girls, you're gonna find
a whole lot of negativity, & really thats the standard, "IT" folk
are percieved as shallow, self-absorbed & generally, pretty naff people.
Whether or not thats fair is another matter entirely
In my experience, the "IT" crowd aren't great, but I can see where
someone who is lamenting their position is coming from. Everyone else gets to be
themselves if their personalities are strong enough, & really just be happy,
having real friends & all the rest.
What I would say to you if you do feel truely uncomfortable with your position
is this;
Try just being yourself, are you such already? I don't know, but in the end, the
only people that matter in a person's life are those who accept them for who
they are. If you see clothes you like/feel comfortable in, then those are the
ones for you if you can afford them, doesn't matter if they cost a million, or a
penny, just be comfortable in your own skin.
Of course, this could get you out of the "clique" super fast, or start
a trend that could get old & end up the same as things are now. But you
should never, ever be someone you're not.
Say what you want if it hurts no-one.
Do what you want if it hurts no-one.
If it does hurt someone, well, sometimes it can't be helped, the important thing
is that you are you & that you're not trying to hurt anyone.
Why thank you manhattanitgirl. The ribbon should be given to someone else. I
don't think I'm the first guy to post here. Well, thanks again! Catch ya later.
Question: Do "It" Girls feel more secure, more self-confident than regular girls and is it true that when you're an "It" Girl, your life is perfect and you don't have to wrry about anything?
My answer:
I'm not trying to brag about myself, but at school, I'm someone you'd consider and "It" Girl. I'm student body president, captain of the cheerleading squad, president of the comittee than plans parties, dances and all the fun activities for the school, and editor of the school newspaper. I'm very popular and I have my own clique that everybody wants to be in.
So I know what it's like to be an "It" Girl and it's not easy. True, I have the best clothes, but that comes from my parents' credit cards and in my case, they give me one because they know I need beautiful clothes and because they know they will like whatever it is I bought. But for the other girls in my clique, the clothes and all the pretty things they own come from guilt money from their parents. Their parents are doctors, lawyers, bussiness people that are waaaaayyyy to busy to be there for them and they come home everyday to an empty apartment. (We don't have real houses in Manhattan, owning the entire floor is as big as it's gonna get). That's one issue.
The other is, we have to dress, eat, talk, walk, act to a certain standard in order to stay in the clique and remain popular. We have to make good grades without being geeks. We have to go to all the parties, and throw the best parties. The only thing harder than getting into The Clique is staying in it.
We don't know what people really think about us and who our real friends are. I only trust my best friend who is, thank goodness, in my clique. But other girls,.....I'm not so sure.
So what do you think? Reply to this and tell me what you think about the "it" girls in your school, or if you're one yourself, tell me about how you feel.
...lol.
You sound like you and your little group are from well-to-do families. Well, I'm not. And I still come home to an empty house, because both my parents are working. You don't need beautiful clothes anymore than I need a suped-up computer, though I'd still like to have one. You make your way of life to be some sort of struggle, when its a way of life you could easily choose not to be in. Try being a geek. Its liberating.
As for what I think about the so-called 'It' girls... I don't. You may think you are popular, but I'd reckon a majority of the populous couldn't care less, and the feeling is probably mutual. Either that, or you go to a very scary school.
In my present situation I wouldn't mind who is an It girl as you put it and who isn't. I'm at Uni now, and so everyone is more or less on an even footing - everyone has to work to pass their course, no matter what it is. But when I was still at school, I really didn't like people in little popular Cliques - I always felt they didn't need to work for their money or whatever. I'd walk around and see liars, backstabbers, lazy people who didn't know what work was, who had never wanted for anything a day in their life. Spoiled rich kids, or just people who thought they were better than others if they had better clothes or a better house or a better home life. Not that I had a crap homelife, but I still worked for what I got. I despised people I thought of as this because they seemed shallow, not worth my attention if all they cared about were throwing the best parties or wearing the best clothes. It seemed boring, and something to sneer at rather than something I ever wanted to be.
