Being a gay is really ok, but you must knw, to your parent, it`s still quite
difficult for them to accept that their child is a gay... He himself is a not a
gay, he might not understand how you feel... But i`m sure no parent in the world
will not accept or love they children for who they are... Hope you can find your
true love! Gabate!
Considering all the yaoi fans out there, I don't think you'll be getting any
negative feed back from this forum. I am not a yaoi fan, but the way I see it,
despite what the media wants you to believe, the world does not revolve around
sex. This is the twenty-first century. There's more to who you are than who you
sleep with. I just don't want to hear about it.
A friend of mine once told me, it doesn't matter what kind of sex you have, just
so long as your partner's pretty.
Speaking as a regular straight guy, I don't believe there's anything wrong with
being gay. It's merely a choice of lifestyle and a reflection of one's feeling
for another. So what if it happens to be for someone of the same sex? Big deal,
as long as it's something that will make you happy in the end, that's all that
matters.
Perhaps some people will just need some time to get comfortable with the idea.
And even if they can't get 100% accustomed to it, those that care for you
shouldn't let it stand in the way of their feelings of loyalty to you.
Being gay completely fine I
agree with what Toshie said. Your dad is probably shocked, and well, what Toshie
said. Having a hard time accepting it because he isn't gay himself. I'm sure
your father will accept who you are, he's your dad after all. As a parent he
should love you no matter what ^^
It's ok with me you sould be able to choose the life that you wish to have. no
matter what you sexual prefences are as long as your family and friends except
you everything will be fine of course you need to talk to anyone here i'm sure
alot people will help you. i wll hope what i said helps and comforts you.
Well i think you are doing the first step right.
By telling the truth to your parent, that mean you are accepting yourself
truhtfully.
Don't care what other think and see of you.
people live very short that's why we must do what we think the most enjoyable
thing.
World is like a large stage, wether you want to act following the scenario or
not is your choice. as long as you can enjoy it.
I hope love comes to you my dear friend. i know it could be hard for you to be
able to find a unique person like you. i am not "gay" as you speak,
but I think everyone should be treated exactly the same way as everyother person
on this earth, so be it. I think you should talk to you father, see how he feels
about it, then talk about it. See his perspective of your choice. I am not a
therepist, i just thought i should put my point in this subject. ^^
I believe that it's a weight you got off your back telling your parents.
It's courageous not to lie to yourself and to be sure about who you are.
I kinda envy you... because although I know it's better to figure it out and
tell people, I'm scared to death. I enjoy looking at other guys more than I do
looking at girls, but in the end I still didn't find out what I am except being
a coward when it comes to this. I'm afraid to know the truth and disappoint lots
of people.
I just hide, lock myself up and pretend everything is as people expect it to
be...
Being gay is not a crime, nor is it wrong.
Telling your parents was right, indeed. They have to find out, or else maybe the
chock would have a greater effect. Who knows.
But as I see it, dont care what others say or think. The media and everybody
else just want to change you into something THEY want, even though you dont want
the same.
Just fight on, and continue be as strong as you were when you told your parents.
That is a strength few persons got.
/afaT
How old are you? If you are kinda young, that might be why he wonders if you
might change your mind. It's understandable that he wishes you did, gays do't
exactly have equal rights and all that.
being a guy is maybe,so complicated but i see that you are having sexual problem
maybe when you are still shildren tou jave been treat act like a girl.My
suggestion you must go to psikiater to consul your problem being a guy!
theres nothing wrong with it at all!
your dads probably abit shocked about it, but after time it'll sink in and he'll
accept it better ^_^ he'll love ya no matter what anyways so dont worry
I'm gonna be frank with you, being gay is NOT ok. It happens often, but it's not
normal. I don't know how to explain but we were created man-woman to love each
other like that. I'm not a religious person, but this is God's theory and it's
how things are supposed to be. Gayness is like a psychic disorder. I'm not
offending you, I don't want to be a mean person, but as I said at the beginning,
I'm being honest. When you started liking the same sex, you should've went to a
psychologist to talk it over. It's a time when all of us have this 'thing',
somewhere in the middle of puberty, for the same sex, but it passes. Now there's
no turning back for you, so you must first accept yourself, then tell the
others. If it happened, it happened, it's not ok... it's not the worse thing, it
just happened.
