iv like this guy for a long time (nevr confessed or did any thing that would
make him not want to be near me) but my good friend apperently also likes him
and she has tryed to get me away from him told him that i like him and that im a
creepy gay stalker stuff like that whitch worked (he dosent whant anything to do
with me now) and is also try to get him to do stuff with her some of which i
find gross and distasfull. and now were in a big fight
what should i do?
well, i am sorry to hear this, for it happen a few times to me and i well,
explained it to the person and she/he(i shallnt say whether it is a male/female)
understood, sosome how i got out of it with some explaination and now he/she is
with me again
Sorry for being too frank. Personally I could not call someone, like the person
you described, a friend. If anyone back
stabs me he or she is definitely out of my friend's list. What your friend has
done couldn't be any terrible. As snowcutie-chan mentioned you better disclose
it with that guy personally and away from your friend. She might not allow
things to dissolve between you. I don't know about your friend and level of your
frienship with her, if you think she worths to stay as your friend then, try to
fix things up otherwise you better silently and piecefully distant from her.
It sounds to me like your friend has absolutely no integrity and no regard for
you at all. What she did is absoutely unforgivable and unless she tells the boy
what she said was nothing but slander and apologizes directly to you, then I
would just say "we're not friends anymore" or nothing at all. Its
unfortunate that your friend felt she needed to do that, but if she really felt
that she would get along with him better than you, she would not have lied to
him about you. It may be hard not having a best friend, but you shouldnt
surround yourself with friends that dont really care about you.
Non of the people in this forum are going to know exactly what your going
through, your probably going to just have to feel your way through this on your
own.
merged: 06-22-2007 ~ 03:20am
Sorry, I was a little confused about the problem. The guy is probably most
likely not gay and a little creeped out. You cant change someones preference
over boy or girl, your going to have to wait for a guy who is interested in
guys. Im sure you'll find someone, but most people who are gay in highschool
arent going to admit it. You'll most likely find someone when your out in the
world and have a job.
This is indeed a bad phase, but it sounds like your "friend" needs to
be checked. Don't let anything she say get to you, or the guy for that matter,
this might need lots of courage, but pull the guy over, and tell him what's up.
she's totally thinking this: eliminate any competition for her own selfish needs
and have the guy be all over her... lol sounds like the corporate world too,
people never grow up... just stay as competitive children securing their
desires.
How can you even call her a friend, she is not, a friend isnt someone you have
fun with & laugh & even cry.
a true friend is the one who loves for you what she loves for herself, &
never turn against you for someone else ....but you should talk to her & try
to get a decent answer.
You've been cheated ! She got the better of you may be because you were hesitant
in the first place! Anyway all you can do is muster up the courage to talk to
the guy you like and ask him why he believes in what she said? Doesn't he have
his own brain to form an opinion of you? If he still doesn't wanna talk, find
someone else!
I can't tell you from an unbiased position, but what I can tell you is that
she's probably an immasculating type of woman, and it all depends on weither
your friend is heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. And although you may find
that gross disgusting stuff to be that way, your friend might be into that. And
if you were to reveal your opinion on it, your fucked 12 ways come sunday, he'll
think your strange and not look at you the same. Does he appear to
like/dislike/not care about those things? Maybe he's the shy type, who knows?
Only you probably, but if you want a better answer it requires more
information.
And no, you haven't been cheated, she is HIS friend and thats what she cares
about, why you consider her a friend I have no clue why. "All is fair in
love and war." If you follow that quote, it doesn't matter, although there
are a few rules that are rudimentary in there.
To throw a fact out there: imconfused is bisexual/homosexual, so don't think its
girl vs. girl over one guy, its girl vs. guy over one guy. I don't know if that
changes your opinion and really I don't give a damn, if you've made up your mind
you've made up your mind and nothing I said can change that.
Edit:
Also, for the love of any God(s) that exist, don't simply call the girl bad and
blindly incourage imconfused simply because he wants comforting. Although it
would be comfort, it would be misplaced comfort and although it helps
momentarily, in the end it makes the person your trying to help suffer more than
it helps them.
"False tears are capable of hurting other people. False smiles are capable
of hurting one's self."
Take from that what you will, it suits the situation and shows my point in many
ways.
altho deathbonewitch can be a bit mean h is probrably the most imcitful do to
the fact that alltho the question is geared for u to side with me he stays
unbised ty deathbonewitch
Yes he is gay... I really don't think you have the right to laugh about it and I
think you're really just pointing out the obvious... I don't know if that's
considered spam or not, chances are it is.
