I feel a little strange asking for personal advice on a public forum (I'm not even sure if it's appropriate here) but I'm really interested in everyone's suggestions/opinions. So here goes:
My personality is such that I find it very hard to open up to people. As such, it takes quite sometime for me to build a close friendship with someone. I can make friends, but really close friends are a different matter. When I say "close friend" I mean someone who you can not only have fun and feel comfortable with, but also someone you can trust personal issues with, rely on and love more than yourself. These types of friendships take a lot of effort and time to build, but its always worth it in the end.
Anyway, for the first time in a long while, I've found someone who I've been able to share a lot of personal issues with. I've known her for just under a year, but it was only recently that I realized what a great listener she is. I would really love to become closer friends with her. However, I have no idea how to accomplish this with her! There are a number of things that make it more difficult than normal:
1) I don't really have that many common interests with her (besides the generic movies, friends, etc.). We share a
common faith (I know her from church) but that's about it.
2) She has a lot of friends already, and is a very busy girl (especially with fulltime work).
3) I have no idea how she feels. We are friends for sure, but I don't know how comfortable she feels with sharing
stuff with me.
Taking all these factors into consideration, can anyone offer any advice on how to successfully build a close female friendship? I don't want to push it, but I'm afraid that if I don't do anything, our friendship won't grow at all. I feel so frustrated and pained, because she really is a fantastic person in every aspect.
Sorry for the ranting like a angsty youth (but that is what I am at times ), but any advice or pearls of wisdom from those of you with more experience with this kind of stuff would be much appreciated.
(Note: I am also female, so I'm not trying to court her or anything. I just want to get to know her better as a
friend).