I think your friends are right, ya should just tell him.Otherwise you'll never
know if there was even a chance, right?
well it's just my opinion either way, hope it works out.
If he quits his girlfriend for you, the guy is not worth a penny. He could do
the same to you someday.
If you go and tell him and he's really in love, he'll only break your heart, and
you hardly will have another chance.
What you can do is watch how his relationship is doing. It'll eventually come
your opportunity, in a point when his relationship is down.
And you can watch him closely. How he REALLY IS. Perhaps you'll discover that
he's not the guy you thougth as "the perfect guy". And you'll save
yourself a lot of pain.
You can become friend of his friends. Better yet, friend of one of his siblings.
And eventually become his friend.
Be patient as the wild cat that watches its prey during hours.
be nice to him, show him how u r...dont tell him right away...just talk, do
things with him...go out with him and some friends...but at first dont show him
that u like him in a special way...
find out who he really is...and find out more about his girlfriend...talk to
her, too...find out how they feel for each other...
and when he sees and likes the way u r, then hes going to like u too...if
not...hes not right for u...
I diffenitly agree with mireya. If the guy you like happens to quite his
girlfriend for you he's not worth it because he will do it to you someday. Did
you know I had the same problem as you? Except the guy I liked was with his
girlfriend for 4 years! All she was waiting for was for him to propose to her!
Now how did you think I felt about that!? I knew I had no chance so I left it
alone, even though I really liked him. I like him so much I wanted the best for
him even if it meant I was unhappy. But even just being friends with him was all
I needed. I never got involved in his personal life untill one day he couldn't
put up with his girlfriend! He said he knew deep down that they weren't meant
for each other, because all they ever did was fight and get mad at each other.
Then later on he started dating another person! At that point I just gave up and
thought to myself I'm in no hurry and all I want to do is plan out my life. It
took 4 years myself of knowing him and we were close than most friends are. Then
we started to date! But it's funny we decided that friends would be better, but
I guess I wasen't all right because he never understood how much I realyl liked
him. It took another year and naturelly we started going out! We never said do
you want to go out on a date it just happened! and Yes we do call each other
boyfriend and girlfriend. It took this long to realize how much we liked each other! He even secretly
liked me when he was with his girlfriend for 4 years! So all I can say is if you
want to wait and see what happens then do so but DON'T waist your time for
something that may never happen Good
Luck shatteredglass! and
sorry for such a looong messege!
I hate to say this but I think you should wait until he is single. You could
make a lot of enemies by telling him you like him while he is dating someone
else. Trust me I know. For me it worked out and I got to be with him. But for
his ex-girlfriend I caused her a lot of pain. That was totally not right for me
to do. Ask yourself, would you like someone to do that to you. Also the guy
could loose respect for you if you did that.
I know what it is like to really really like someone that you can't have. It
hurts and is really hard but that is something that you have to deal with. It is
not fair to cause others pain just to get what you want.
Sorry if this did not help much. I wish that I had better advice for you. Just
hang in there! I would love to hear how things work out. Good Luck!
I will pray that they break up soon for you!
Second, you are afraid of rejection. Face it. You are !
Lastly, do you ever want to live your life with regrets over just one guy whom
you are over the moon in your thoughts, whereby you never initiate contact and
confess your words to ?
Tell him ! Find the right time to tell him. Guys don't like to be keep in the
dark...or should i say, they are quite an ignorant lot when a certain person
admire them from far and he still doesn't know it ! On the
other hand, let me warn you on a fact. Guys don't quite like the notion of girls
throwing themselves so openly. Some sort of like, they can take ppl for granted
sometimes..... So the bottomline is, do tell him but try and make him understand
why. The rest is up to his decisions and your reactions.
At the very least, you create the chance. To make known yourself and find out if
he feels for you too.
Take heart, Fellow MTer. Think twice before you make a move. Are you serious
about this guy ? And what about him to you ? Perhaps he may have know it and may
be fooling around then if i am you i rather stay as good friends for the moment.
No point forcing. You Lose out in the end. Serious. If he rejects, so be it.