Of course, in saying that I have no idea what your Clique is like, or if you have a good homelife, or if you look down on other people who are not as fortunate as you. But I'm betting that some hate you, and I'm betting that a lot of people simp,y couldn't give a damn either way.
oh yeah, you have no idea how many people hate me. But people in my group come from the same type of family. We have parents who make a lot of money and are always busy. Our parents aren\'t there for us, so we can do whatever we want. you\'re right that we get what we want and are very spoiled but when you always get what you want, you end up not knowing what you want anymore.
I'm not what you'd call rich, but I am upper middle class, and I hate asking for money from my parents. I also hate people just up and giving me 'charity' money, as I've come to call it.
(I'm not 'Christian' but my Dad and sisters are)
Granted I wasn't always this way. When I was younger I was always asking for money and was indeed a very spoiled kid. However, when I started seeing some of the things other people had to go through and how sad (for lack of a better word) a lot of peoples' situations were I started realizing how good I actually had it. I also started to hate myself for being so selfish. That was around the middle of middle school.
Now my parents practically have to twist my arm to get me to accept money. LOL, I can't even come up with a Christmas list anymore
Now with a little background you should be able to tell what my position is. I'm sympathetic but terribly intolerant of rich spoiled people. Because, honestly, being spoiled is just as bad as being poor. It's hard to explain but a good comparison would be either freezing to death or burning alive. Neither one leads anywhere good but one is far more subtle than the other. Burning alive, you feel intense and violent pain and in a short time it's over. Freezing to death, after a short time you no longer feel it but eventually it will claim you.
So if you're spoiled and you show it....don't try to justify it to me. There is no excuse. Don't try to help me either. Chances are you'll end up regretting it. Also, I don't like spoiled rotten people, but I'm OK with kind-hearted people.
Being spoiled doesn't make you a bad person. It just puts you in a very dangerous situation.
HA HA HA HA! Enough of the thoughtful chit chat
ahhh, thanks. you\'re like, the first person to even try to get it. i\'m seriously spoiled rotten but I don\'t look down my nose at people and I try not to act snobby and I\'m not a mean girl so.....don\'t think I\'m one.
I am long since out of High School, but I'm strangely intrigued by your thread. I'm not entirely sure what to make of it, and to me it does sound as if you are trying to brag about your "status".
I personally dislike the attitude of children with wealthy parents because 9 times out of 10 they act like spoiled rotten brats, who think they are better than everyone because of their money and even when they grow up they still act that way.
As you said you have your little "clique" and if it's like any other, people who don't fit in your "clique" are often looked down upon and treated poorly. Even the word "clique" itself speaks levels to me of how people percieve themselves. I do not have a "clique" I have friends, plain and simple, rich and poor.
I don't think I answered your question, for which I apologize, but I thought I would express my opinion on your "IT Girls".
I\'m not trying to brag about my status, I\'m just trying to see what people think about girls like me. Now that I know, I guess you don\'t like us very much do you? You say that we look down on you, but what about what you say about us? It\'s not so fair now, is it? I\'m not trying to criticize you, I\'m just trying to say that not everything is as it seems and not everyone is exactly like people from the group of friends (I\'m trying to avoid the word clique). I\'ve heard lots of people say bad things about us and I just want people to know that we\'re not that horrible and if you even try to see beyond that, you can see that there\'s some good things about us too.
I thought you meant the "it" girls, the weird ugly psychopathic ogre bionic girls... I guess I came to the right place... ^__^
jkjk
I really don't give a damn about your life, just as long as you're not a bitch. ^_^
Too much drama, I'm savin' it for my mamma... <3
That\'s one of the nicest thing people\'s said about me in this thread. Thanks. I\'m j/k. I\'m not a bitch, don\'t plan to be either.
lol, yeah, I wasn't sure about what "it" girls meant either.