I wouldn't consider her a friend, but I would have to say that it's best to just
isolate that situation and go on ahead (my weird terms, if you don't understand
it, I mean by leave it alone and just move on) it's a lot better like someone
that will listen directly from the source rather than listening from someone
else about a situation, or in your case, about you.
iv like this guy for a long time (nevr confessed or did any thing that would make him not want to be near me) but my good friend apperently also likes him and she has tryed to get me away from him told him that i like him and that im a creepy gay stalker stuff like that whitch worked (he dosent whant anything to do with me now) and is also try to get him to do stuff with her some of which i find gross and distasfull. and now were in a big fight
what should i do?
well, i am sorry to hear this, for it happen a few times to me and i well, explained it to the person and she/he(i shallnt say whether it is a male/female) understood, sosome how i got out of it with some explaination and now he/she is with me again
Sorry for being too frank. Personally I could not call someone, like the person you described, a friend. If anyone back stabs me he or she is definitely out of my friend's list. What your friend has done couldn't be any terrible. As snowcutie-chan mentioned you better disclose it with that guy personally and away from your friend. She might not allow things to dissolve between you. I don't know about your friend and level of your frienship with her, if you think she worths to stay as your friend then, try to fix things up otherwise you better silently and piecefully distant from her.
It sounds to me like your friend has absolutely no integrity and no regard for you at all. What she did is absoutely unforgivable and unless she tells the boy what she said was nothing but slander and apologizes directly to you, then I would just say "we're not friends anymore" or nothing at all. Its unfortunate that your friend felt she needed to do that, but if she really felt that she would get along with him better than you, she would not have lied to him about you. It may be hard not having a best friend, but you shouldnt surround yourself with friends that dont really care about you.
Non of the people in this forum are going to know exactly what your going through, your probably going to just have to feel your way through this on your own.
merged: 06-22-2007 ~ 03:20am
Sorry, I was a little confused about the problem. The guy is probably most likely not gay and a little creeped out. You cant change someones preference over boy or girl, your going to have to wait for a guy who is interested in guys. Im sure you'll find someone, but most people who are gay in highschool arent going to admit it. You'll most likely find someone when your out in the world and have a job.
This is indeed a bad phase, but it sounds like your "friend" needs to be checked. Don't let anything she say get to you, or the guy for that matter, this might need lots of courage, but pull the guy over, and tell him what's up.
she's totally thinking this: eliminate any competition for her own selfish needs and have the guy be all over her... lol sounds like the corporate world too, people never grow up... just stay as competitive children securing their desires.
How can you even call her a friend, she is not, a friend isnt someone you have fun with & laugh & even cry.
a true friend is the one who loves for you what she loves for herself, & never turn against you for someone else ....but you should talk to her & try to get a decent answer.
You've been cheated ! She got the better of you may be because you were hesitant in the first place! Anyway all you can do is muster up the courage to talk to the guy you like and ask him why he believes in what she said? Doesn't he have his own brain to form an opinion of you? If he still doesn't wanna talk, find someone else!
I can't tell you from an unbiased position, but what I can tell you is that she's probably an immasculating type of woman, and it all depends on weither your friend is heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. And although you may find that gross disgusting stuff to be that way, your friend might be into that. And if you were to reveal your opinion on it, your fucked 12 ways come sunday, he'll think your strange and not look at you the same. Does he appear to like/dislike/not care about those things? Maybe he's the shy type, who knows? Only you probably, but if you want a better answer it requires more information.
And no, you haven't been cheated, she is HIS friend and thats what she cares about, why you consider her a friend I have no clue why. "All is fair in love and war." If you follow that quote, it doesn't matter, although there are a few rules that are rudimentary in there.
To throw a fact out there: imconfused is bisexual/homosexual, so don't think its girl vs. girl over one guy, its girl vs. guy over one guy. I don't know if that changes your opinion and really I don't give a damn, if you've made up your mind you've made up your mind and nothing I said can change that.
Edit:
Also, for the love of any God(s) that exist, don't simply call the girl bad and blindly incourage imconfused simply because he wants comforting. Although it would be comfort, it would be misplaced comfort and although it helps momentarily, in the end it makes the person your trying to help suffer more than it helps them.
"False tears are capable of hurting other people. False smiles are capable of hurting one's self."
Take from that what you will, it suits the situation and shows my point in many ways.
altho deathbonewitch can be a bit mean h is probrably the most imcitful do to the fact that alltho the question is geared for u to side with me he stays unbised ty deathbonewitch
Yes he is gay... I really don't think you have the right to laugh about it and I think you're really just pointing out the obvious... I don't know if that's considered spam or not, chances are it is.
I wouldn't consider her a friend, but I would have to say that it's best to just isolate that situation and go on ahead (my weird terms, if you don't understand it, I mean by leave it alone and just move on) it's a lot better like someone that will listen directly from the source rather than listening from someone else about a situation, or in your case, about you.