Just say it. Rather have a short hurt than a long one in the long run......and i
do mean you hurt yourself in the end.
The guy's already taken. There's SO many other guys you could find, just become
friends with him. Someone else will come along, I say this because you don't
want to complicate things ... Trust me. My advice.
I didn't vote, but if you told him it would be really weird when your around him
especaily if he has a girlfriend. If it really bothers you though then you
should just tell him.
THank you everyone. You all really understand how I am feeling! The guy and I
are friends. I'm not sure how close, though. Thank you so much for your help!
Right time and right place = go for it. Just that you might want to wait if he
is single. Just get to know him. Friends at least. Then you could know some
things. Let time sort it out.
Well, just that everyone has a point. So, just wait for the right moment.
Patience is the key!
you'll be giving yourself a world of pain if you go to him now when you know
he's in love wih someone else. Maybe this is not your time yet, so just leave it
be. Eventually when his pain (and his love) subsides, and your there when he
needs you, maybe he'll appreciate you for all that you are but not as a friend
but something more. Afterall, the love of your life is worth waiting for right?
Ermm.. Okay I would also like to mention I think you should think about it from
his girlfriend's pov
If you had a boyfriend and some other girl started chasing him and tried to
break you two up you'd think its unacceptable right?
Please have some consideration for other people's feelings.
THere are many guys in this world, and I am sure you'd be able to find someone
else. Try to go for the single ones, the taken ones cause too much
heartbreak.
Men are men, and sometimes they don't think with their heads or hearts they just
think with their other.. anatomy. I have seen too many occasions where a guy
fools around with another girl and ends up going back to his girlfriend to say
sorry and breaking both his girlfriend and that other girl's heart. Be careful,
going for a guy with a girlfriend comes with a lot of emotional baggage.
uh.....jux like in korean dramas.........if u tell him u like him, he might feel
the same and jux cuz hes has sumbody doesn't mean he can't have another,
eh.....that sounded weird....like cheating.....didn't mean it like that.....but
luv is infinity, rite? so go ahead and tell him how u feel cuz if u don't u jux
might miss out ur chance^^aniwaise thats wat i would do^^hope i helped....i
don't feel like i did, but aniwaise bai bai now^^
I do not think you should tell him. Telling someone you know is not single that
you like him is the similar to telling everyone else that you are going to try
to make him cheat on or break up with his girlfriend. Even if the guy does not
like you, you would have already made an enemy of his girlfriend, because such
action is clear intent that you want to wreck her relationship. That, I think,
is not very nice in many people's opinions. Most people might think you are a
mean girl; definitely not good for your reputation and making enemies is never
nice.
Anyways, best thing to do, wait for better timing.
Of course, you can do whatever you want. If it really bothers you, tell the guy.
Here's a question you really should ask yourself before you wonder what you
should do.
Is this guy important enough to me that I wouldn't mind the guilt of him
breaking up with his girlfriend (who, keep in mind, might be the great love of
his life) being on my head? How far would I go to have him?
If the answer is yes, and to death, I think you have your answer. But for god's
sake, if it's really that important, and your battle plan consists of only
"telling him that I like him", I think you're in a REALLY bad shape
man. You really have to know how to seduce a guy to really seal the deal that
makes him yours.
I will drop a bomb, listen, he is already with a girl, JUST DON'T GET IN THEIR
WAYS, thats all I'm gonna say, besides, there are a lot of guiys around, why you
choose one who is already taked?
I HAVE MADE MY DECISION. THANK YOU TO EVERYONE WHO GAVE ME ADVICE! IT WAS MUCH APPRECIATED TO HEAR WHAT OTHERS HAD TO SAY!
I think your friends are right, ya should just tell him.Otherwise you'll never know if there was even a chance, right?
well it's just my opinion either way, hope it works out.
If he quits his girlfriend for you, the guy is not worth a penny. He could do the same to you someday.
If you go and tell him and he's really in love, he'll only break your heart, and you hardly will have another chance.
What you can do is watch how his relationship is doing. It'll eventually come your opportunity, in a point when his relationship is down.
