Well.....my friend and i have been very very close friends for 5 years....and we
always did everything together. But the thing is...she was always more outgoing
and "crazy" than me....so now we're in 8th grade...and she's in
another school. She still calls me everyday tho....but we are totally different
now. She puts on make-up, has a boyfriend, swears, and more.....and me?
well....im a good girl....i dont even want to wear make-up til im like...19! So
today, so calls me ....and i asked her how her new years was. She told me that
her brother had given her some marijuana.....and she tried it. She said that she
really liked it. I asked her if she wanted more and she said "its not like
its bad for you or anything...i promise i wont use any of those bad
drugs...."
so she wants more. while i was talking to her....i was almost crying....but she
didnt listen to me.....and what im really scared about is that im going to the
same high school as her next year....and what if i have to hang out with her? i
dont want her to turn me into ...someone like her!
im sorry if this was long...but i really need help...please!
The social stereotypes established today are insane.
Just believe in what you believe is right, and make sure your friend knows it.
If she begins to treat you different because you have your own beliefs, then she
really can't be called a friend.
well my advice to you is.. do what you think is right, but you must think
through it carefully. though personally i would stay away from her if i were
you. because you never know when you might not be able to resist the temptation
and peer pressure. hope you do the right thing.. good luck.
People drift apart - that's just hiow it is, although that doesn't necessarily
happen all the time. In any case, although I'm a fairly anti-drug person, a lot
of people do try out drugs. Yes, marijuana is illigal and bad for you, etc etc.
but its not going to kill your friend and her trying it once or twice won't turn
her into a zombie... I think you're making quite a big deal out of something
which isn''t especially unusual.
About the High School thing - you are your own person. Unless you're someone
that is so easily persuaded, I really don't think you should be worrying about
tunring into a drug addict or anything. Hanging out with someone certainly
doesn't mean you're going to turn out like them. Plus, putting on makeup, having
boyfriends and swearing is enirely normal. Your friend is obviously changing and
experimenting; that doesn't mean she's a changed person. Have a bit more faith!
THC will make even the dullest man interesting for a few hours. A friend with
weed is a friend indeed, although I would say that acquainting yourself with ye
olde magic dragon is an experience best left for your freshman year in college.
All I can say...like the others, just keep to what you believe. If you don't
want to do ANY kind of drug, so be it. And if you still want to be friends with
your friend, do so. You two are different people, with different ideas of 'fun'.
You don't always have to do, what the other does. So she does marijuana, that
doesn't mean you have too.
Trust me, when I was that age, I had friends drinking, usuing marijuana; the
whole nine-yards. I was able to stay friends with them until we graduated high
school, and I never (then at least) did either of those. My friends understood
my ideals...and if your friend is a TRUE friend, she'll understand yours as
well.
While its true that people do drift apart, I had a similar situation. That is my
best friend I didn't see for years, I started going to Uni with them and now we
are great friend again.
What I'm saying is that you can make things work again, even if they do seem
very different. My friend does things I'd never dream of doing, but I cna just
say no and we still get on just fine. As long as you remember this, you'll not
become like her and you can still be friends. It might not work but its
definately worth a shot, my life wouldn't be the same had I not give it a second
shot.
You should try to remain her friend, at least for now. Perhaps having you around
will help inhibit any negative tendencies your friend may have or develop
later.
And, as said before, if you're friend is a true friend, then she'll respect your
ideals.
Mind altering substances should be kept out of the hands of 13 year olds, no
matter how legal or "harmless" it is. And that's an opinion I stand by
to even if I would be living in a country where marijuana is legalized.
I would say that's rather early to be dabbling in illegal drugs. Marajuana,
however, is really not that serious. Drinking is far more dangerous than
marajuana, and tobacco is far more addictive. My only concern would be getting
caught with it.
i think you already knew what best. that's why you are here right. those kind of
things are bad so keep your distance.
A friend is a person that you can count on,
A friend is a person that scolded and give you advice when you do some thing
wrong.
