I am very sure that mostly people enjoy having secret admirers
But what would you do if one of the secret admirer turns really crazy about you?
He or she always secretly spying and taking pictures of you everywhere you go.
Sometimes you don't even feel safe being alone in the washroom
Moreover this person knows everything about you and even having a HUGE
collection of your stuffs that you had thrown away.
You do not want to make things too big
So how do you deal with crazy secret admirer if you have 1?
p/s : sorry if the words I'm using up there make you feel offended....
Hontoni Komenasai.
*If there is already a thread on this, do tell me the link. I'm interested to
read it. Thank you
lets see I remember a similar situation, something that happened to me..only
that in my case the secret admirer
was the the best friend of an old boyfriend o.O strange ei..
perhaps the best thing is to have an open conversation with him/her to make
things clear
I don`t understand this passions driven to extreme
Quote by AestusTry not to flatter yourself
too much, 99% chance it will stop eventually.
but she can`t let her self be harassed by someone like that..some people don`t
take no for an answer o.O
in the end in a way or another things will be solved..I prefer a more direct
approach of the situation
just be natural and start a conversation with that person..to see that is in
her/his head
somehow I pity people that make this kind of passions.. if there is no chance
for him to be with you
then you must make him understand..my advice never accept to be with someone
from pity just to be with someone
because it makes your life a hell ..yah I have my own experiences
if you don`t like him then that is all he can`t restrain you to be his gf..try
to look at this situation without being frustrated by his insistence
at first try to make him understand like I`ved mentioned in my message above
if he dos not want to give up..then ignore him..like he is not there (is
irritating for a guy to be ignored)
wops sorry guys
Quote by dianasif he dos not want to give
up..then ignore him..
Judging from his description he won't care.
Quote by dianasbut she can`t let her self
be harassed by someone like that..some people don`t take no for an answer
o.O
I think youve got the wrong idea, dont confuse this with your own experiences.
Where does she mention the word harass? taking pictures hardly cuts it.
Asking kindly to stop, and maybe try to show you sympathise with him- yet be
absolute/serious. Thats the only normal option, of course you could more drastic
measures but I advise against it since this is not really a threatening
situation to anyone. If he persists with denial, tell him your friends saw him,
and then tell him what he's doing is kinda not normal. He will get the message,
leave him alone, its up to him to quit.
oh btw:
Quote by dianas(is irritating for a guy to
be ignored)
OMG!
someone is harrasing you?
Why didn't you tell me?
I'll be your official bodyguard! or maybe not...anyway...I agree that you have to talk to him
about his behaviour...
call me if he persists...
its been so long since I talked to you...
except that day...
but we didn't really talk much...
Quote by LarielHmm... I'll just show him
all of my bad qualities and let him know I sux...
good point brought up. ^^V
However, 30% of the time, it will work. 60% You'll end up firing the fanatic
stalker's ambitious craze on you to get to know you all more over to be more
zealous in his/hers infatuation.
The Remaining 10% hrmmmm...I'll like you guys figure it out. More on the weird
concepts.
Oh my God, you do realized that you are being stalked? That's...illeagal. I
seriously advise to tell you, if he does not stop, you should seek help from
professionals. Tell your parents. I mean, keeping stuff that you have thrown
away? That's stalking. Don't let this get out of hand.
i have't never been has a secret admirer, if he/she kind to me, it's okay, but
if he/she annoying my privacy, i'll tell him/her, that's disturbing, if they
don't stop, call polive :P
first before starting a conversation with him take a friend or someone you can
trust.
prepare an umbrella before rain.
second he is stalking you because he likes you right?, so confont him and says
"the more you do this despicable, and cowardly acts like this, the more i
hate you and became a more low life's you are so stop it!"
huahahhaha this what i will do. but it's kinda hard to be done by you right ^
^.
or better find a dependable boyfriend, maybe he will gave up soon.
The guy is crazy...in love. If he hasn't stopped then get one of your freinds to do it for ya. That is if
only you can't/ or are to nervous to do it yourself.
Quote by fawna-chanOh my God, you do
realized that you are being stalked? That's...illeagal. I seriously advise to
tell you, if he does not stop, you should seek help from professionals. Tell
your parents. I mean, keeping stuff that you have thrown away? That's stalking.
Don't let this get out of hand.
Yeah...
its illegal!
At least let your lecturers know whats been happening...
maybe they can give him a warning to expel him if this keeps up?
just a suggestion...^^
*Slap the person in the face and then call him a stalker "*
Unless the guy is really hot ^-^" then just feel proud of urself cuz
someone thinks ur cute
cuz I really cant think of girls been a crazy secret admirer... usually they
would show it.. and the guy can tell.. well unless the guy is too dull ... thats
a differnt story... >.>
well normally I'm the one that is the secret admirer but perchance that I do/did
have one I just let them have their fun, if anything they are like me then
chances are they will eventually grow bored and leave or make something serious
of it, normally it's they leave/lose interest and that's where it ends...never
had been encountered with the police or restraints and the likes
I am very sure that mostly people enjoy having secret admirers
But what would you do if one of the secret admirer turns really crazy about you?