And you can watch him closely. How he REALLY IS. Perhaps you'll discover that he's not the guy you thougth as "the perfect guy". And you'll save yourself a lot of pain.
You can become friend of his friends. Better yet, friend of one of his siblings. And eventually become his friend.
Be patient as the wild cat that watches its prey during hours.
be nice to him, show him how u r...dont tell him right away...just talk, do things with him...go out with him and some friends...but at first dont show him that u like him in a special way...
find out who he really is...and find out more about his girlfriend...talk to her, too...find out how they feel for each other...
and when he sees and likes the way u r, then hes going to like u too...if not...hes not right for u...
I diffenitly agree with mireya. If the guy you like happens to quite his girlfriend for you he's not worth it because he will do it to you someday. Did you know I had the same problem as you? Except the guy I liked was with his girlfriend for 4 years! All she was waiting for was for him to propose to her! Now how did you think I felt about that!? I knew I had no chance so I left it alone, even though I really liked him. I like him so much I wanted the best for him even if it meant I was unhappy. But even just being friends with him was all I needed. I never got involved in his personal life untill one day he couldn't put up with his girlfriend! He said he knew deep down that they weren't meant for each other, because all they ever did was fight and get mad at each other. Then later on he started dating another person! At that point I just gave up and thought to myself I'm in no hurry and all I want to do is plan out my life. It took 4 years myself of knowing him and we were close than most friends are. Then we started to date! But it's funny we decided that friends would be better, but I guess I wasen't all right because he never understood how much I realyl liked him. It took another year and naturelly we started going out! We never said do you want to go out on a date it just happened! and Yes we do call each other boyfriend and girlfriend.
It took this long to realize how much we liked each other! He even secretly
liked me when he was with his girlfriend for 4 years! So all I can say is if you
want to wait and see what happens then do so but DON'T waist your time for
something that may never happen 
Good
Luck shatteredglass! 
and
sorry for such a looong messege! 
I hate to say this but I think you should wait until he is single. You could make a lot of enemies by telling him you like him while he is dating someone else. Trust me I know. For me it worked out and I got to be with him. But for his ex-girlfriend I caused her a lot of pain. That was totally not right for me to do. Ask yourself, would you like someone to do that to you. Also the guy could loose respect for you if you did that.
I know what it is like to really really like someone that you can't have. It hurts and is really hard but that is something that you have to deal with. It is not fair to cause others pain just to get what you want.
Sorry if this did not help much. I wish that I had better advice for you. Just hang in there! I would love to hear how things work out. Good Luck!
I will pray that they break up soon for you!
Firstly, you are Hesitating.
Second, you are afraid of rejection. Face it. You are !
Lastly, do you ever want to live your life with regrets over just one guy whom you are over the moon in your thoughts, whereby you never initiate contact and confess your words to ?
Tell him ! Find the right time to tell him. Guys don't like to be keep in the dark...or should i say, they are quite an ignorant lot when a certain person admire them from far and he still doesn't know it !
On the
other hand, let me warn you on a fact. Guys don't quite like the notion of girls
throwing themselves so openly. Some sort of like, they can take ppl for granted
sometimes..... So the bottomline is, do tell him but try and make him understand
why. The rest is up to his decisions and your reactions.
At the very least, you create the chance. To make known yourself and find out if he feels for you too.
Take heart, Fellow MTer. Think twice before you make a move. Are you serious about this guy ? And what about him to you ? Perhaps he may have know it and may be fooling around then if i am you i rather stay as good friends for the moment. No point forcing. You Lose out in the end. Serious. If he rejects, so be it.
Just say it. Rather have a short hurt than a long one in the long run......and i do mean you hurt yourself in the end.
Good luck.
Let as Time Runs.
Au Revoir.
The guy's already taken. There's SO many other guys you could find, just become friends with him. Someone else will come along, I say this because you don't want to complicate things ... Trust me. My advice.
I didn't vote, but if you told him it would be really weird when your around him especaily if he has a girlfriend. If it really bothers you though then you should just tell him.
THank you everyone. You all really understand how I am feeling! The guy and I are friends. I'm not sure how close, though. Thank you so much for your help!