A person that drag you to do what you against and give you bad habit's definetly
NOT a friend.
Every person has their own ideal, so you can always says NO when you are given
something that you didn't like.
Good luck, hope you can stay to your ideal like now. I hope you will never want
to be draged in to those kind of thing even thought the one who give you is your
friend.
some times you have to walk away from some one you care about i its the right
thing for you. if it makes you upset and uncomfortable then don't hang out with
her. tell her if thats the path she's chosen then you can't follow her. just do
what feels right. trust your instincts, and don't get caught in the peer
pressure trap.
Marijunana is a gateway drug, meaning it can (and with most people I've seen,
will) lead to bigger and more harmful things whether she says she won't do
anything else or not. Your friend doesn't seem like a very responsible person
from how you've described her and doesn't seem like a particularly great person
for you to be hanging around. If you truly care about her, keep an eye on her
and remember not to allow yourself to get sucked into her trap. She might think
that if you do it to then it's not as bad, just like when someone is eating a
piece of chocolate they know they shouldn't be, so they get their friend to eat
it too. If her doing this drug begins to happen more often and you want her to
stop, talk to her about it. She probably won't listen but that's her decision.
You can't force anyone to do anything they don't want to. All you can do is make
sure you don't make the same ridiculously messed up and stupid decisions. If you
want a future, don't get involved in those kind of things. However, you sound
smart enough not to.
I think you need to get your friend some help. She might hate you, but as they
always say, there will be a time when shes going to be grateful for it. If you
guys are going to drift apart, or if youre going to break off the friendship, I
think the best thing to do is to get help for her, whether its from a counselor
or her parents. Just remember that your friend might hate you forever for
turning her in, but if you really think shes your friend, then you should act
like one and help her. She might not necessarily think youre helping her, but
like saixphang89 said, marijuana is a gateway drug. Your friend could get sucked
into doing other drugs, and maybe even die. I dont mean to scare you, but rather
than worrying about whether you should be friends with her, i think you need to
stop her problem first.
Whatever it's your choice, make sure that's what you want to do. Follow your
principles and your heart. Don't be ashamed of being a good girl. If you don't
want to hang out with her anymore because you feel that you can take it, then,
do it.
Don't necessarily break away from her.
what she is doing is unnecessary and life altering.
try intervention.
ask her to meet up somewhere and try to talk it out,
if you end up at the same high school then its not the end of the world.
However, you can also wait it out.
see for yourself next year if what you tried to say got through to her.
if not and you see that she's treating you differently,
then it's your decision to continue to be her friend,
or stop talking to her b/c she's not the friend you knew her to be.
my last advice to you is: are you really prepared to give up on such a good
friend?
Umm...
Well marijuana starts as the "first drug" for most of the drug addicts
then they slowly want more, then comes crack and so forth... I would suggest
telling her how she has changed, maybe that'll wake her up, you need to try and
make a decision, her friendship obvisosly will lead to trouble, sex, drugs,
voilence IF she continues on the path she has started, really think about it,
it's quite a serious problem,
I don't knew what else to say, but remember to try and help her out in this age,
many people make dangerous decisions at 13-18 and still go on in life but the
ones that make the biggest change start at pubirty, the presure to be
"in" and o be cool, help her out, and it she doesn't wish to change,
I would say to break that friendship it may lead to a horrible path
It seems to me that if your friend is calling you every day, even though she's
different now, maybe she's still a little insecure, and since she is trying to
find her place in this new school she might be doing stuff that she doesn't
really want to do, but either feels pressured into (wants to be cool, or not
seen as scared) or is doing it for the attention.
