I just don't get it sometimes, I see lonely people and I want to talk to them,
but they don't seem interested, it's if they like to be lonely. It's not once,
but a few times I tried with the same person. Why is that?
It's not that. Lonely people are too used to be lonely, so they don't know how
to react with others, they're afraid of being hurt. most of the lonely persons
already suffered from something that made them feel really sad, that's why they
don't wanna pass throw that again..
well, some lonely people don't LIKE being lonely. they just seen loneliness as
the better option in their path through life. some of them, like one of my
friends, has been backstabbed WAY too many times in the past, so it took him
awhile to open to me, even. like many others, he has a dark view on human
nature, and chooses his friends carefully due to his past experiences.
I see, thanks, it's making sense to me now, I can relate to that cause I know
it's hard to find trusting people these days, and it's even harder cause you
have to be on-guard around people you hardly know, incase.
I like to be lonely a lot. It dosn't mean I don't like people or I'm afraid of
them, I just like to have some time to myself sometimes. But I have great
friends and they don't let me be lonely very much ^_^.
Quote by EagleWelll, they're lonely to
start with, so playing on it gives some much needed attention... for a
time...
I see, but then what after?
Quote by ASH-HikariI like to be lonely
a lot. It dosn't mean I don't like people or I'm afraid of them, I just like to
have some time to myself sometimes. But I have great friends and they don't let
me be lonely very much ^_^.
Heh never thought there'll be a response like this, guess the question was a bit
broad. It's ironic that some people like you want to be lonely cause you don't
get your own private space, while others who want to be lonely cause of negative
reasons.
Quote by ASH-HikariI like to be lonely
a lot. It dosn't mean I don't like people or I'm afraid of them, I just like to
have some time to myself sometimes. But I have great friends and they don't let
me be lonely very much ^_^.
Lonely and having time to yourself aren't quite the same me thinks...
Yeah I agree with ya Eagle, they're two different things. But I think ASH-Hikari
is trying to say that she needs time for herself to relax, cause she's
constantly having people around her.
Lovely is when you kind of want someone to be with you.
Time to yourself is wanting to be alone. Both have different
definitions.
Different people have different reasons to be alone. Some want to get away from
other people (bothersome, pestering) but others might be in the habit of being
left alone all the time because people normally don't talk to them in the first
place (person is always kicked out of conversations). It just so happens that
sometimes, some people want to be alone but actually want someone with them.
It's a habit.
Can't blame them all the time. Just see what is wrong. Ask if they want time
themselves. If they genuinely WANT to be alone, then leave them.
hmm...some people like to just stay alone...either they prefer it that way,want
attention or they are waiting for someone to come up to them.these ppl may also
be just shy or have strong difficulty in expressing themselves.it may also be
because of them wanting to be more cautious due to experiences or they just
cannot seem to kick the habit.
Quote by AmethystSnow...it may also
be because of them wanting to be more cautious due to experiences or they just
cannot seem to kick the habit.
Completely agree with you there AmethystSnow. One person I know gets kicked in
the teeth every time she tries. She was going out to the movies with friends
yesterday and was really looking forward to it; but she couldn't find her wallet
so they left without her...
Well i can't speak for everyone but when people have been nasty and mean to you
you can't help but be a little worrysome of people i've know people who stab you
right in the back front and sides if they got the chance. so you can't really
blame someone for wanting to be alone at least no one can hurt you that way. but
this just my 2 cents.
Maybe they feel other people are inferior to them. Some times people feel that
others only cause to disturb oneself. I feel that way at times when i want to be
lonesome for myself. Its the feeling that you think others annoy you and you
rather be alone the deal with there troubles.
I like to spend a great deal of my time alone...for me it's just a way of life
since I have very few friends and my two closest friends live 6 hours drive
away. I like the quiet of a house at night where everone else is asleep and I
think of that kind of peace of mind when I'm alone and want to relax. I've never
been much of a 'people person' so this has fit for me quite well.
from my point of view, its pretty much u to you whether you want to feel lonely
or not... a person being alone doesn't necessarily mean that the person would
feel lonely... and a person who is surrounded by people (e.g. classmates) would
not necessarily mean he/she would not feel lonely...
unless... the "lonely people" you are talking about refers to people
who choses to be alone or in other terms, loners...
like many others had posted...
it could be their personality, they just don't like socialising..
it could be that the people around them are not their type, as in they have no
interest in the people around them..
it could also be that humans disgust them..
Its definately a reoccuring problem for me, I'm end up feeling lonely most of
the time, its affecting me.
I usually try fixing things myself, doing stuff myself, on my own, but lately,
its getting to me, I feel more inclined to be with people, yet I find no one I
like to be with. My sister says I'm too selective with friends, I find I have
many friends, but none of them are true. I'm definately out there in school
activities, representatives of many things, but in the end, I don't feel
changed. Often at times, I find myself being totally disgusted with humans.... I
don't know what's going on or what phase I'm going through, but I need to pass
uni, and I'm in a really difficult program which requires alot of studying,
which means more alone time, and more lamenating about life.
How do I solve this?
Do I have to delude myself? Change my morals? My ethics? Find a random
girlfriend, I'll probably end up hurting? I can't resort to anything lately, and
I usually solve things on my own...