Right time and right place = go for it. Just that you might want to wait if he is single. Just get to know him. Friends at least. Then you could know some things. Let time sort it out.
Well, just that everyone has a point. So, just wait for the right moment. Patience is the key!
you'll be giving yourself a world of pain if you go to him now when you know he's in love wih someone else. Maybe this is not your time yet, so just leave it be. Eventually when his pain (and his love) subsides, and your there when he needs you, maybe he'll appreciate you for all that you are but not as a friend but something more. Afterall, the love of your life is worth waiting for right?
Hey, kid, congratulations! Now do not despair, do not take false steps.
Now think about this: It's a secret about life. Look for someone THAT LOVES YOU MORE THAT YOU LOVE HIM.
Sounds cruel, huh? But it's always like that. In any couple, one loves more than the other.
Ermm.. Okay I would also like to mention I think you should think about it from his girlfriend's pov
If you had a boyfriend and some other girl started chasing him and tried to break you two up you'd think its unacceptable right?
Please have some consideration for other people's feelings.
THere are many guys in this world, and I am sure you'd be able to find someone else. Try to go for the single ones, the taken ones cause too much heartbreak.
Men are men, and sometimes they don't think with their heads or hearts they just think with their other.. anatomy. I have seen too many occasions where a guy fools around with another girl and ends up going back to his girlfriend to say sorry and breaking both his girlfriend and that other girl's heart. Be careful, going for a guy with a girlfriend comes with a lot of emotional baggage.
hmmm u should just tell him..
Who knows,, he has problems with his current girl,, and you turn out to be his saviour...?
good luck in that, tho.
ehh...why can you not be the one that loves him more? why should he be the one that carrie more love in the relationship? sounds selfish to me...
i would rather not give you advice...except well being patient...you like him...not love him..so i donno i guess many guys come and go...
uh.....jux like in korean dramas.........if u tell him u like him, he might feel the same and jux cuz hes has sumbody doesn't mean he can't have another, eh.....that sounded weird....like cheating.....didn't mean it like that.....but luv is infinity, rite? so go ahead and tell him how u feel cuz if u don't u jux might miss out ur chance^^aniwaise thats wat i would do^^hope i helped....i don't feel like i did, but aniwaise bai bai now^^
I do not think you should tell him. Telling someone you know is not single that you like him is the similar to telling everyone else that you are going to try to make him cheat on or break up with his girlfriend. Even if the guy does not like you, you would have already made an enemy of his girlfriend, because such action is clear intent that you want to wreck her relationship. That, I think, is not very nice in many people's opinions. Most people might think you are a mean girl; definitely not good for your reputation and making enemies is never nice.
Anyways, best thing to do, wait for better timing.
Of course, you can do whatever you want. If it really bothers you, tell the guy.
Here's a question you really should ask yourself before you wonder what you should do.
Is this guy important enough to me that I wouldn't mind the guilt of him breaking up with his girlfriend (who, keep in mind, might be the great love of his life) being on my head? How far would I go to have him?
If the answer is yes, and to death, I think you have your answer. But for god's sake, if it's really that important, and your battle plan consists of only "telling him that I like him", I think you're in a REALLY bad shape man. You really have to know how to seduce a guy to really seal the deal that makes him yours.
it is like a typical anime show...
tell him your feelings..besides you have to find out if he will take them into consideration
but side effect is that it might be bad to tell him your feelings right when he is in a realtionship.
plus, dun just be secluded to liking one guy ... there are other guys like him out there, not speaking of myself...but yea.
I do believe he is single now. I still haven't talked to him. If I do decide to talk to him, what should I say?
anything nice, but don't ask weird ?s, play it kool, act like u don't like him, but then like u like him....and never force it...and alwaise flirt^^
THANK YOU EVERYONE! I HAVE MADE MY DECISION. YOUR HELP WAS GREATLY APPRECIATED!
I will drop a bomb, listen, he is already with a girl, JUST DON'T GET IN THEIR WAYS, thats all I'm gonna say, besides, there are a lot of guiys around, why you choose one who is already taked?