Try and be her friend, the sort of friend that is there for her, and listens and
stuff, but at the same time, remind her, and yourself, that you are your own
person, and you don't have to be like anyone else. If you don't want to do
something, then don't. And I'd keep telling her that you don't like it that she
does drugs. One starts to lead to another, and eventually she may turn into
someone that you don't recognize or want to be around.
well...i will say this, although saying is always better than actually being in
the position...but you set your own standards...unless she is gonna grab you and
force some of the drug into your system, you have the choice...the decision is
all yours...
sit with yourself and wonder if it is important to be accepted by people like
those, who hang around the wrong circles...set priorities...you should always
remember that there are people who love you and care about you...and if you fall
a victim for drugs, you are not only hurting yourself, but also those who love
you...
friends only want the best for you, don't tell me someone who wants to make you
a drug addict is the right sort of friend...just take care...i wish you the
best...hang in there...
I think it's pointless being with a friend who completely changed from when you
originally met her. Marijuana is a horrible drug, and she knows that perfectly
well, or else I don't know where she's been.
It's scary that you have to go to the same school next year with such a
"friend." Considering that, saying it plain out that you don't want to
make friends with her might make you enemies with her and her friends.
First, I think you should try to be more brave and stick up to your friend and
try to kick her dumb habits away, make-up and nice boyfriends are okay. She should listen to you since
you're her friend. Don't do this over the phone, you need to talk to her in
person.
Say you've been really good friends for 5 years, but you're really starting to
worry about her because she's doing drugs and other things that you really don't
like. Say if the both of yous go to the same school next year, you're worried
for yourself as well. You're afraid of being friends with someone like her so
it's either drop the drugs (i really think make-up and boyfriends are okay) or
quit being friends. I know it sounds lame; but maybe you can write her a letter
to make it easier to explain your situation.
Also, it might be phase she's going through and maybe she'll be back to her old
self soon.
Best of luck!
merged: 01-24-2007 ~ 09:15am
Quote by TwilightObsessionsTell
her to give it up and you give up anime at the same time. You have to sacrifice
something to get something else in return
GIVE UP ANIME? anything but anime...but that might also work, just don't get
anime involved...
Well.....my friend and i have been very very close friends for 5 years....and we always did everything together. But the thing is...she was always more outgoing and "crazy" than me....so now we're in 8th grade...and she's in another school. She still calls me everyday tho....but we are totally different now. She puts on make-up, has a boyfriend, swears, and more.....and me? well....im a good girl....i dont even want to wear make-up til im like...19! So today, so calls me ....and i asked her how her new years was. She told me that her brother had given her some marijuana.....and she tried it. She said that she really liked it. I asked her if she wanted more and she said "its not like its bad for you or anything...i promise i wont use any of those bad drugs...."
so she wants more. while i was talking to her....i was almost crying....but she didnt listen to me.....and what im really scared about is that im going to the same high school as her next year....and what if i have to hang out with her? i dont want her to turn me into ...someone like her!
im sorry if this was long...but i really need help...please!
You don't have to hang out with any one you don't want to. But
if you keep her company make sure she knows your stance
about. And that's that you won't do it. If she call you geek or
whatever don't break. Don't bend your priciples for anyone...Not
even yourself
The social stereotypes established today are insane.
Just believe in what you believe is right, and make sure your friend knows it. If she begins to treat you different because you have your own beliefs, then she really can't be called a friend.
well my advice to you is.. do what you think is right, but you must think through it carefully. though personally i would stay away from her if i were you. because you never know when you might not be able to resist the temptation and peer pressure. hope you do the right thing.. good luck.
People drift apart - that's just hiow it is, although that doesn't necessarily happen all the time. In any case, although I'm a fairly anti-drug person, a lot of people do try out drugs. Yes, marijuana is illigal and bad for you, etc etc. but its not going to kill your friend and her trying it once or twice won't turn her into a zombie... I think you're making quite a big deal out of something which isn''t especially unusual.
About the High School thing - you are your own person. Unless you're someone that is so easily persuaded, I really don't think you should be worrying about tunring into a drug addict or anything. Hanging out with someone certainly doesn't mean you're going to turn out like them. Plus, putting on makeup, having boyfriends and swearing is enirely normal. Your friend is obviously changing and experimenting; that doesn't mean she's a changed person. Have a bit more faith!