Well, I remember this sort of thing only was in highschool. I don't look down at anyone personally, of course there are exceptions. But in school, I treated everyone the same, I couldn't care less if they were rich, popular, pretty, ugly, poor, whatever. I'll talk to anyone, and be blunt, doesn't matter if they are my friends even.
For this clique you keep talking about, what exactly is so good about this status? It'll be gone once highschool is over, TRUST ME. Sounds like more trouble than good.
Haha, I can't stop people from acting how they do. But I don't understand why some make life so complicated for themselves.
I agree with fluke and Devilet. Over here we don't have "it" girls, in fact I only thought they existed in Lindsay Lohan movies. So to me this sounds rather bizarre and slightly amusing, probably because of the very down to earth upbringing I've had. Like fluke, I have friends who are rich and poor, white and coloured; we are defined moreso by our personalities rather than our backgrounds. I'm not criticising you, but I'm at odds to why you would want to post something like this.
I think you should put things into perspective. If being an "it" girl is not easy, then you should remember that it's a path that you *chose* and can change. Alot of people don't get the opportunity to choose what they want to be.
Uhm you sound like those conceited little bit--es that used to be in my high school. They always walk around thinking they're better than everyone else and that they set the status quo. They think they can get away with anything just because mommy or daddy is a lawyer, a doctor, a CEO, or some other crap like that.
I hated your type. Anytime I would try to talk to you, you would just pretend I wasn't there. Do you know how it feels to have people look THROUGH you? not just past you but THROUGH you. The only time you would even pretend to be nice was in class when you needed help with homework or something, and when you found out that I was a dumbass you ignored me even more. Anytime a "clique" forms theres always discrimination against people outside of it. From the way we might act, dress, or talk. You'll find some way to keep us out just because we're a little different than you.
If you think it's hard to grow up rich always getting what you want, then think about this. I grew up in a poor family. We rarely had enough money at times to buy new clothes and nice things for ourselves. My mom was rarely at home because she was out working 2 jobs just trying to help us survive in the world. I had to work hard to get through high school and now going through college the only way I can pay is from student loans. Pretty soon my sister is going to go to college and I'm going to have to get a full-time job to help her get through it. So think about that when your at your million dollar home, lying on your $5000 bed, snuggling your $200 beanie baby.
Having to buy expensive clothes and cars and acting a certain way to stay in that
"it" crowd? Please, that's just some half-assed attempt at finding a reason to your materialistic, shallow ways.
Fortunatly, i live in a country, where those things are not so common... because schools are not public for every one, there are many kinds of schools and if you have money, you go to a expensive school..if you dont then a chiper school..if you dont have almos any, then there are the public schools... so you can say we are separate by educational system, here are not common that kind of groups... usually groups of friends are from diferent levels..in my case, im working now... i was never in a group, but all my class was a sole group... i have rich friends, poor friends... and we get along pretty well... in your case i just have to say: real life its not like school, enjoy what you can, reality is near and it can be as harsh as death itself.
Reading your post and the responses its gotten I must say I am somewhat confused. You've said that you want to know how people feel about "it" girls, but I think you need to expand on that question a bit more to get the real answer your looking for. As I see it the answer to your original question can only be good, bad, or I dont care. And, IMO, that doesnt help you in the slightest. Why do you want an answer? What caused you to look for it in the first place? Why does the answer matter? I'm sure there is more to it but I just got out of work and my brains starting to shut down so I'll leave it at that.
I want to know the answer because people want to know what other people think about them. And yes, I have the general idea now. I get it that you like me and people like me's guts.
To Benjikun7: Wow, I'm sorry the popular girls in your school treated you the way they do but understand that there are popular girls who aren't so mean. And no, I don't really know what it's like to have people look through me but I'm sure it must be bad.
merged: 10-06-2006 ~ 02:03pm
Sorry to everybody who ever got treated badly by a popular girl. Really, I am. But please, don't lump every popular girls as Mean Girls.
