Hi Everyone!
Lately I have been having all of these dreams where I am deeply in love with
someone. Each dream is a different person, sometimes I know them and sometimes I
don't. But the dreams are always about being deeply in love with someone. They
make me feel warm and safe and I don't want them to end.
The strange thing is that for the longest time now I have been telling myself
that I don't want to date anyone and I don't want to be in love. My life is too
busy for someone else to be in it. Plus I never seem to attract
"Normal" people. So I have told myself that I know I will never truly
fall in love again.
Ok so this is where I need your guys' help! Are these dreams really telling me
that I do want to fall in love with someone or are they just random dreams?
What does it mean that every time I have the dream it is always someone new? And
last but not least, if I do want to fall in love with someone how do I make
myself not be afraid of it?
It is not like I have a person in mind to fall in love with, I am just afraid
that I am putting off this signal that tells people that I don't want to be with
anyone so they never try to have feelings like that for me.
Totally Confused!
I'm kinda like you. I don't want to get a girlfriend cuz girls are SO MEAN! Yet
my other self wants to get a girl. If you put work ahead of emotional matters,
then it's up to you.
1. Thier dreams from your other self (subconcious) telling you the joys of love
or whatnot. You yourself don't portray that but its up to you.
2. I don't know why its different dreams.
3. If you decide its time, then just be yourself. If you force yourself, the
result is almost never that great. If you never show interest, than others will
just want to be friends with you, nothing more, or not. The time for you to show
your signal is when someone displays an interest for you. Thats the time to
decide. If that someone figures out you have no interest in him, then he'll ust
move on to the next girl.
Sorry I'm not much help but my experiences with stuff like this are dim.
me too, for the longest time i've been telling myself "im too busy for a
bf. i dont need one. i can wait" i have dreams about this boy (not diff
though) and its clearly a signal that i want to go out again but i just dont
want it yet.
just be you. if you are afraid, tell him you're afraid. relationships have to
have communication because he cant always second guess waht you're thinking. hmm
i feel like a hypocrite now. *sigh
I dream of loves everynight when i go to bed. but it is just a dream, or a story
about what i want from my love. I don't know how my love would be, and now I
think I'd better learn to be a successful person, then I will love!
...
well i would say...do you think about love alot? do you see love in your life
alot? like your parents, freinds that are couples?
i have no idea...but i get wacky dreams alot...not abou love...but about things
like me being strong and able to protect those i love and care about...
but then that is my obsession, so it is not weird i dream things like that.
your dreams could be due to real life you're too busy for it. somehow, dreams
are inverted from reality, like something you don't have in real life but will
have it in dreams.
i feel you need not be 'controlled' by dreams. just take it like reading a
novel, or keep them in your heart. never ever be seized by dreams, this is so
that you won't feel ankward in reality.
act normally as usual, try not to think too much about it, except during your
private moments. i did had a dream of meeting a girl whose name i've never heard
before in my life! though now i'm 'waiting' her to appear in my dream again or
in real life, it's been a year already since then. maybe i will. maybe not.
It's obvious u have a deep rooted fear of commitment?! right?! Has anyone ever
betrayed you in life severely? Only you can figure out where your emotions are
coming from - usually it's your childhood programming that's the highest
influence of how you perceive this world. The mind is a powerful thing, it can
make you feel anything almost if you really want to... so if you believe that
you are putting something out into the world, then you are.
The nice thing is - r u 23? - well, around this age/time most people tend to
discover themselves from the insides and maybe start to settle their belief
system down, but I never did. Always seeking the answers, always looking for
truth, some may have found it, yet some are still figuring things out. What am I
saying?!
Just keep looking deep inside of yourself and asking questions - talk to people
in depth about what you feel and where your emotions stem from! A simple answer
cannot be given with an incomplete analysis of your being. That's why at this
point none of us can really tell you much except generic advice from our own
perspectives correlating with what you wrote.
I have the same situation with you, i am not interested in going into a
relationship now and i`m very sure of it! But almost every nite i will be having
different guys in different dreams and we fall deeply in love and was very
touching! I am confuse, does it means that i want a relation and the dream is to
satisfied me or izzit jus coincidence and watching too much drama? The dream was
very real...
I have these dreams too..but not too often. Sometimes with ppl I know but don't
feel anything towards them but sometimes it's with ppl that I do.
hm....maybe you feel lonely and insecure? like you want to feel loved..
oh..try not to think to much about it so that you won't be afraid, like have
positive thinking!
don't always think of the remotest that could happen..
Dreams are dreams. It could happen "one day" or it won't happen at
all. This "deeply in love" stuff is probably something you really want
"deep down" but you don't admit it. Those dreams are telling you that
you "shouldn't" be telling yourself that you won't love and/or find
someone. Just don't say that. It keeps repeating for the fact that you
"try" to stay away from others.
I'm sure you just want to be loved. Not cheated on. Even though it is a
different person, you desire the love. Someone new doesn't necessarly mean that
you know/don't know them and you just "want" love. You just want to be
with them and feel good.
If you do want to fall in love, you have to let time run. Of course you will be
afraid. The thing is that you should slowly take it. Take note of what happens.
Have faith. You both have to build trust in time after. It doesn't just come.
Being afraid is a part of it.
Of course there will be times where you will be sad and happy but the thing is
that you both trust each other and have patience to wait for each other. Just
take it nice and coll (and slow!)
Hi Everyone!