He or she always secretly spying and taking pictures of you everywhere you go. Sometimes you don't even feel safe being alone in the washroom
Moreover this person knows everything about you and even having a HUGE collection of your stuffs that you had thrown away.
You do not want to make things too big
So how do you deal with crazy secret admirer if you have 1?
p/s :
sorry if the words I'm using up there make you feel offended....
Hontoni Komenasai.
*If there is already a thread on this, do tell me the link. I'm interested to read it. Thank you
lets see I remember a similar situation, something that happened to me..only that in my case the secret admirer
was the the best friend of an old boyfriend o.O strange ei..
perhaps the best thing is to have an open conversation with him/her to make things clear
I don`t understand this passions driven to extreme
Try not to flatter yourself too much, 99% chance it will stop eventually.
but she can`t let her self be harassed by someone like that..some people don`t take no for an answer o.O
in the end in a way or another things will be solved..I prefer a more direct approach of the situation
just be natural and start a conversation with that person..to see that is in her/his head
Just straight up tell them that you don't like them or to just quit the wierd acts.
What happen if he say it wasn't him who is taking pictures of me? I'm sure it was him cause about 4 of my friends saw him taking pictures of me.
Shall I continue telling him to stop?
Of course, if it doesn't make you feel comfortable, you can tell them to stop.
Just tell him/her and get it over with...
Life is too short to be pondering..
somehow I pity people that make this kind of passions.. if there is no chance for him to be with you
just to be with someone
then you must make him understand..my advice never accept to be with someone from pity
because it makes your life a hell ..yah I have my own experiences
if you don`t like him then that is all he can`t restrain you to be his gf..try to look at this situation without being frustrated by his insistence
at first try to make him understand like I`ved mentioned in my message above
if he dos not want to give up..then ignore him..like he is not there (is irritating for a guy to be ignored)
wops sorry guys
Hmm... I'll just show him all of my bad qualities and let him know I sux...
Judging from his description he won't care.
I think youve got the wrong idea, dont confuse this with your own experiences. Where does she mention the word harass? taking pictures hardly cuts it.
Asking kindly to stop, and maybe try to show you sympathise with him- yet be absolute/serious. Thats the only normal option, of course you could more drastic measures but I advise against it since this is not really a threatening situation to anyone. If he persists with denial, tell him your friends saw him, and then tell him what he's doing is kinda not normal. He will get the message, leave him alone, its up to him to quit.
oh btw:
I dont think you want to annoy him anyways.
turn the person into a pet !
OMG!
or maybe not...anyway...I agree that you have to talk to him
about his behaviour...
someone is harrasing you?
Why didn't you tell me?
I'll be your official bodyguard!
call me if he persists...
its been so long since I talked to you...
except that day...
but we didn't really talk much...
eh if you don't like him just tell him straight and tell him to quit stalking u etc or you'll call the police. ya.
good point brought up. ^^V
However, 30% of the time, it will work. 60% You'll end up firing the fanatic stalker's ambitious craze on you to get to know you all more over to be more zealous in his/hers infatuation.
The Remaining 10% hrmmmm...I'll like you guys figure it out. More on the weird concepts.
Ummmmmm....get a restraining order on him or her.
Oh my God, you do realized that you are being stalked? That's...illeagal. I seriously advise to tell you, if he does not stop, you should seek help from professionals. Tell your parents. I mean, keeping stuff that you have thrown away? That's stalking. Don't let this get out of hand.
i have't never been has a secret admirer, if he/she kind to me, it's okay, but if he/she annoying my privacy, i'll tell him/her, that's disturbing, if they don't stop, call polive :P
the truth is usually the simplest... but it could turn ugly...
just have lots of friends supporting you or something =)
first before starting a conversation with him take a friend or someone you can trust.
prepare an umbrella before rain.
second he is stalking you because he likes you right?, so confont him and says "the more you do this despicable, and cowardly acts like this, the more i hate you and became a more low life's you are so stop it!"
huahahhaha this what i will do. but it's kinda hard to be done by you right ^ ^.
or better find a dependable boyfriend, maybe he will gave up soon.
The guy is crazy...in love.
If he hasn't stopped then get one of your freinds to do it for ya. That is if
only you can't/ or are to nervous to do it yourself.
Yeah...
its illegal!
At least let your lecturers know whats been happening...
maybe they can give him a warning to expel him if this keeps up?
just a suggestion...^^
*Slap the person in the face and then call him a stalker
"*
Unless the guy is really hot ^-^" then just feel proud of urself cuz someone thinks ur cute
cuz I really cant think of girls been a crazy secret admirer... usually they would show it.. and the guy can tell.. well unless the guy is too dull ... thats a differnt story... >.>
well normally I'm the one that is the secret admirer but perchance that I do/did have one I just let them have their fun, if anything they are like me then chances are they will eventually grow bored and leave or make something serious of it, normally it's they leave/lose interest and that's where it ends...never had been encountered with the police or restraints and the likes