To Benjikun7: Wow, I'm sorry the popular girls in your school treated you the way they do but understand that there are popular girls who aren't so mean. And no, I don't really know what it's like to have people look through me but I'm sure it must be bad.
merged: 10-06-2006 ~ 02:03pm
Sorry to everybody who ever got treated badly by a popular girl. Really, I am. But please, don't lump every popular girls as Mean Girls.
You don't have to apologize for them. You're a different person, but I hope that after reading all this that you get a sense of what we feel as outsiders looking in to your group. I was harsh in my previous post because all that stuff from the past came boiling up again. I just want you to know that there are other people who are different from you and that before doing anything to them you should stop to think about what their story is, where they come from, and where they want to go in life.
Hmmm, i dunno how you would define an "it" girl, but for me, I'm just an average girl and i like it this way (: And i wonder who created the clique? actually, this feels quite unfair to me, its like, ya, you're rich, good. but why emphasis on it? some people who're pooler or as so you said, not as rich, parents who are not lawyers, ceo.... how would they feel? its like you're flaunting your wealth and looking down.... And i believe that its not right, why must there be different status over money... its not like you wanted to be poor.... what you do, have its own consequences, i think you better think twice before joining any cliques and this stuff, wouldn't last long. also, you really want to know about people's opninons or you want to prove you're an "It" girl but is a nice one? because thats what some of your replies seem to imply. maybe wrong though x.x
but yeah, everyone's different, we live life in a different way. we all have our own opinons and this is mine.
You have a passion for life, you're kind and gentle... right?
The feeling is envy... your positive is others negative. ^__^
The simple answer is the best. <3
Jasaiyajin: that's very nice of you, thank you.
Thank you everybody for your opinion, I guess I've always been kind of clueless about how others are and how they think about me but I get it now and I'm not gonna try to change the world and try to get everybody in my school to stop doing what they do which is cliques but I'll be more considerate of people who are outside their clique. It's not like I've ever been mean to them, I just kinda go with the flow. But yeah....
I got nothin' against them or you. I am against mean people. They tick me off. I've known many "It" girls. Had a crush on some of them too. And yes, many are the stereotypical exclusive, accepting certain types of people kind. The rich ones throw supersweet sixteens or quinces (latin american/spanish version where the parties are held when the girl turns fifteen). I have never been invited to one and I know that because I am a normal boy. Not very handsome and not very popular either. I'm like a guy in those movies where the guy is poor and he sees a rich girl that he falls in love with but will never have.
I never had anything against "It" girls except for the fact that they are mean. I think you're a nice person. I don't care if you don't accept me, but I have already accepted you.
awww, that's so sweet. That's very generous of you to accept me and not care whether or not I accept you. So.....how do you feel, big guy, to be the first boy to respond to this thread? You should get a ribbon.
If you're looking for public opinion of "IT" girls, you're gonna find a whole lot of negativity, & really thats the standard, "IT" folk are percieved as shallow, self-absorbed & generally, pretty naff people. Whether or not thats fair is another matter entirely
In my experience, the "IT" crowd aren't great, but I can see where someone who is lamenting their position is coming from. Everyone else gets to be themselves if their personalities are strong enough, & really just be happy, having real friends & all the rest.
What I would say to you if you do feel truely uncomfortable with your position is this;
Try just being yourself, are you such already? I don't know, but in the end, the only people that matter in a person's life are those who accept them for who they are. If you see clothes you like/feel comfortable in, then those are the ones for you if you can afford them, doesn't matter if they cost a million, or a penny, just be comfortable in your own skin.
Of course, this could get you out of the "clique" super fast, or start a trend that could get old & end up the same as things are now. But you should never, ever be someone you're not.
Say what you want if it hurts no-one.
Do what you want if it hurts no-one.
If it does hurt someone, well, sometimes it can't be helped, the important thing is that you are you & that you're not trying to hurt anyone.
Why thank you manhattanitgirl. The ribbon should be given to someone else. I don't think I'm the first guy to post here. Well, thanks again! Catch ya later.