Bit more faith in what, exactly? Drugs screw you up, period. You only get one shot at life; make sure you don't do anything that'll ruin it.
THC will make even the dullest man interesting for a few hours. A friend with weed is a friend indeed, although I would say that acquainting yourself with ye olde magic dragon is an experience best left for your freshman year in college.
All I can say...like the others, just keep to what you believe. If you don't want to do ANY kind of drug, so be it. And if you still want to be friends with your friend, do so. You two are different people, with different ideas of 'fun'. You don't always have to do, what the other does. So she does marijuana, that doesn't mean you have too.
Trust me, when I was that age, I had friends drinking, usuing marijuana; the whole nine-yards. I was able to stay friends with them until we graduated high school, and I never (then at least) did either of those. My friends understood my ideals...and if your friend is a TRUE friend, she'll understand yours as well.
Good luck!
While its true that people do drift apart, I had a similar situation. That is my best friend I didn't see for years, I started going to Uni with them and now we are great friend again.
What I'm saying is that you can make things work again, even if they do seem very different. My friend does things I'd never dream of doing, but I cna just say no and we still get on just fine. As long as you remember this, you'll not become like her and you can still be friends. It might not work but its definately worth a shot, my life wouldn't be the same had I not give it a second shot.
You should try to remain her friend, at least for now. Perhaps having you around will help inhibit any negative tendencies your friend may have or develop later.
And, as said before, if you're friend is a true friend, then she'll respect your ideals.
Mind altering substances should be kept out of the hands of 13 year olds, no matter how legal or "harmless" it is. And that's an opinion I stand by to even if I would be living in a country where marijuana is legalized.
I would say that's rather early to be dabbling in illegal drugs. Marajuana, however, is really not that serious. Drinking is far more dangerous than marajuana, and tobacco is far more addictive. My only concern would be getting caught with it.
i think you already knew what best. that's why you are here right. those kind of things are bad so keep your distance.
A friend is a person that you can count on,
A friend is a person that scolded and give you advice when you do some thing wrong.
A person that drag you to do what you against and give you bad habit's definetly NOT a friend.
Every person has their own ideal, so you can always says NO when you are given something that you didn't like.
Good luck, hope you can stay to your ideal like now. I hope you will never want to be draged in to those kind of thing even thought the one who give you is your friend.
sorry my english suck's
some times you have to walk away from some one you care about i its the right thing for you. if it makes you upset and uncomfortable then don't hang out with her. tell her if thats the path she's chosen then you can't follow her. just do what feels right. trust your instincts, and don't get caught in the peer pressure trap.
Marijunana is a gateway drug, meaning it can (and with most people I've seen, will) lead to bigger and more harmful things whether she says she won't do anything else or not. Your friend doesn't seem like a very responsible person from how you've described her and doesn't seem like a particularly great person for you to be hanging around. If you truly care about her, keep an eye on her and remember not to allow yourself to get sucked into her trap. She might think that if you do it to then it's not as bad, just like when someone is eating a piece of chocolate they know they shouldn't be, so they get their friend to eat it too. If her doing this drug begins to happen more often and you want her to stop, talk to her about it. She probably won't listen but that's her decision. You can't force anyone to do anything they don't want to. All you can do is make sure you don't make the same ridiculously messed up and stupid decisions. If you want a future, don't get involved in those kind of things. However, you sound smart enough not to.
Good Luck and remember who you want to be.
I think you need to get your friend some help. She might hate you, but as they always say, there will be a time when shes going to be grateful for it. If you guys are going to drift apart, or if youre going to break off the friendship, I think the best thing to do is to get help for her, whether its from a counselor or her parents. Just remember that your friend might hate you forever for turning her in, but if you really think shes your friend, then you should act like one and help her. She might not necessarily think youre helping her, but like saixphang89 said, marijuana is a gateway drug. Your friend could get sucked into doing other drugs, and maybe even die. I dont mean to scare you, but rather than worrying about whether you should be friends with her, i think you need to stop her problem first.