who says being gay isnt okay? Just becuse they're wired differently doesnt mean
their freaks. Its not got to do with choice either, most people are just born
that way. Ive heard that homosexuality comes from the mothers antibodies
attacking the male hormones when in the womb. It is my opinion that most people
that are afraid of gay people is because they dont want them to like them. It
scares them to think that maybe this one of them wil like them and maybe look at
them in that way. Sakura-dust, what do you have against them? What does anyone
have against homosexuals anyway, they just live their live and homophobes just
cant seem to leave them alone. As far as your dad goes imconfused, hes just
going to have to live with it. Im sure he'll not look at you any differently
(Hopefully not anyway), his reaction didnt seem bad. im not sure anyone here
will have the best opinions, you may want to talk to people who have actually
gone through this at your stage.
Well in my view.. i guess it would be okay.. as long as you follow your heart
and know wat you are doing is right or wrong.. if u really love tat person and
tat person love u back alot.. i guess it is okay.. since im a les.. xD
just dun care abt wat ppl think of u.. they think they think lor..
it happen in their mind not yours so you no need to be worried around ppl and
stuffs as long as u accept yourself.. if not u will be filled with regret..
To me, it's perfectly alright, feelings are feelings, and it's something you
can't force yourself to change; just take good care of yourself, and who you
like/love is who you like/love. Simple as that!
I hope you find love, peace, and happiness! Take care!
~"TreaGirl".
There is no such thing as the right and wrong, normal and abnormal.
"Normal" is synonymous with hegemonic power. Those with power define
what's normal. Being gay is not wrong. Twenty years down the road, who knows, it
may be defined as normal when the world finally stops being so close-minded and
accept it as normal. Working women didn't used to be normal, but now it is. Nor
was women half naked socially acceptable, now look, you see naked women
everywhere! So being gay is definitely okay. Be who you are, keep fighting for
what you believe in.
There is nothing wrong with being gay and there will never be anything wrong
with it
were all humans doesn't matter what your preference in sex is maybe your dad
will come to understand...but quite frankly im curious in why your dad didn't
know about this from the beginning...usually they can see the signs...
well best of luck to you..
i told my dad im gay and altho he says hes fine with it he seems bothered by it and keeps asking me if i am sure of it
Being a gay is really ok, but you must knw, to your parent, it`s still quite difficult for them to accept that their child is a gay... He himself is a not a gay, he might not understand how you feel... But i`m sure no parent in the world will not accept or love they children for who they are... Hope you can find your true love! Gabate!
No, there's nothing wrong with it. As long as you're happy.
Considering all the yaoi fans out there, I don't think you'll be getting any negative feed back from this forum. I am not a yaoi fan, but the way I see it, despite what the media wants you to believe, the world does not revolve around sex. This is the twenty-first century. There's more to who you are than who you sleep with. I just don't want to hear about it.
A friend of mine once told me, it doesn't matter what kind of sex you have, just so long as your partner's pretty.
Speaking as a regular straight guy, I don't believe there's anything wrong with being gay. It's merely a choice of lifestyle and a reflection of one's feeling for another. So what if it happens to be for someone of the same sex? Big deal, as long as it's something that will make you happy in the end, that's all that matters.
Perhaps some people will just need some time to get comfortable with the idea. And even if they can't get 100% accustomed to it, those that care for you shouldn't let it stand in the way of their feelings of loyalty to you.
Being gay completely fine
I
agree with what Toshie said. Your dad is probably shocked, and well, what Toshie
said. Having a hard time accepting it because he isn't gay himself. I'm sure
your father will accept who you are, he's your dad after all. As a parent he
should love you no matter what ^^
It's ok with me you sould be able to choose the life that you wish to have. no matter what you sexual prefences are as long as your family and friends except you everything will be fine of course you need to talk to anyone here i'm sure alot people will help you. i wll hope what i said helps and comforts you.
Well i think you are doing the first step right.
By telling the truth to your parent, that mean you are accepting yourself truhtfully.
Don't care what other think and see of you.
people live very short that's why we must do what we think the most enjoyable thing.
World is like a large stage, wether you want to act following the scenario or not is your choice. as long as you can enjoy it.
I hope love comes to you my dear friend. i know it could be hard for you to be able to find a unique person like you. i am not "gay" as you speak, but I think everyone should be treated exactly the same way as everyother person on this earth, so be it. I think you should talk to you father, see how he feels about it, then talk about it. See his perspective of your choice. I am not a therepist, i just thought i should put my point in this subject. ^^
I believe that it's a weight you got off your back telling your parents.