Lately I have been having all of these dreams where I am deeply in love with someone. Each dream is a different person, sometimes I know them and sometimes I don't. But the dreams are always about being deeply in love with someone. They make me feel warm and safe and I don't want them to end.
The strange thing is that for the longest time now I have been telling myself that I don't want to date anyone and I don't want to be in love. My life is too busy for someone else to be in it. Plus I never seem to attract "Normal" people. So I have told myself that I know I will never truly fall in love again.
Ok so this is where I need your guys' help! Are these dreams really telling me that I do want to fall in love with someone or are they just random dreams?
What does it mean that every time I have the dream it is always someone new? And last but not least, if I do want to fall in love with someone how do I make myself not be afraid of it?
It is not like I have a person in mind to fall in love with, I am just afraid that I am putting off this signal that tells people that I don't want to be with anyone so they never try to have feelings like that for me.
Totally Confused!
I'm kinda like you. I don't want to get a girlfriend cuz girls are SO MEAN! Yet my other self wants to get a girl. If you put work ahead of emotional matters, then it's up to you.
1. Thier dreams from your other self (subconcious) telling you the joys of love or whatnot. You yourself don't portray that but its up to you.
2. I don't know why its different dreams.
3. If you decide its time, then just be yourself. If you force yourself, the result is almost never that great. If you never show interest, than others will just want to be friends with you, nothing more, or not. The time for you to show your signal is when someone displays an interest for you. Thats the time to decide. If that someone figures out you have no interest in him, then he'll ust move on to the next girl.
Sorry I'm not much help but my experiences with stuff like this are dim.
me too, for the longest time i've been telling myself "im too busy for a bf. i dont need one. i can wait" i have dreams about this boy (not diff though) and its clearly a signal that i want to go out again but i just dont want it yet.
just be you. if you are afraid, tell him you're afraid. relationships have to have communication because he cant always second guess waht you're thinking. hmm i feel like a hypocrite now. *sigh
I dream of loves everynight when i go to bed. but it is just a dream, or a story about what i want from my love. I don't know how my love would be, and now I think I'd better learn to be a successful person, then I will love!
me too, im way too buzy for a gf...but theres some part of me that says that i should get one too.....
...
well i would say...do you think about love alot? do you see love in your life alot? like your parents, freinds that are couples?
i have no idea...but i get wacky dreams alot...not abou love...but about things like me being strong and able to protect those i love and care about...
but then that is my obsession, so it is not weird i dream things like that.
your dreams could be due to real life you're too busy for it. somehow, dreams are inverted from reality, like something you don't have in real life but will have it in dreams.
i feel you need not be 'controlled' by dreams. just take it like reading a novel, or keep them in your heart. never ever be seized by dreams, this is so that you won't feel ankward in reality.
act normally as usual, try not to think too much about it, except during your private moments. i did had a dream of meeting a girl whose name i've never heard before in my life! though now i'm 'waiting' her to appear in my dream again or in real life, it's been a year already since then. maybe i will. maybe not.
It's obvious u have a deep rooted fear of commitment?! right?! Has anyone ever betrayed you in life severely? Only you can figure out where your emotions are coming from - usually it's your childhood programming that's the highest influence of how you perceive this world. The mind is a powerful thing, it can make you feel anything almost if you really want to... so if you believe that you are putting something out into the world, then you are.
The nice thing is - r u 23? - well, around this age/time most people tend to discover themselves from the insides and maybe start to settle their belief system down, but I never did. Always seeking the answers, always looking for truth, some may have found it, yet some are still figuring things out. What am I saying?!
Just keep looking deep inside of yourself and asking questions - talk to people in depth about what you feel and where your emotions stem from! A simple answer cannot be given with an incomplete analysis of your being. That's why at this point none of us can really tell you much except generic advice from our own perspectives correlating with what you wrote.
your dream are telling you that you need love in your life and that your mind is showing it to you how happy you would be when you fall in love.
I have the same situation with you, i am not interested in going into a relationship now and i`m very sure of it! But almost every nite i will be having different guys in different dreams and we fall deeply in love and was very touching! I am confuse, does it means that i want a relation and the dream is to satisfied me or izzit jus coincidence and watching too much drama? The dream was very real...
I have these dreams too..but not too often. Sometimes with ppl I know but don't feel anything towards them but sometimes it's with ppl that I do.
don't always think of the remotest that could happen..
hm....maybe you feel lonely and insecure? like you want to feel loved..
oh..try not to think to much about it so that you won't be afraid, like have positive thinking!
Sometimes i have them. But mostly its just dreams, they won't change anything.
Dreams are dreams. It could happen "one day" or it won't happen at all. This "deeply in love" stuff is probably something you really want "deep down" but you don't admit it. Those dreams are telling you that you "shouldn't" be telling yourself that you won't love and/or find someone. Just don't say that. It keeps repeating for the fact that you "try" to stay away from others.
I'm sure you just want to be loved. Not cheated on. Even though it is a different person, you desire the love. Someone new doesn't necessarly mean that you know/don't know them and you just "want" love. You just want to be with them and feel good.
If you do want to fall in love, you have to let time run. Of course you will be afraid. The thing is that you should slowly take it. Take note of what happens. Have faith. You both have to build trust in time after. It doesn't just come. Being afraid is a part of it.
Of course there will be times where you will be sad and happy but the thing is that you both trust each other and have patience to wait for each other. Just take it nice and coll (and slow!)
Kyuoto