Its damaging me thats what i know, and I can't find out the reason. Someone
mentioned the cause may be from a past experience, I don't recall it. Or rather,
I can't.
I just don't get it sometimes, I see lonely people and I want to talk to them, but they don't seem interested, it's if they like to be lonely. It's not once, but a few times I tried with the same person. Why is that?
It's not that. Lonely people are too used to be lonely, so they don't know how to react with others, they're afraid of being hurt. most of the lonely persons already suffered from something that made them feel really sad, that's why they don't wanna pass throw that again..
I see thanks
well, some lonely people don't LIKE being lonely. they just seen loneliness as the better option in their path through life. some of them, like one of my friends, has been backstabbed WAY too many times in the past, so it took him awhile to open to me, even. like many others, he has a dark view on human nature, and chooses his friends carefully due to his past experiences.
I see, thanks, it's making sense to me now, I can relate to that cause I know it's hard to find trusting people these days, and it's even harder cause you have to be on-guard around people you hardly know, incase.
aaaand then there's the type of lonely people that are lonely for attention. Kinda contradictive, i know, but in some cases, it works...
But what do they want to achieve with the attention?
Welll, they're lonely to start with, so playing on it gives some much needed attention... for a time...
I like to be lonely a lot. It dosn't mean I don't like people or I'm afraid of them, I just like to have some time to myself sometimes. But I have great friends and they don't let me be lonely very much ^_^.
I see, but then what after?
Heh never thought there'll be a response like this, guess the question was a bit broad. It's ironic that some people like you want to be lonely cause you don't get your own private space, while others who want to be lonely cause of negative reasons.
Anyways, thanks for the feedback so far guys.
Lonely and having time to yourself aren't quite the same me thinks...
Yeah I agree with ya Eagle, they're two different things. But I think ASH-Hikari is trying to say that she needs time for herself to relax, cause she's constantly having people around her.
Lovely is when you kind of want someone to be with you.
Time to yourself is wanting to be alone. Both have different definitions.
Different people have different reasons to be alone. Some want to get away from other people (bothersome, pestering) but others might be in the habit of being left alone all the time because people normally don't talk to them in the first place (person is always kicked out of conversations). It just so happens that sometimes, some people want to be alone but actually want someone with them. It's a habit.
Can't blame them all the time. Just see what is wrong. Ask if they want time themselves. If they genuinely WANT to be alone, then leave them.
hmm...some people like to just stay alone...either they prefer it that way,want attention or they are waiting for someone to come up to them.these ppl may also be just shy or have strong difficulty in expressing themselves.it may also be because of them wanting to be more cautious due to experiences or they just cannot seem to kick the habit.
Completely agree with you there AmethystSnow. One person I know gets kicked in the teeth every time she tries. She was going out to the movies with friends yesterday and was really looking forward to it; but she couldn't find her wallet so they left without her...
For some people, lonliness just happens...
well i agree with wat these ppl had wrote so i nid not write anything
I prefer to be alone because.... I don't like people....
and so many of them are selfish and self-centered..... and I just don't like people.....
When you're alone the world can't judge you. Better to not be thought of than to not be thought of well.
Well i can't speak for everyone but when people have been nasty and mean to you you can't help but be a little worrysome of people i've know people who stab you right in the back front and sides if they got the chance. so you can't really blame someone for wanting to be alone at least no one can hurt you that way. but this just my 2 cents.
Maybe, they just don't like being with other people?
Maybe they feel other people are inferior to them. Some times people feel that others only cause to disturb oneself. I feel that way at times when i want to be lonesome for myself. Its the feeling that you think others annoy you and you rather be alone the deal with there troubles.
I like to spend a great deal of my time alone...for me it's just a way of life since I have very few friends and my two closest friends live 6 hours drive away. I like the quiet of a house at night where everone else is asleep and I think of that kind of peace of mind when I'm alone and want to relax. I've never been much of a 'people person' so this has fit for me quite well.
from my point of view, its pretty much u to you whether you want to feel lonely or not... a person being alone doesn't necessarily mean that the person would feel lonely... and a person who is surrounded by people (e.g. classmates) would not necessarily mean he/she would not feel lonely...
unless... the "lonely people" you are talking about refers to people who choses to be alone or in other terms, loners...
like many others had posted...
it could be their personality, they just don't like socialising..
it could be that the people around them are not their type, as in they have no interest in the people around them..
it could also be that humans disgust them..
Its definately a reoccuring problem for me, I'm end up feeling lonely most of the time, its affecting me.
I usually try fixing things myself, doing stuff myself, on my own, but lately, its getting to me, I feel more inclined to be with people, yet I find no one I like to be with. My sister says I'm too selective with friends, I find I have many friends, but none of them are true. I'm definately out there in school activities, representatives of many things, but in the end, I don't feel changed. Often at times, I find myself being totally disgusted with humans.... I don't know what's going on or what phase I'm going through, but I need to pass uni, and I'm in a really difficult program which requires alot of studying, which means more alone time, and more lamenating about life.
How do I solve this?
Do I have to delude myself? Change my morals? My ethics? Find a random girlfriend, I'll probably end up hurting? I can't resort to anything lately, and I usually solve things on my own...
Its damaging me thats what i know, and I can't find out the reason. Someone mentioned the cause may be from a past experience, I don't recall it. Or rather, I can't.
Help =(