It's courageous not to lie to yourself and to be sure about who you are.
I kinda envy you... because although I know it's better to figure it out and tell people, I'm scared to death. I enjoy looking at other guys more than I do looking at girls, but in the end I still didn't find out what I am except being a coward when it comes to this. I'm afraid to know the truth and disappoint lots of people.
I just hide, lock myself up and pretend everything is as people expect it to be...
Being gay is not a crime, nor is it wrong.
Telling your parents was right, indeed. They have to find out, or else maybe the chock would have a greater effect. Who knows.
But as I see it, dont care what others say or think. The media and everybody else just want to change you into something THEY want, even though you dont want the same.
Just fight on, and continue be as strong as you were when you told your parents. That is a strength few persons got.
/afaT
How old are you? If you are kinda young, that might be why he wonders if you might change your mind. It's understandable that he wishes you did, gays do't exactly have equal rights and all that.
being a guy is maybe,so complicated but i see that you are having sexual problem maybe when you are still shildren tou jave been treat act like a girl.My suggestion you must go to psikiater to consul your problem being a guy!
If you need to convince your dad, ask him, "Were you okay with the 2 lesbians being gay in the porn movie you watched the other night?"
it's OK! nothing to be worried about! i think your dad will come to understand that too! just give him some time^^
i think it's ok but how bout the people around u?
theres nothing wrong with it at all!
your dads probably abit shocked about it, but after time it'll sink in and he'll accept it better ^_^ he'll love ya no matter what anyways so dont worry
I'm gonna be frank with you, being gay is NOT ok. It happens often, but it's not normal. I don't know how to explain but we were created man-woman to love each other like that. I'm not a religious person, but this is God's theory and it's how things are supposed to be. Gayness is like a psychic disorder. I'm not offending you, I don't want to be a mean person, but as I said at the beginning, I'm being honest. When you started liking the same sex, you should've went to a psychologist to talk it over. It's a time when all of us have this 'thing', somewhere in the middle of puberty, for the same sex, but it passes. Now there's no turning back for you, so you must first accept yourself, then tell the others. If it happened, it happened, it's not ok... it's not the worse thing, it just happened.
who says being gay isnt okay? Just becuse they're wired differently doesnt mean their freaks. Its not got to do with choice either, most people are just born that way. Ive heard that homosexuality comes from the mothers antibodies attacking the male hormones when in the womb. It is my opinion that most people that are afraid of gay people is because they dont want them to like them. It scares them to think that maybe this one of them wil like them and maybe look at them in that way. Sakura-dust, what do you have against them? What does anyone have against homosexuals anyway, they just live their live and homophobes just cant seem to leave them alone. As far as your dad goes imconfused, hes just going to have to live with it. Im sure he'll not look at you any differently (Hopefully not anyway), his reaction didnt seem bad. im not sure anyone here will have the best opinions, you may want to talk to people who have actually gone through this at your stage.
Well in my view.. i guess it would be okay.. as long as you follow your heart and know wat you are doing is right or wrong.. if u really love tat person and tat person love u back alot.. i guess it is okay.. since im a les.. xD
just dun care abt wat ppl think of u.. they think they think lor..
it happen in their mind not yours so you no need to be worried around ppl and stuffs as long as u accept yourself.. if not u will be filled with regret..
To me, it's perfectly alright, feelings are feelings, and it's something you can't force yourself to change; just take good care of yourself, and who you like/love is who you like/love. Simple as that!
I hope you find love, peace, and happiness! Take care!
~"TreaGirl".
No but being a lesbian is fine.
There is no such thing as the right and wrong, normal and abnormal. "Normal" is synonymous with hegemonic power. Those with power define what's normal. Being gay is not wrong. Twenty years down the road, who knows, it may be defined as normal when the world finally stops being so close-minded and accept it as normal. Working women didn't used to be normal, but now it is. Nor was women half naked socially acceptable, now look, you see naked women everywhere! So being gay is definitely okay. Be who you are, keep fighting for what you believe in.
There is nothing wrong with being gay and there will never be anything wrong with it
were all humans doesn't matter what your preference in sex is maybe your dad will come to understand...but quite frankly im curious in why your dad didn't know about this from the beginning...usually they can see the signs...
well best of luck to you..