Whatever it's your choice, make sure that's what you want to do. Follow your principles and your heart. Don't be ashamed of being a good girl. If you don't want to hang out with her anymore because you feel that you can take it, then, do it.
Don't necessarily break away from her.
what she is doing is unnecessary and life altering.
try intervention.
ask her to meet up somewhere and try to talk it out,
if you end up at the same high school then its not the end of the world.
However, you can also wait it out.
see for yourself next year if what you tried to say got through to her.
if not and you see that she's treating you differently,
then it's your decision to continue to be her friend,
or stop talking to her b/c she's not the friend you knew her to be.
my last advice to you is: are you really prepared to give up on such a good friend?
Well marijuana starts as the "first drug" for most of the drug addicts then they slowly want more, then comes crack and so forth... I would suggest telling her how she has changed, maybe that'll wake her up, you need to try and make a decision, her friendship obvisosly will lead to trouble, sex, drugs, voilence IF she continues on the path she has started, really think about it, it's quite a serious problem,
I don't knew what else to say, but remember to try and help her out in this age, many people make dangerous decisions at 13-18 and still go on in life but the ones that make the biggest change start at pubirty, the presure to be "in" and o be cool, help her out, and it she doesn't wish to change,
I would say to break that friendship it may lead to a horrible path
It seems to me that if your friend is calling you every day, even though she's different now, maybe she's still a little insecure, and since she is trying to find her place in this new school she might be doing stuff that she doesn't really want to do, but either feels pressured into (wants to be cool, or not seen as scared) or is doing it for the attention.
Try and be her friend, the sort of friend that is there for her, and listens and stuff, but at the same time, remind her, and yourself, that you are your own person, and you don't have to be like anyone else. If you don't want to do something, then don't. And I'd keep telling her that you don't like it that she does drugs. One starts to lead to another, and eventually she may turn into someone that you don't recognize or want to be around.
well...i will say this, although saying is always better than actually being in the position...but you set your own standards...unless she is gonna grab you and force some of the drug into your system, you have the choice...the decision is all yours...
sit with yourself and wonder if it is important to be accepted by people like those, who hang around the wrong circles...set priorities...you should always remember that there are people who love you and care about you...and if you fall a victim for drugs, you are not only hurting yourself, but also those who love you...
friends only want the best for you, don't tell me someone who wants to make you a drug addict is the right sort of friend...just take care...i wish you the best...hang in there...
Tell her to give it up and you give up anime at the same time. You have to sacrifice something to get something else in return
I think it's pointless being with a friend who completely changed from when you originally met her. Marijuana is a horrible drug, and she knows that perfectly well, or else I don't know where she's been.
It's scary that you have to go to the same school next year with such a "friend." Considering that, saying it plain out that you don't want to make friends with her might make you enemies with her and her friends.
First, I think you should try to be more brave and stick up to your friend and try to kick her dumb habits away, make-up and nice boyfriends are okay. She should listen to you since you're her friend. Don't do this over the phone, you need to talk to her in person.
Say you've been really good friends for 5 years, but you're really starting to worry about her because she's doing drugs and other things that you really don't like. Say if the both of yous go to the same school next year, you're worried for yourself as well. You're afraid of being friends with someone like her so it's either drop the drugs (i really think make-up and boyfriends are okay) or quit being friends. I know it sounds lame; but maybe you can write her a letter to make it easier to explain your situation.
Also, it might be phase she's going through and maybe she'll be back to her old self soon.
Best of luck!
merged: 01-24-2007 ~ 09:15am
GIVE UP ANIME? anything but anime...but that might also work, just don't get anime involved...
It would be useful to search for other things in order to get rid of the vice, maybe something that you do with pation or very much energy.
And the most important of things, a strong, ver strong force of will.