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3~4 years and still....

Lamentations

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It's been a long time ever since I've met that person in elementary. And I've been trying to forgot after that. We were never friends. We never really talked. But for some reason, I just ended up liking him. I don't know why. But it seems like fate is trying to play with me. Letting me see him around, but not letting me talk to him or anything. Just see him pass by. So I try to forget since all those years were painful. But it's hard.


SO....


Any good ways to forget something like this? It really is giving me a hard time. Strange how I can solve other people's problems and not my own. -_-'...

i am not sure if i am understanding you right, but i gonna have to say closure. If this person is the first one that you liked, then you probably will not forget for a long time, take it from me. If fate is putting them around you again, you should see it for the opportunity that it is. i would talk to them, see if they remember you, you never know. closure on your feelings and getting them out will make you feel a lot better. i'm sure.

  • dianas
  • Mute Member
  • 1y 38wk ago

my question is why did u never tryd to speak with him? from what I have seen ur a young girl
young girls are shy..(damn I`m not old ^_^' ) but I have some experince..so u don`t want to be rejected? by him
don`t let it like this unfinishd..u will regret it later..gather some courage and try to speak with him
this is my advice..lol don`t confess anyhting to him
just be natural ask him from mistake ;) about something neutral? and see his reaction

Hmmm
well ive had a different situation...
Ive made my first friend on elemtary school too...
But....
after the friendship was made...
He Hanged around me all the time like he was my bodyguard...
And one day he even jumped on our backyard to see if i was home
(i was hiding:))
But now....it's a normal friendship
cause he now has other friends then me alone...

Its hard to forget about something when you see it so often. I've gone though that many times myself.

I agree, if you never got to know him, why not try now? And if you don't try to, is that something that you are going to regret for the rest of your life? 10 years from now do you still want to be regretting it? If something is important to you, then it's best to give it a shot, even if you're shy, or a ltttle scared. Otherwise, my advice would be that even though it hurts, and it bothers you, try to live your own life. Get involved with other things or people that interest you, and can provide a distraction, and eventually, you'll find that your life is so full of other things, that you don't think about that person as much.

Quote by shinmeiryuHmmm
well ive had a different situation...
Ive made my first friend on elemtary school too...
But....
after the friendship was made...
He Hanged around me all the time like he was my bodyguard...
And one day he even jumped on our backyard to see if i was home
(i was hiding:))
But now....it's a normal friendship
cause he now has other friends then me alone...

Ha ha! Usually, I'm the bodyguard~

maybe u shouldn't forget and try to cherish the memories u both had together...

Quote by sakaji22maybe u shouldn't forget and try to cherish the memories u both had together...

I wish I had memories to cherish...... ::whine~::

I understand U
that happened to me in elementary too
I never talked to him but I liked him, and it seemed that we only talked with our eyes
but is just like a dream (thats what i guess)
I havent seen him on a long time
but I just remember all that like a dream

^sugoi!...
heh well i have no idea, i think the only one that can solve your problem is you...so gambatte kudasai! :)

You should get a boyfriend

Man, that's a tough situation, but like the others said, I suggest talking to him; get to know him. DON'T confess to him, it'll probably scare him off, unless he likes you back already, then you're good to go. Mmm....I probably wouldn't recommend just walking up to him and saying hi at school, either, but if there is ever a chance to talk to him, do it. Even if it's just a 'hello' while you walk past each other, just the fact that you've acknowledged each other puts you that much closer. That's all the advice I can give you, and good luck on your future endeavors!

If you want to just forget about him, I don't suggest ignoring him, that probably wouldn't work. That just means you're thinking about him but you don't want to see him. The time will eventually come when you forget about him, even though it may be a slow process. Some others suggested going to do your own things with other friends to keep your mind pre-occupied with something else, but knowing girls at your age, you probably tend to talk about guys a lot, haha j/k j/k.

This tends to happen alot with girls, but it's just a small crush. I wouldn't think to much into it.

This exact thing happened to my best friend, and all I've got to say is LET IT GO. I watched my favorite person in the world tear herself up over this guy for TWO WHOLE YEARS, and it's SO not worth the agony.

Distract yourself with your favorite anime/manga boys. That always works for me. :)

Quote by dianasmy question is why did u never tryd to speak with him? from what I have seen ur a young girl
young girls are shy..(damn I`m not old ^_^' ) but I have some experince..so u don`t want to be rejected? by him
don`t let it like this unfinishd..u will regret it later..gather some courage and try to speak with him
this is my advice..lol don`t confess anyhting to him
just be natural ask him from mistake ;) about something neutral? and see his reaction

hehe yeah I agree with "dianas" you Should try to contact him somehow, and really Don't confess straight out, he would probably get pretty shocked and say: "umm...sry, I don't really know you" ^_^' which is true since you've never spoken to him.
My advice is that you should make him see you, notice your existence. like dianas said, do something spontaneous to try getting contact with him.

If fate is playing with you, then why not try changing that fate, strike back ;)
you can like pretend to do some mistake in front of him, like "accidentally" dropping something in right in front of him, like books! if he stops bcuz of your books, say "oh sry" bend down and pick them up, who knows he might help you! that was just an example. could work though... might work hehehe XD Might!
That's a way to get first "contact" with him, he now knows that you exist.
don't be too forward going, if he's a shy guy it would probably be a disadvantage to show him that you like him right away (unless he feels the same way)... play a little "hard to get" but just LITTLE hahaha not too hard >_<
I'm not good at translating Chinese to English, but there's a "proverb" saying that 30% of your life is destined and 70% is what you make it. so IF you're really interested in him, why not take the chance?

Good luck now~~ :)

"The anguish is the terror of the objective."

Errr... just think of something else? Or do something that'll make you busy? o_0

why don't you talk to him? why shouldn't you talk to you. I mean if you like him, just pass by him and say hi every single day. just say hi :) it'll make his day and he'll think about it, and be waiting everyday for you to do so.

but you wanna forget. you can't. what you think and you're memories make you you and you shouldn't forget. you should just try to not let it bother you. think about something else like Akaiken said.

but you should try to talk to him <.< or get him. because he's always around you. *ish hopeless romantic*

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